r we too young?

Question

My boyfriend and I want to get married we have a 16 mth old son together. Im 20 and hes 19. We are very much in love but r we too young?

Answer 1

Age is just a number sweetie. Marry him.

Answer 2

I think only you can make the decision whether or not you're too young. I was 19 when I was married. My husband was 25. But, we had been together for 5 years and he was in the military-- we were kind of forced to do the courthouse thing before our big, formal wedding.

Please keep in mind that with a 16 month old son, you are both adjusting to new roles in your life. That is, to mommy and daddy. Adding husband and wife into the mix may be a bit too much at this state. It may not be. Ultimately, you and your beloved know best.

Why not sit down and talk about it? What do you have to gain form being married? Is there any reason to rush it? Does she want to be married? If you're on the same page, then consider it. If not, wait awhile longer and then have another discussion. If that is the time, then go ahead and proceed.

Best wishes!

Answer 3

In my mind, age doesn't have anything to do with it, rather how mature one is.

Is the only reason you want to get married your son? If so, it's not a good reason to get married for.
If you love each other and plan to spend the rest of your lives together and all that mushy stuff, then I'd say go for it.

You will however most likely get tons of "Oh my, they are so young" comments.
I got that when I got married, I was 20 at the time and my husband 29.

Answer 4

This is my personal opinion...but yes, I feel as though you are too young. I know you have a child together, would you be marrying for the sake of your child or because you actually love each other?

I just feel like there is so much for you to experience in this world, to see and do. Don't settle down to young.

I know age is just a number, but every single one of my friends who were married at 19/20 are now divorced and regretted getting married so young.

Answer 5

Age is nothing but a number. You two do what YOU want to do. I got married when I was 18 years old, two months later I was pregnant, by 19 I had our son. A lot of people said we were stupid, too young, etc. We did not listen to them and followed our hearts which is exactly what you should do. Here we two children and seven years later and still going strong. We are still very much in love. So don't listen to what everyone says because everyone has an opinion, listen to what your heart says. Good luck!

Answer 6

You kind of put the cart before the horse you should of asked that question before you got the baby
I was married young it can work if you work at it and know it is not all being in love its being commited to each other through thick and thin, diapers and over- time and no money and eating beans 4 nights a week,bad breath and stinkie farts and wearing old clothes and the washiteria, well you get the picture
and knowing that being "IN LOVE" will come and go but loving each other is what counts and what you can count on
Good luck to the three of you and I wish you love

Answer 7

You don't say how long the two of you have been together, but in all honesty, no, you are not too young. You are both adults now and have a child together. Granted, the age for marriage these days seems to be a lot older, but that really doesn't mean anything in your case.

A word of advice, though.... make absolutely sure you are ready. If anything, have a long engagement, move in together, make sure you can stand each other on a day after day basis, lol. Good luck and congrats!

Answer 8

No, you arent too young. Yes, its ideal to wait a bit longer, but you already have a son together. I'm sure you would agree that life doesnt always go as planned or expected. Its a good idea to get married IF you are really in love, which you say you are.

Best of luck!

Answer 9

Age is a number, let it be. Now you really have to just think hard, if he's someone you want to spend your life with then go for it. But just make sure you can live your life together. Try living in the same household, just you and him and your son for a few years to just make sure. I'm sure the wait won't do any harm now will it? I know a friend who waited 8 years, living with the man and two of their kids before getting married and she's the happiest woman on the planet with her husband. Either way, good luck to you.

Answer 10

I don't think that you are too young...just make sure that is what you really want! Give yourself time to grow up and do fun things. Maybe get engaged first and wait a couple of years. That is what I did. I had a lot of questions in my heart, and I needed to know if it was right. We got married 3 years later. We are so happy and our love grows for each other every day.

Answer 11

I'm 19, my husband is 24. We have a 3 year old and a 4 month old. We got married while I was pregnant with the 4 mnth old....I don't think you are too young..as long as you do it for love..not for the kids.