My best friend has a gf,but he prefers speding time with me.He is always telling me how amazing I am, and asking me for hugs and cuddles and making innuendo type jokes towards me. He'll lean towards me and gaze at me with a big smile, not saying anything. It makes me feel weird, because he has a gf. He always seems to want to touch my hands or shoulders, and every time he gets drunk he says "I want to marry you." I can't tell if this is normal male behaviour towards female friends, or if it means something else.I've been secretly in love with him for ages,so maybe that blurs my perspective.But someone tell me:do men behave this way around women they only view as friends?
2007-01-17 02:13:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he just REALLY loves you as a friend and appreciates your friendship. It does seem bizarre that he would go to such lengths to assure of this, though. I mean, does he act that way around his male best friends? I'm guessing not. In which case, he behaves that way around only you because you're female, and there is probably a sexual element to it. If anything has ever happened between you in the past, or if he's guessed that you have feelings for him (these things can be more obvious than we think they are!) then he should have factored that in to the way he treats you. It does sound like he has some feelings for you, and I'm sure any outsider looking at this behaviour would assume he did. The thing is, you can only really tell for sure yourself. Perhaps now that he has a gf, he feels secure with her and in a way 'protected' from your taking his flirtatious behaviour to heart. maybe when she's not around, he transfers his need for physical affection onto you. I think you should ask yourself whether he'd be comfortable with his gf knowing or seing his behaviour towards you.How does he act when you're all together? My guess is he won't act the same towards you, and that shows that in some way, he knows his behaviour is inappropriate. That's when flirting isn't innocent. Try to subtly let him know how you feel, even if it's by stopping his flirting, and saying, "Look, this isn't fair on....(gf's name) or me." That way you respect his gf and let him know how you feel. What he decides then is up to him. Good luck!
2007-01-18 23:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by Katrina W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some human beings view guffawing, smiling and joking as being flirtatious. In that experience, i think of it is harmless, yet returned, it incredibly relies upon on the variety you're going it. in any different case, I agree that flirtation is in basic terms a thank you to get interest or provide somebody "specific" interest. i do no longer like it, and neither does my husband...and have self assurance me, my hubby became into an somewhat huge flirt beforehand we've been given jointly. it is area of his character, yet he manages to stay clear of it considering the fact that we've been married using fact he's accustomed to it is disrespectful in the direction of me and he does no longer choose me doing the comparable.
2017-01-01 03:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flirting is innocent when both parties know it is innocent... you are not feeling comfortable with what your friend is doing and saying, so it is no longer innocent. You should let him know how you feel because he may have those same feelings... if a guy has a girlfriend and is spending more time with you then i'd say your in with a chance because its not normal behavior... if he doesn't have the same feelings then you can just let him know you don't feel comfortable with what he is doing with you... good luck :)
2007-01-17 02:24:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all when you can talk to him while he is sober ask him if he really wants to be with his gf and if he hesitates tell him that he needs to talk to her and figure out what they can do to enhance their relationship.because in the long run even if he thinks he is being innocent his gf might look at it differently and next thing you kno you are fighting her cause she got the wrong interpertation of yall friend ship. MAKE SURE YOU ARE THERE TO MAKE SURE NOTHING GETS TWISTED.
2007-01-17 02:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men behalve this way around women they only view as friends when they want to dump one girl friend for another but this is the type of person who should be a friend and nothing more usuallly. If he dumps her for you, he will eventually dump you for someone else!!
2007-01-17 02:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it sounds like he has a girlfriend hes afraid to breakup with her and he would rather be with you than her,and no its not normal for a guy to act that way if he has a girl friend,the question is dose he know you have these feelings for him and if he dont thats probly why hes staying with the other girl! good luck
2007-01-17 02:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by getagrip_25301 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's interested, but don't get too excited- if this guy can make passes at you while he has a girlfriend, then he could certainly make passes at othwers if he were with you. Try never to be alone with him.
2007-01-17 02:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a druken mouth speaks a sober mind...
he clearly loves you, his gf may just be a front to hide how he feels for you by making himself unattainable...
maybe one day when he is drunk tell him how you feel...that way you may speak you mind without Scaring him however, i assume that you respect his relationship...so just keep being a good friend, one day
he will submit to you...
2007-01-17 02:24:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you see the move "the holiday" from kate winslet. he tries to smooth talk u when you are not around or he needs your help. but he is dating someone else. you deserve bette life, and cut him off. he is running game on you, and you don't need him to make your life misable.
i wish you to meet someone nice and be happy without confusion!
2007-01-17 02:23:02 · answer #9 · answered by Tracy But 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is always innocent until the other party says ok.
2007-01-17 02:17:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋