I have been dating this wonderful guy for almost 5 months. He told me that he was the lucky one for having me in his life and I was quick to say no that I am cause he came into this relationship knowing that I already have 2 kids, and there has been some drama to that and he has stood by my side thru it all. But he is holding back on how he feels and when i ask him what it is he tells that he wants to show me. I dont push him or anything on him that he is not ready for. And he told me that girls should go first on saying how they feel. So do guys really like it when the girls tell them first how they feel cause I have always let the men to it first.
2007-01-17 01:44:12 · 15 answers · asked by katie7_6_2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no you should not be the first one to speak it's only 5 month give him little more time probably he's having some problems that's why he's not ready yet so if he really Love's you sooner or later he has to star talking about your relationship or hes just not ready for one . all you have to wait but not to long if he doesn't says anything then both of you sit down and talk about your relationship.
2007-01-17 02:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by taoly h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my man 6 months now and he has not said the 'L' word to me yet. he says I am very important to him, and that he cares very much for me, it does not bother me as I know when he finally says it I will know he means it 100% - it is what he does that means the most to me - actions speak louder then words!! I have told him a few times I love him, and he always responds in a positive way - if you do love him, tell him!! once he knows what you are feeling he may be ready to open up more - good luck
2007-01-17 01:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by happy girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you think you have to do to keep this relationship,it doesn't matter if you go first,let him know what you want and what you expect from him but don't be too persuasive,tell him how you feel about him,let your feelings and instinct guide you,communication is the key,guys like to hear good things from a girl too, so go for it girl...good luck.
2007-01-17 02:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not really a gender thing. Anyone like to know that whatever feelings they have are mutual without having to put themselves out there. I do think that its a bit immature to play some kind of "you say it first" chicken. Why not simply be the first to say whatever if he can't bring himself to do it. Everybody wins in the end.
2007-01-17 01:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys dont like to be vunrable and he obviously wants to be sure that you feel the same as he does and if he's stood with you through the dramma he sounds like a decent bloke tht reli likes you so make an effort for a dinner if u want it to be like tht or however you do it itll be special. xxxx Go first
2007-01-17 01:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by xx-JellyBaby-xx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if he's really been that great, then you owe it to him to "go first" if that's what he is asking for. It has nothing to do with if "Guys really like it when the girls tell them first" or not; it has everything to do with the two of you. Who cares about what other people do in this situation. If he's such a great guy, then do it for him.
2007-01-17 01:52:50 · answer #6 · answered by fruninto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with saying how you feel first because some guys have a hard time putting into words what they can by action instead.
2007-01-17 01:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matters but it sounds like it does to this guy. I would talk with him about it directly and not with asking how he feels. He may explain the situation. Or if you Love him say it and see what happens.
2007-01-17 01:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by Richard Bricker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first let me say that i am glad that he accepted you and your two kids.. he is a great man for doing that...i always believe in speaking whats on your mind......i think that men definelty likes to hear what females are thinking but just remember to just hold some information for yourself...basically dont tell everything...remember to let him know that you appreciate him always....and i really hope that everything works out for you and him..
2007-01-17 01:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been married for 8 months. and i have a son he is 4 years old, i meet mi new husband when my son was 1, and he was allways really good to express his feelings.. man are hard to understand we know that but , when they feel confortable.. they are going to open and let you know how they feel, they just need to know that you are going to support them and trust them allways and you are never going to make fun of the way they feel... is really easy for us the girls to said how we are feeling,,,, but they are different... they need to feel confort in a relation and they need to trust tthe person before.... i dont know if this help you at all .. i hope it does....
2007-01-17 01:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by linda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋