I asked him who he was talking to and he yelled NO ONE!!! He refused to talk to me the rest of the night after telling me I was insecure and do not trust him.. later my daughter told me she saw him talking on the phone.....what is up with that?
2007-01-17 02:18:15 · 26 answers · asked by Lisa C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I wasn't there & didn't hear how it was said so it could be one of two things... either he's cheating and that's why he got angry... or he's just very insecure and even though it was an innocent call he thought you were accusing him... being insecure can make someone defensive over nothing.
I don't think it's strange or suspicious behavior to ask someone 'who was that?', it's just showing an interest... I almost always ask if my mom gets a call when I'm there, also with friends... it's only curiosity & interest because we have many friends in common, I like to know how they're doing too. I've never had anyone snap at me it's no one or none of my business, if it is a mutual friend we'll often chat about that & if it was someone I didn't know or even a salesman they'll just say so and then we go back to whatever we were talking about before the phone rang.... same as I do when someone asks me who was on the phone, I wouldn't think anything of it, have no reason not to tell.
2007-01-17 02:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't draw a conclusion from what happened. Back off of being insecure in front of him and just watch if there are any other signs of someone else. It's quite possible that your a jealous person and he's tired of having to answer to you. Everyone needs some space. On the other hand something else could be going on but if you keep questioning him you will drive him away further whether or not something is happening. Be cool and wait to make a decision you may not be thinking clearly right now.
2007-01-17 02:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging by his reaction, one of two things is going on.
One is that IF you are very clingy, insecure, and nag him every time he does something, he is naturally going to be frustrated and angered every time you question every little thing he is doing. So evaluate yourself and decide whether or not you do this. If you have security problems, and they are not based on real problems in your relationship, then get some help and work on being more confident and secure in yourself. Couples counseling might help, too, as your insecurity may be the result of problems in your relationship.
Two is that he is talking to his girlfriend (or doing something illegal). It was New Year's Eve. If he had a girlfriend, wouldn't he want to wish her a Happy New Year? It is VERY common that someone will get angry and turn it back on YOU when THEY are doing something wrong. It is a defense mechanism that reflects their guilt back onto you, so that you are too busy worrying about what YOU did wrong (which was NOTHING), instead of finding out what HE is doing wrong.
It is definitely possible for it to be both, one and two. Evaluate your relationship. Talk to your friends and family about it. See if you can find other signs that he is cheating on you. If he is, it is time to put a stop to it, either through marriage counseling or by contacting an attorney. Even if he is not, perhaps you two need to work on your relationship. Feelings of insecurity do not develop in a vaccum. If he is totally innocent and you think it is just you, then maybe you need to get some counseling for yourself to work through your problems. It really does help! Good luck!
2007-01-17 02:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest some form of reverse psychology. dont ask him or nag him when he's on the phone. If he noticed you're not your usual self (like, you stopped asking him endlessly, you say 'sorry' when he's in the middle of a phone conversation and you want to ask him questions, etc) he may treat you with respect and not yell at you anymore. Or better yet, say 'sorry' you asked who he's talking with. Dont jump into conclusion and dont look at his phone bills to know who he's talking with all the time. It would show you're insecure and you're intruding into his privacy which I think will make him fall out of love with you. Remember, men loves to do the chasing. So when you feel the urge to ask or pry..dont!! Let him wonder why you're not interested with his affairs anymore (even though you are). Dont show any tinge of jealousy, go on with your life, and show him your world do not revolve around him anymore. Let him chase you and woo you again.
2007-01-17 02:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ninih 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not sit down when you both are calm and have a heart to heart about the reasons he feels you are insecure and do not trust him.
Remind him who you are and that it isn't right that he behaved the way he did and you deserve honesty and respect as his girlfriend. Stay calm, don't cry or raise your voice when he answers truthfully and you do not like it. If you want honesty, you have to allow him to express himself comfortably. If he tells you there is someone else. Then it's time to gather your good friends around you for support. If he denies there is someone, step back and let the relationship relax.
2007-01-17 02:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by Zenawoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could have very well been recieving bad news on the phone. Most people if it's not a pleasant phone call they would prefer not to say who it is or even be around anyone. Are you sure that you had only asked him or did you hound him about who he was on the phone with.
2007-01-17 02:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by ag2588101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea he definatly is hiding something. It doesn't matter if he thinks you were being insecure becaue you are dating you two are suppose to share everything with each other and if he can't then he's not beign honest with you and that's when you should know that somethings up. Try talking about it again with him tell him u are worried you are slowly growing apart. Maybe it'll help. good luck!
2007-01-17 02:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by That girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have gone outside to talk if it was noisy inside, but if he was that upset when you asked him, that part is suspicious. If you do feel that insecure with him, he must be the wrong person for you for that reason and for the way he acted when you asked him about it.
2007-01-17 02:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe wishing someone close a New year. Quit being so nosy, it was too loud likely inside. Most men do not like insecure women
2007-01-17 02:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by daanzig 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possible cheater here. Sorry to say. Getting angry with you and making you look to be the crazy one allows him to justify to himself what he's doing and puts you on the defensive. Check his cell phone bill for strange numbers, page some of them and see who answers.
2007-01-17 02:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋