met this girl back in June. She had a BF. (now..dec 19th 06' has been with him a year) she stated he cheated when they first started but she trusts him now and said he hasnt done it since. Anyway. We connected in a flash..the same interests weird attitudes, and warm hearts. We started seeing eachother alot..led to kissing dinners and eventually intimacy. all this time he was away in costa rica she was here. she said when she goes back to school with him that she has to see her feelings. We ended up falling in love and told eachother.She told me in september that the right thing to do is stay with him cause she loves him to. from sept till now we still talk alot and when she comes home we meet up and hang out. she still feels the same and so do i and we've kissed and and still very close. SHe decided if we're to remain close to not act on our impulses. Cuz we mean alot to eachother. she made a promise if anything happens one day. we'll be together.
2007-01-17 01:34:03 · 7 answers · asked by V P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep in mind she made her decision already to stay with him cause she loves him aswell...
But we both cant let go of eachother..
2007-01-17 01:34:49 · update #1
what you both share is beautiful,and at least its 100% true and honest. even more so than most committed relationships. i think this is the way it will even stay beautiful. coz once you officially get into a relationship,then all the mess will come along with all the do s and don'ts. love is free !so unless its really hurting you or your considering her for marriage then it shouldn't be a problem.
2007-01-17 01:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all means that neither one of you is yet ready for any kind of serious long-term commitment. Her, clearly because she wants to hang on to both of you which is unfair to both. You, because you are perfectly comfortable with her cheating on the other guy, with you. I'd bet my bottom dollar she hasn't told him that she has another guy on a string.
I think she got with you in the first place because she wanted somebody else to play with while Guy #1 was away in Costa Rica. She wants to hang on to you in case he goes away again somewhere. You're being played, fellah, and you are helping her to play the other guy. If she did dump the other one or he dumped her, and she told you that the two of you were going to be together now, how would you be able to trust her not to go and find another "second fiddle" and play him too? If that possibility was a racehorse, I'd have a ton of money on it.
2007-01-17 09:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you are a side-peice. I'm not saying that she doesn't care about you, but as long as she spends most of her time with the other guy... You're going to be nothing but second fiddle and that's not true love.
2007-01-17 09:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by Your Maker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she's just stringing you on. she wants both of you. You should just find someone new. Still be her friend, but only her friend. if that's too hard for you, try giving each other some space, until you get over each other.
2007-01-17 09:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by Estelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a boy toy to her. If she's not willing to leave her current relationship for you then obviously she loves him more than she loves you.
Find yourself someone more available, why would you go for a girl that already has a boyfriend??? If she'd cheat on him, she'd cheat on YOU.
2007-01-17 09:39:01 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey guy. wake up and hear the birdies sing.
she is keeping you for a spare. if it fail withthe other guy she wants you for her play time , well probably until someone else comes along
2007-01-17 09:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve someone who is totally in to you and you alone. Do you really want another mans scraps?
2007-01-17 09:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by firefly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋