2007-01-17 01:39:54 · 52 answers · asked by mentlecase1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Neither. You should speak to your dad about it.
2007-01-17 01:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, what a mess, but first, you as a child can not force your dad to stop seeing his mistress! Get a grip. This may not be his first rodeo, and another thing, your mom may already know it! Most women are not ignorant when it comes to their husbands having affairs, it is like we have a 6th sense. Some just choose to ignore it and hope it will fade(as before?). You may just stir up a real hornets nest! The best thing you can say to your dad, is for the love of pete....wrap your meat! too many nasty STD out there today!
2007-01-17 02:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by Joyce D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents need to be responsible for their actions. Your Dad should take responsibility for his affair and putting you in the position you are in. Your Mum should take responsibility in that she needs to deal with her husband, not you.
Make sure that the advice that you get is good, from a professional or from someone who knows both your parents. I don't have the answer. I only encourage you to really take getting the right answer seriously. Every personality is different and one never knows what's going on between two married people, even the kids.
Tell both parents you love them and silently encourage them to deal with this on their own while you seek the answer.
Remember that no matter what happens, you are the innocent party here.
I'm sorry I cannot be more helpful. It wouldn't be right of me to tell you to talk to either of your parents not knowing their personalities...
2007-01-17 03:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by mickeymouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the hardest thing to handle! I think you should pray first about this situation and ask for guidance. Then I think you should meet your father in a private place where you can talk openly. Let him know how you feel, the place this puts you in. Not that it matters, but ask him why and how he could do this. I think your mother has a right to know that she her husband it laying up with someone else and then coming home to soil her bed with his dirt. But I also think that he should be the one to tell her. Of course she will be hurt, but she deserves to know the truth. I will pray for you, because this is such a heavy burden no matter what age you are, but I believe this is your test from life. Good luck to you in your future, and remember life isn't always this hard.
2007-01-17 02:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by notnew2U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really tough situation for you to be in and I feel for you. I don't think there is a right answer here but maybe you should talk to him about it and see if he will tell her himself. Just an idea, really does depend on what you feel is for the best.
I wish you all the best and hope that it all works out ok in the end for the good of the family - take care yeah
2007-01-17 01:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by Bumble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you know about it ,the ball will be in his court then ,he will either stop the affair or run off with it ,be strong ,but then again if your mum finds out you knew she will not be happy ,if your mum is a strong lady i would tell her if shes not tell him you know ,good luck.
2007-01-17 06:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, what you need to do is confront him about it. Tell him that he needs to talk to you mother about it or you will. Make sure that you sound sincere about it. And go through with it as well. Don't let him scare you away from it. ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER. Just telling him that if he doesn't stop that you are telling your mother ain't going to work because he will just figure out another way to do it and try to keep it more of a secret.
2007-01-17 02:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by protruckdriver71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you would be able to force him to stop. If you think your mum will believe you than i think you should tell her cause your dad is disrespecting her and if u dont tell her and she finds out you knew then you will look bad too and your mum will feel that no one is on her side.
2007-01-17 01:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's fit, blackmail them saying if you don't get a go, you're telling your mum.
If she's a dog, but your dad's rich - or his bit on the side is - blackmail him for the money
If they're skint and she's a dog, tell your mum - who wants a loser dad who can only get dog rough girfriends anyway? Your mum might get a new rich fellar who you can get to leave you loads of cash in the will...
2007-01-17 04:44:11 · answer #9 · answered by dr.twaticus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with CJ. When your mum finally finds out, she will feel betrayed, hurt, abandoned and if she knows that you knew she will feel doubly betrayed. If you tell your Dad you know, he may try to cover his tracks and portray you as a liar to save his own skin. Support your mum and tell her. It does not mean you don't love your Dad, you just disagree with his cheating. I really wish you all the very best.
2007-01-17 01:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by jan the gooner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how hurtful it is to find out that your father is cheating on your mother. You love them both and wish they could be together forever. I know you might also feel like your father is also cheating on you for doing something wrong that can divide your family, but I want you to think for a minute.... Your father is a grown man and you cannot force him to stop doing something just because you ask. You can talk with your father and offer your help if he feels he needs help to modify this behavior. If he thinks he does not need help and he is doing what he feels is best for him then ask him to discuss it with your mother and offer the same help to your mother.
2007-01-17 01:48:04 · answer #11 · answered by myOHmy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋