I cant win for losing!!! I must be really friggin ugly, or is because im divorced and have three children. Heres the thing they do not live with me, im 34 and im starting to wonder if its me or if women are just not into a 30's something divorced dad of three!!! is the world just that vain?
2007-01-17 01:52:55 · 10 answers · asked by manncat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its been three years since my divorce and have dated and went out all the time got a profile om match.com yahoo personals also
2007-01-17 01:57:41 · update #1
Wow are you bitter. My wife was 40 with three kids living with her when we got married (been married 13 years). If you go into a dating situation with that attitude you will lose everytime. When you go on a date ask polite questions about her and when she asks ab out you tewll her the truth. You will lose a lot of potential women that way - the wrong ones. The right one may have anxities but if she cares about you she will stay.
2007-01-17 01:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age isn't the reason. You being divorced, is a depending situation. I am married, but my friend just broke up with a divorce father of 3 and she has 3 herself. I think that having the kids, is requesting something from your new girlfriend, because if they live with you, they'll be around her everyday too, she has to share you, even if they live with their mother, every other weekend the kids will be there. I think if you want a girl w/out kids, she is stepping into a world she isn't used to and if she wants you, she is getting a package deal here.My friend broke up with him, because he had hardly any time for her. He had a full time job and having 3 kids, so
he had to find some space in there to be with her too. You don't want the kids to be around all the time, you need time together and especially in the beginning, you need to convince that woman that your ex wife ain't a treat. Important is to win her heart and that requires a lot of work and convincing. Tell her the real story behind your divorce too, both sides of the story are important and work on it so it will last this time. Be open and honest about having kids and
just do the same thing as when you were on the hunt the first time.
You are still a person worth to be loved by a woman, right. So don't drop to low self-esteem, believe in yourself.
2007-01-17 10:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The secret is not to look, it will find you when you least expect it. I don't think your kids have anything to do with it. I have one 11 year old, my husband has 1 girl age 17, 2nd girl 22, and boy 24. We found each other 3.5 years ago, and very much in love and married. As for the ugly part, sounds like you need some confidence in yourself. There is someone for everyone. I'm 34, my husband is 44. So age is certainly no factor. I think you are getting worried for nothing. Just go have fun, be yourself, it will reward you in the long run when you do meet the right girl. Good luck :-)
2007-01-17 10:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mother of One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For goodness sakes don't tell them, "I'm divorce and have 3 children". That's none of their business until the relationship progresses. You may not be an ugly guy, probably not, but your past is ugly to them so get to know them first before telling them that. That is ugly to them because the first thing they think about is sharing time with your children and your Ex-wife. THAT'S UGLY!
2007-01-17 10:02:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yahoo personals should help. Get one of your girlfriends to write your bio and, please don`t take the photo yourself in a "wife beater" shirt. Always terrible.
There was a study that said that women are easy to meet in grocery stores on Thursdays. You might try asking a female shopper for help in the store and chat her up, she`s probably shopping for her family too. Oh, look for the absence of that wedding ring first.
You probably have gal friends who are dying tl "fix you up", let them. A single man is always a GEM in a group of single women and if they aren´t interested themselves, I guarantee you they`ll probably have a girlfriend who just may be perfect.
Good luck!
2007-01-17 10:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Bern 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The secret to finding someone is to just be yourself. Dress nice and having manners never hurts. If a lady sees you are trying to hard she will just think you are desperate. Dont be afraid to climb out of your own skin every once in a while. Just dont overdue it
2007-01-17 09:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by inlovewithasoldier06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just havent found the right girl yet. Seriously.... there are alot of people out there willing to put their hearts out, you just have to find the right one. Its not hard to get a girl, but asking them out is the first step. Good luck
2007-01-17 09:57:32 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 40 and have had more than my share of dates. Just be out going and not shy.
If that doesn't work try on line dating.
2007-01-17 09:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by cowboybronco01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know what, you are negative, all you need to be positive and go out more often, go to the bar to meet more people in your age. once you know from there, and you will have the answer.
2007-01-17 09:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you just need to be patient
2007-01-17 09:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋