i had a son 10 months ago an im so happy an love my son to bits, he has given me new life, but i cant bring myself to look at myself naked in the mirror, i put on weight to quick due to alot of water while pregnant an has resulted in masses of stretch marks an due to a c section i no have a hang over belly,if i cant bare to look or touch how can someone else, i hate going out with friends as im always the fat one, i cut down loads on eating but feel so tired to exercise,lack of sleep etc being a single parent.i really am happy an not typically being self pitying,it really is hard to accept that thats now me,im not particually vain but like to look nice. now i cant see myself being with another man,i use coco butter to help wit the marks but only so much can be done, will everyone else see me as ugly as i do?
2007-01-17 02:21:21 · 8 answers · asked by ace 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Other - Skin & Body
I think most women go through this same thing after they have a baby! Now I have had 2..I love my girls..I felt the same way! I am a recovering Anorexic...(from before I had my kids) So you can just assume the issues I have with weight! I read a really great book after my second baby called The Girlfriends Guide to Surviving the First Year of Motherhood..by Vicki Lovine Along with some great ideas for helping you through hard times that may occur with your son..It talks about weight loss and things to consider. Like how long it takes you to put on that weight..Is going to be how long it is before you can start to take it off!
Hun I hope that this helps! I think that if your way of thinking keeps up maybe you should talk to someone..Oh and I will tell ya that I have stretch marks from my first daughter..Then I got divorced and about 4 years ago remarried and my husband..Doesn't care at all...I was worried about it and always covered them up when I was naked..He tells me they just give me character..he says that shows that you have a story to tell.LOL Ya he is a good guy....And as time passes and you do lose weight those stretch marks will get much smaller..(Hey if they are still red or pink..You can go get some over the counter scar cream and that will help get rid of them or at least tone them down for you)
2007-01-17 06:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jesabel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about how you could fit in exercise into your daily routine. Little and often is good. Could you go for a 10 minute power walk every lunchtime (this is great, lots of fresh air, will revitalize you and bring you energy levels back up in the afternoon). Also, when you are with your baby could you put some music on, dance around with him/her. I used to do this with my son. Like the lady said before do 20 sit ups in the morning before you get started for the day (everyday). Also, I used to do a postnatal workout DVD. There are ones you can do with your baby (although at 16 months it may be a little to old now). Or there are DVDs that have just a 15 minute workout you could do. Do a search on Amazon or check out some in the article below.
2016-05-23 23:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with u. You can't expect to be wanted if u don't want yourself. loving someone starts with loving yourself first so work on worrying about your baby boy instead of what the outside world thinks of u. You matter to him most of all. Your always going to be beautiful to him no matter what. For the stretch mark comment I have a friend who has horrendous stretch marks everywhere. It is a creme called STRIVECTIN. It works wonders. It costs $135 but it is well worth it. Coco butter also works but it takes alot of time to see the effects of it. Either way you can't win or lose. We all have our hills to overcome and you will overcome this.
2007-01-17 03:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by nita23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That question almost sounds like something that I would have wrote. I had a son 1 year ago on the 25th. I feel like I fatter than when I was pregnant on bad days. On thing that I try to do everyday is say one nice thing about yourself big or small. It's really helping me. I have a really low self esteem.
2007-01-17 07:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by mcraefamily_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever see "Pay it Forward?"
You will be OK. Why don't you make sure your hormones are OK, etc? Your metabloism or something may be tired from pregnancy, and single motherhood does not give ou time to recuperate, you know?
And yes, someone will love you for you.
I used to feel that way about even more personal scars from my childbearing years... It's gross, but it's personal, you know? and that doesn't stop anything, either!
2007-01-17 02:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too hard on yourself but cut back on fatty foods and try to exercise and use cocco butter for the stretch marks and in no time you will began to feel better about your self.
2007-01-17 02:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shopuld be happy that the baby is not dead but yeah if ur so worried how u weight try exercising u know those big balls u could exercise do cruches on those!!! like start lil by lil!!!! and tryingf walking and if u see any progress try running 4laps 3-4 days a week!!!!
2007-01-17 03:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a baby makes you beutiful and strong not ugly
2007-01-17 02:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by rudyspuddin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋