Why does my mom hate me?

Question

One day i was talking to my mom and she slapped me. I started to cry and she slapped me again. then she hit me with a vase and broke my nose. What should I do?

Answer 1

You need to talk to another adult about this immediately. Your mother doesn't hate you - she needs help.

Talk to your school counselor, a teacher, or even call the police if you have to.

Don't ignore this.

Answer 2

James, there are always 2 sides to every story! You said you were just talking to her, well, were you talking trash to her, being a little prick? My son did that when he was 16 he stood 6 foot tall and thought he could run over me and talk to me like dirt, just because he did not like the rules. He told me he would knock the hell out of me one day, I just picked up a lamp and knocked the living SH_T out of him! I told him he may be bigger, but I would find an equilizer...as long as he lived in my home he would respect me and my rules, otherwise hit the door! Guess what, today he is 34 and still laughs about his mother beating him with a lamp! He is a very well adjusted, hard working, sucessful young man, with a son 10 years old that gives him hell everyonce in a while, I told him, get the lamp out son, it will make a believer out of him! ha
If she is just being abusive for no reason, go to a teacher or family member for help.

Answer 3

If you are serious you should probably tell someone who can help you. Tell a teacher you trust not to talk to your mother, or tell a counselor at school. The police can only do so much and I think that counselors would be much more help in this type of situation.....but whatever you do you need to get out of it. It sounds like you mom has some unresolved issues, and they probably don't have anything to do with you, you just happen to be there when she gets angry. I hope your situation gets better, and I will pray for you.

Answer 4

She's got no right to break your nose. If she's being physically abusive, then you need to talk to a counsellor at school about what to do.

My mom is crazy. I'm in my 30's now, but I still remember what it was like coming home from school - she'd still be in her nightgown - and as soon as I walked in the door, she'd be on me - yelling, screaming - finding a way to blame me for how miserable she was.

Once I got out of the house, I realized that she's crazy - she's a broken, flawed, sorry little person. I wasn't me - I didn't deserve the stuff she put me through, and that she's sick - mentally ill.

My mom never physically hurt me - she was always attacking my self esteem, and my ambition, and my feelings. If your mom is physically abusing you, then you need to get help. You can live through the emotional abuse, but if it is physical, you might not live through it. Just remember it's not your fault - it sounds like she's sick, like my mom. One day you'll be out of there, and it'll be up to you to figure out what kind of person you are going to be.

I now have kids and make very sure that I'm not like her at all. I broke the cycle, and you can too. Be strong, and realize it's OK to get help. My highschool guidance counsellor was a huge help to me. Just to have an adult to talk to and get a fresh mature perspective was huge for me.

Good luck, and God Bless you.

Answer 5

First were you just talking and not touching her physically in any way, if so then she has gone to far, does you father or any other family member know, if their is some one to tell tell them, if not you need to talk to a consuler at your school, your mom needs help to learn to control her anger, she doesnt hate you, but because she is probably having problems of her own, you are the nearest and easiest to take them out on, you could try sitting down and talking to her about it, but if that doesnt work please contact someone so that she can get the help she needs

Answer 6

I'm sure she does not hate you. It would take something very horrible to make a mother hate their own child. She may have trouble controlling her anger. Maybe she has other emotional problems as well. She may be unhappy with herself and takes it out on you. It sounds like your mom needs help and the first step to helping her would be telling an adult you trust, like a police officer, doctor, or teacher. They will know what to do.

Answer 7

Why did she slap u? Thats not cool, dude... Maybe you need to address it to her, and tell her how you feel, I am sure you have. Maybe you should discuss it with another family mamber, like your dad, and see what they say. Also maybe you could talk to your guidance counselor at school, if you are still in school, they should be able to help you ..... Good luck.....

Also, did you ever think that maybe it was the tone in your voice that made her do it?

There is always three sides to the story, yours theirs and the truth....

Answer 8

Depending on your age, you should contact CPS (Child Protective Services). Regardless of what you did (if you're guilty of anything), you didn't deserve that abuse. Clearly, your mother has a problem. It's is best for you to report the abuse and get out of that house. Maybe, you could stay with relatives or a close friend. Whatever you do, please tell someone what happened. I wish you luck.

Answer 9

I'm sorry James, I don't know maybe you should speak to your school guidance counsler or the social services. My mother did the same things to me, I'm 42 and she still seems to dislike me. I left home early and made bad decisions, I felt so alone with noone to guide me and I didn't know how to behave normally. I thought that violence was normal. You need to find someone you can trust to help you. I will pray for you. She is hurting you more than just physically.

Answer 10

No one should have to put up with abuse. You should talk to someone, a teacher, police, family member, someone you trust. Even if you were being a brat at the time you were talking to her (which I think there is a chance you were) it doesn't call for violence. She is an adult and should be able to control herself. She needs anger management and tools to be able to defuse a heated situation.

Answer 11

wow.......ask yourself have you done anything disrespectful to her? Bottom line is .... she should use a better form of discipline... Is your Dad in the picture? If so, have a serious talk with him, unless he agrees with your mom..
Next I would go to my mom (when she's in a good mood) without attacking, blaming, etc.. her and stress that you disagree with her techniques on disciplining..
If you find that you didn't get a positive response... I would go to a family member whom I could trust and discuss it..
I am sorry this happened to you..
I don't think your mom hates you ..she just might be preoccupied with herself, troubles, etc.. Has your mom always been this way? She needs to get some counseling....