should i ask him how many people he has slept with?

Question

i really like this guy... but i know his number will be big and mine is only two... its intimidating and i dont know if i should ask... but i think it matters... does it?

Answer 1

Questions not to ask the guy you like!!!!!!!!!!! NOW LISTEN!!!!!
Never ask him "How many people have you slept with"
Never ask him "How much money do you have." ETC questions like these are personal and will come out on it's own time as the relationship progresses. Keep your questions lite for now and don't put pressure on him to answer questions that he may not feel ready to answer yet. If you do this he will feel cornered and lie to get out of those questions. Lying at the start of a relationship is not a good foundation to start with. GOT IT. You should not feel insecure about how many women he has slept with. Never compare yourself to someone else, you are who you are and he will love you for that. Breathe take it one step at a time and have fun.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

Why does it matter? What can it change? It will only cause an un-needed argument. If you want to ask anything, ask if he has been tested for STD's, HIV? Does he use protection, should you keep a stock or should he? Ask he his wants your relationship to be open, where you can see others or is it just the two of you? Those are the questions that matter. Put stock in what matter, even a person who has 100 lovers is not that experienced, it depends on what the two of you do and how you do it that excites you. A mature person would ask what the number is.

Answer 3

I think what matters most is not his # of partners, but how well he would treat YOU if you end up together. Another thing that is important is not how many partners he’s had, but how “clean” he is. If it came time for you to get intimate together you want to make sure and protect you own health and that he can’t pass you and STD. Even if a guy has been with tons of women in the past, I think if he is clear of STD’s and if he is able to treat you wonderfully and be FAITHFUL to you, his number should not stop you if you think he is the right guy for you.

So, if you want to ask him the number that is fine, but be prepared that you may not like what you hear. You may wonder if he's being totally honest, but in case he's being sincere, I wouldn't recomend giving him a hard time. One more thing, no matter how many partners he says he's had I suggest waiting until you're 100% comfortable with him and find that you can trust him before sleeping with him, just to play it safe.

Answer 4

First, you can't change your history or his. If you ask him, and he tells you how many partners he's had, will that determine whether or not you'll sleep with him?

What you should ask is if he's had any STDs and when he was last tested for everything, including AIDS. If he has an issue answering that question and providing you with proof, then walk. If he's just someone you're dating casually, he's not worth sleeping with. If he's someone with whom you're starting a relationship, he'll have no problem with discussing your concerns with you and he won't make your inexperience an issue.

Don't be intimidated; don't let anyone make you feel badly because you haven't had a number of partners. Consider that having a large number of partners isn't particularly attractive- either his previous partners were OK with giving it up so easily or he wasn't choosy about who he was sleeping with.

And, you don't have to sleep with him now or at all. That's still your decision.

Answer 5

NEVER! If you like someone and are hoping for something a little more than a friendship, the past does not matter, nor does it ever. and it also doesnt matter that you have only been with two others. That just goes to show that you have alot more self respect than most females these days and cherish your body. When you find the guy you want to be with, sharing yourself will be just that more special. And so what if he has more experience, thats not always a good thing. Id let it go, dont even let it bother you.

Answer 6

No, don`t ask. The only reason to ask is the risk of STD´s. If you are taking precautions, a condom, for instance, then you have nothing to worry about. If the relationship gets serious have tests done for STD´s instead of asking for the numbers, it´s better, safer, more trustworthy.
Besides, "they", really don`t want to know how many guys YOU have slept with. To him, TWO is a lot. Just the male brain.

Answer 7

If it's important to you, well than it's important. Be considered though on how and when you ask. Especially when the feelings are mutual, and you end up sleeping with him and having sex, you don't want any STD's do you. If he likes you, he'll be concerned about the health of you both and gets tested.
Getting tested seems more important to me and knowing he has a blank medical slate, than knowing the number, because will that make it better for you knowing.

Answer 8

It matters if YOU PLAN ON HAVING SEX WITH HIM. First of all... YOU already know the number is high, so ALWAYS USE PROTECTION. You dont wanna catch anything.
Secondly- Dont dwell on it. Many guys have had MANY partners.... But dont give in to him right away... thats how he got that high number. Make him chase you for a while, he will have more respect for you and will want you more.

Answer 9

No - it doesn't matter - and why ask something if you think you already know the answer? Whether it's 2 or 20 - will it change anything in your relationship? If they are in the past and not now - it's not important.

Answer 10

FOR SURE! You have a right to know how many people he's been with! You NEED to know someone's sexual past. You have to know what you're getting into. Be careful though! He might have an STD and you won't know until it's too late! Better be safe than sorry!