my boyfriend is always wanting to have sex but im just not ready,and everytime i tell him no he just gets more and more forceful,i really dont want to lose him because i love him but im not ready for that and he doesnt listen
2007-01-17 01:50:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hotpink, if you are not ready then do not let him pressure you into doing it. Just tell him "No". I know you don't want to lose him, but if he truly cared about you, then he wouldn't try to force you into doing something that he knows you are not ready for yet.
2007-01-17 01:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he is getting mad because you don't want to have sex with him, then I think it is time for you to move on. When a guy gets like that with a girl, then you know that it is definitely heading towards an abusive relationship. I would know because this is the exact thing that happened to me. I didn't give into his demands for sex, so I got raped.
So please consider this: When you and him got together, do you think he really meant it when he said he loved you? Or was he saying those word to lead up to this point, the demanding of sex?
Yes, you think that you love him, but you first have to look at whats in your best interest. I can guarantee you that he will keep demanding sex from you until you give in, or he will force it from you.
I urge you not to give in and perhaps leave the relationship. I would rather not see what happened to me happen to someone else. You think you love him and you may think that he may love you, but if he truly loved you then he wouldn't be trying to pressure you into having sex. So think about that and then I hope you make the best choice. Good luck.
2007-01-17 10:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by sk8rgurl_88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stand your ground with him and don't let him talk you into anything you are not ready for. If he cares about you at all, he will be willing to wait and will respect your decision. Always remember your right to say No, and listen to your self when he puts the pressure on. If he continues to pressure you, stand up for yourself and just tell him you are not going there and if he doesn't get it, then move on. You should be proud of yourself for standing up for yourself. You are being very smart.
2007-01-17 09:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think all your boyfriend wants is to sleep with you and dump you.DONT FALL FOR THE GIMMICKS!
how old are you any way?when i was younger they always said if a guy loves you, he will wait.thats still applicable.i dont believe in a guy that wants to sleep with you at all costs.no matter how much he says he loves you.he should have some self control otherwise i advice you dump him.he doesnt love you half as much as you love him.
watever you do , dont sleep with him.keep your self pride and dignity as a woman.it will make you more attractive later in life. trust me,i have been there
2007-01-17 09:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by beaume 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard, i know. This is not something you want to hear but don't give in. I was in the same situation when i was 16. If he does not want to wait trust me he is not the one for you. You will know when you are ready and wait till its with someone that is worth it. Someone that will not put pressure on you.
2007-01-17 10:00:36 · answer #5 · answered by rain9439 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't care about you or truly love you if he can't respect your wishes regarding sex. Obviously it's more important to him than you.
Don't ever let anyone force you into sex, that's called RAPE. Lose the guy, believe me, your self respect is worth more than he is.
2007-01-17 09:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Blue Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not care for you. All he wants is p u s s y, to be blunt. Dump the cretin like a hot potato 'cause he won't change and the abuse - and yes, the way he's treating you IS abuse - will only get worse. You deserve much, much better!
2007-01-17 10:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him its no or goodbye.
you dont say if it will be your first time but regardless if he is really worth sleeping with then he will wait for you.
if he wont wait then he is not worthy of you
good luck and don't give in there are plenty of loving men out there who will go at your speed because they really care - go find one if the pressure gets too much.
2007-01-17 10:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by happy girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first time can be wonderful and special (mine was with a much older guy who knew what he was doing), dunno how old u r or why you don't feel ready, maybe just stage fright? But if you honestly don't want to do it, don't let a fear of "losing him" make you do something you'll regret. and trust me... you will "lose" lots of bf's along the way. We all do. You be YOU and do what YOU feel is right!
2007-01-17 10:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say goodbye! u may love him but he doesnt love u. nobody, male or female, should pressure anybody to have sex. i bet that if u did sleep with him he would leave because he got what he wanted from u. what if u ended up pregnant. it happened to me. think about it!
ps, i DO love my son very much, its not his fault that his biological father is an ***.
2007-01-17 10:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by pswmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋