Now, he wants to get back together, should I take him back, I do still love him.
2007-01-17 02:08:10 · 20 answers · asked by ebo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends whether you trust him not to change his mind again. What did he discover while you were apart - did he attain his goals? Why did he want to be apart from you then, and what has changed since? If you can ask him to answer some of these questions, you'll understand his reasons and motives better, and will be able to make an informed decision.
How did you feel while you were apart? Did you miss him or did you enjoy having renewed freedom? I think you need to have a serious discussion regarding the future of your relationship - what you would each like to gain and what you feel you have to give in the way of effort and time... if he shies away from a talk like this, you'll know that he's just in it for convenience...
Good luck!
2007-01-17 02:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soul searching? Are you kidding me? That's a pretty lame excuse. "Soul searching" usually means, "There's someone else I'm interested in, and I want to see if she'll go for me. If not, I'll come back to you." Sorry, but that's the way it is. (That's not exactly an excuse I have a lot of respect for. Think about it. Just what does "soul searching" mean, EXACTLY. It makes no sense.)
Anyway, you need to try to judge whether or not you think this guy really loves YOU. I can't say simply based on what you've told us, but someone who breaks up with you using the stupid "soul searching" excuse doesn't seem to be someone who cares a lot about you.
2007-01-17 10:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if u love him u should. If he truly did soul search, and didn't use the time to date others like some people do then that means that he just took a step back and really thought what he wanted out of life and for his future and he obviously is ready for a future with u.
2007-01-17 10:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask him what he found in his soul when he searched it.
If his answer is something along the lines of - "I realized that I'm happy with you. We are very compatible and I want to continue to explore what our lives would be like if we spend them together - and I can't do that without you." Then - I'd keep him.
If his answer is something like - "Uh, I don't know - I just know I missed you." - Dump him.
A man who is able to communicate his thoughts and feelings is what you want. AND - if this guy said he was going to do "soul searching" - then he definitely should be able to talk to you about what he found. Otherwise "I need to do some soul searching" - probably meant that he was confused (and still is) - or there was some other girl he was interested in and it didn't work out.
Good luck!
2007-01-17 10:17:24 · answer #4 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love him and feel good about the relationship and where it is going, then yes take him back. It sounds like he did the right thing by taking time out to get his head straight. Now, I bet he will be ready to give more in the relationship. I think you should feel good about it. Give it another try, unless your feelings for him have changed. You know him, his personality and how he treats you , so only you can make this decision.
2007-01-17 10:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't what did he find.. I think the "soul Searching" was looking for something else better to work out and it didn't so comes back to you. Trust me I went through the same thing and later figured out he had another gal... move on as hard as it might be.
2007-01-17 11:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
soul searching? or just to mess around for a while? guys make up these weird excuses to break it off then realize that life isnt any better without them. i dont know what you should do because regardless of what any of us say you will do what your heart feels you should do. if you do get back together with him ask him if he is done soul searching. sounds to me like he was maybe looking for his soul mate. i dont know good luck let your heart decide.
2007-01-17 10:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by malibu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you still love him and have feelings for him, then the first thing you should do is discuss with him what he accomplished within himself during the break. Be certain that he is ready and he has fulfilled what he needed to so now he can focus on you and your relationship. If he cant assure you of this, then he probably needs some more time.
*Best wishes*
2007-01-17 10:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by Elley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he had to go and sow his seed. Leave him alone and find yourself someone that wants to be with you. He should have done his soul searching before he got involved. I honestly don't think that he was searching for anything but another woman. He just didn't want to think of it as cheating, but that is eactly what it was.
2007-01-17 10:11:53 · answer #9 · answered by protruckdriver71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you say you still love him, then you should give him a chance. you can't find real love easily, and he can have 1 more chance and the last chance. you may not able to gorgive him very soon, but you can because you love him. if you still love him and trust him, then you shoudl forgive and forget the past. if you can't trust him anymore, then you can't take him back because you set yourself up to get hurt again.
go with your guts feelings, and try your best shot. if you fail, you learn. if you win, you win back your heart and loveone.
good luck!
2007-01-17 10:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by Tracy But 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋