How long does the anxiety last usually? What can I do to make her feel better?
2007-01-17 02:03:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This is pretty common for babies her age. She is learning that things are no longer "out of sight, out of mind". It is a natural stage many babies go through. All children are different and it will be hard to estimate how long it will last for her. For some little ones it is brief, others struggle with it for a while and get over it. Some babies get it again when they are a little older. The best thing you can do for her is to stay positive and upbeat whenever you have to be apart from her. If you show any signs yourself of being upset, sad, or worried, that will make it confusing and more difficult for her. You will likely not be able to make her feel better, but you can set the stage for whomever is caring for her to help her through this time. When you leave her with someone else. Put a big smile on your face and tell her that she is going to stay with_______ for a little while. Give her a big hug and a kiss. Tell her that you love her and you will be back soon. Hand her over to who will be caring for her. Then leave! Do not go back "just to check on her" or for "just one more hug and kiss". If she is staying with someone you know well and trust, also trust that person to give your daughter the soothing she needs after you leave. It is MUCH harder on the child and the caregiver to have you popping in and out. When you return, give her another big hug and kiss and tell her, "mommy came back". Make this a consistent routine and she will get through this period of her life well. Do not take it personally if when you return she gives you a little cold shoulder and doesn't seem near as excited about your return as you thought based on the fit she threw when you left.
2007-01-17 02:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They usually only cry when you leave. They usually get better when they have an activity to focus on.
Here are a couple of ideas....
1. Before you leave, have whoever you are leaving her with immediately engage her in an activity. This can be an art project, it can be helping out with a chore..whatever. It redirects them.
2. Your daughter may be a little young for this one, but you give them something of yours and ask them if they could do you a favor and hold it for you and make sure to give it back to you at the end of the day. Then the child has a job - they take things like this very seriously and the object will remind them of you.
You need to make a quick clean brake and not get emotional before you leave. They sense you are upset and this makes them upset.
2007-01-17 02:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by BAM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww, that's harder on you than her. The anxiety won't last long, I bet not even 5 minutes after you leave her she stops crying. I'm not sure if she is in daycare or with a babysitter but before you leave do you kisses and hugs, tell her you love her, AND tell her you'll be back. The crying will pass, I promise :) Good luck
2007-01-17 02:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by irlefw 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The Clingy phase..it will pass..how long it will take depends on the child but usually when they start walking or tottling about it seems to fade out. I found a walker helped move them along, gets them to explore a little and the baby can follow you about a little too.
Try to socialize her a little more, let her go to other friends and be held, I know it's tough to get them to sit on someone elses lap...my boys all went through this, and would only go to my mom or a few of my girlfriends for a second then would want to be back with me. It's hard when they cry and hold out their arms to you..just have patience and be loving..kisses and hugs and do pick them up and take them back, I found it to tramatic to take a tough love stance, and it's not needed..as I use to say..he is only a baby, don't expect them to be adults...it will fade away and then you'll be bummed out..cause it will be the first day of school and she will push you away and want you to go home! Only one of my boys wanted Mommie to stay...Take Care..and your baby is normal and fine...and you'll be okay too.
2007-01-17 02:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by facefind 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a special blanket or something that smells like you? Sounds odd but kids tend to feel more at ease away from mom when they have something with her scent. If not, buy a blanket or doll and keep it around you, like lay it on you when you're relaxing or sleep with it for a couple days and let it absorb your scent. Don't wash it, then when she is away from you she will know you're close by.
2007-01-17 02:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is going through this. I try not to let him see me leave. I would snuggle him and say goodbye, then stand there as my husband or his sitter took him and made him laugh or played with him. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I think the only thing we can do is wait until they figure out object permanence.
2007-01-17 02:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u can't do anything to make her feel better. this is a stage it could end tommorow or at 4 years old. don't sneak out the door and don't linger after u tell her u r leaving.
2007-01-17 02:09:45 · answer #7 · answered by Miki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that? It's hard being a woman when you're pregnant. We feel fat, and not attractive at all. I would suggest telling her how pretty she is, and how much she means to you. Do things for her. Remember when you two first got together, the flowers, cards, special things? Pregnant woman going through anxiety need those things again. They need to feel loved and worth something. Good luck and i wish you the best!!!
2007-01-17 02:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋