My 4 year old son who I adopted from my husbands niece stays with his biological mothers mother who we tell him is is grandma. She raises her daughters daughter since she was 6 weeks old. She is 6 years old now. My son has been telling me that his sister has been kissing his peepee and he has been kissing her peepee. I asked the grandma about it and she says he is lying. She said he says that all day to get the girl in trouble. She even said he said it about me which is so untrue. When I asked him about it he said he was joking. When I asked if his sister was a joke he said no. She has done it in the past over a year ago. Do you think he is making it up and remembering along time ago? The grandma says there is no way because she has her eye on them all the time.
2007-01-17 01:48:52 · 10 answers · asked by maryrelaxing 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Could your 4-year old son be lying? Yes.
Are you willing to risk it? I certainly hope not. Take your son to his Pediatrician and tell the doctor what's been going on.
2007-01-17 01:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Children do not make things like this up out of the blue. If there is any truth to this then the 6 year old girl has been molested in order for her to be acting out that kind of behavior. Where would she get the idea to begin with? Not in any healthy way. She is too young to have come up with this on her own.
Both of the children need help but the only one that you have control over at this point is your son. Find the appropriate social service to address this issue. Probably a division of Child Protective Services, though you may need to start by talking to someone at the police department. Just tell them that you want to talk to somone about what is going on, they will direct you to the correct person.
Beleive me if you neglect to pursue this the ramifications could be terrible. This is a time to take action. It is actually a punishable crime to have knowledge of child abuse and not to do anything.
Lady T~
2007-01-17 02:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Trinity 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A touchy topic!!! No pun intended!!!! I rather believe than to not believe. I had a close friend of mind grow up in a situation that they were being molested by an older sibling. They told the mother but the mother, I guess brushed it under the carpet. The mother was a much older woman as well. My friend seemed fine while we were growing up together but now, much later in life, they are having issues involving trust.
Take the little boy aside talk with him about varies things then bring up that topic to him and ask him how it happens, is in play or done to him in anger. If he admits to it as a true situation then you need to have the little girl looked at. She may have been molested by someone herself.
2007-01-17 02:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by Dzyre 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take him away from the situation, maybe grandma or grandpa are encouraging the behavior fot their own twisted pleasure. Then put him into therapy. You should take it seriously a 4 year old is too young to make up that type of story unless there is some truth to it. Hell they may be taking pictures of it for the internet as well.
You should contact Child Protective Services to investigate. Now that you know this is going on (or even suspect it) you have a duty to protect these kids.
2007-01-17 01:57:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kdude 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Your life wasn't fair, but unfortunately life is often unfair. Look at it this way, you had a horrible childhood, but now you are in a relationship with someone who obviously loves you. You can't change what has happened to you in the past, but you can go into therapy and learn to let go of some of it, and learn ways to cope with the rest of it. You have some good things going on it your life now, so make the most of your opportunities. Sadly, many people with a background like you never get the chance to do that.
2016-05-23 23:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when a child expresses those experiences or thoughts to you, you simply need to take action. Do you want to doubt him & then regret it someday if you find out he was indeed telling the truth? Or do you want to be on the extra cacious side and never have another doubt in you mind?
Your first step should be to take him to a child psychologist. The doctor has special methods & techniques of finding out what's really underneath the surface. He may be able to tell if your child has experienced recent trauma or is recalling something from the past.
I hope for his sake & yours that nothing is going on but from experience I beg you to have him talk with someone. If something is going on its great that he can talk to you about it. If something is not then your child needs help understanding, good & bad, truth & lies.
Good Luck! ;-)
2007-01-17 01:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well heres the thing. you dont know, but you can certainly be safe. Here is a few things i wuld think i would do in the situation:
1. you are the mom....keep him away from 'grandma' or the sister for a while.
2. get him to see a counselor...they have a way making kids open up.
2007-01-17 01:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by klumzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the first thing I would do is take the kids to a child shrink, they are trained to deal with sexual problems of children. There could be more to the story than meets the eye. Kids do not make stuff up out of the air, they either see it, have it done to them. If they see it, that is on tv, movies or in real life, that is abuse in itself, the kids need help.....hurry do not delay in this! He could get you in some real trouble by making false accusations.
2007-01-17 01:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by Joyce D 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like there is some sexual abuse of a child going on somewhere. I highly suggest for the little girl to receive help. She has been or is being molested by someone and is acting it out on the little boy. They both need help now. This isn't a passing phase. Either way, you need to get to the bottom of this immediately. The rest of their lives could be affected by this.
2007-01-17 02:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Joking or not, take it to the police. If he really is lying or joking it'll scare the crap out of him and I bet he won't lie anymore if he is.
Take this serious. How hurt would you feel if you didn't do anything about it and it ended up being true??? Think about it.
2007-01-17 01:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋