Ok so my ex and I broke up 2 months ago even after the breakup we still spent time together about 3 weeks ago she told me that she didnt want to be with me so I guess you can say we officially broke up then. I still talked to her in some way everyday. She left to go away to school Sunday its only about an hour from where I live. SHe has called me about four times since then and we tell eachother goodnight everynight. I miss her. I know that I need to get over her but its hard. I just want to have her in my life in some way even if it means that we will just be friends. I want to see her but things are so awakward. Should I tell her I miss her or just continue to have casual conversations. I really love this girl.
2007-01-17 01:31:52 · 10 answers · asked by ImOuThEreUdigg!! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You never know until you ask. Your gonna have 2 ask her does she miss you if not just continue the casual conversations don't put to much into it. I think she must miss you if she calls
2007-01-17 07:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by EAZY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was on her own for a couple of months and in the mean time between the guys that she is sleeping with and the guys that she is trying to get to chase her she feels lonely and low self esteem therefore she needs to build her self back up.
She needs a way to reinforce that someone still desperately wants her so she can have the confidence to continue to try to get the other guys to chase after her. You sir are her security blanket.
Don't be her security blanket she doesn't want to be with you and she will when you show her you value your self too much to be someone's security blanket and when she sees that other women want you for more than that as well! and then it will be to late for her!
2007-01-17 09:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continuing like this you are not going to get over it at all.
I lost my wife 4 years ago and I always have thoughts of her and you certainly will have thoughts they will always be with you.
you can be friends. but try to kep it just that way. will be best. who knows what the future holds. perhaps maybe the split was bad for awhile. Things could change in the future .
Keep it at a friendly pace and let time heal both of you. this is the best I can tell you.
2007-01-17 09:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't ready for a friendship with her right now. You need to cut off all contact with her for a while. Just tell her that you do want to have a friendship with her eventually, but right now it's too painful, and you need some time without speaking to her or seeing her. Speaking to her is just going to continue to torment you. You'll never get over her that way. It will probably take up to a year to get over her entirely, but take the time. You'll need it.
2007-01-17 09:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you get your Pontiac (I'm just guessing) and go see the girl. Its Okay to miss your ex its a part of life but a part of life also means moving on at some point because to be honest those phone calls are going to become less and less the more and more she gets to meet people.
2007-01-17 09:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by Sue Sue2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her how you feel. She obviously misses you too if she's still talking to you all the time although it might just be familiarity. Tell her how you feel and if she doesnt feel the same you can start to get over her. It sounds like you dont want to but if she doesnt feel the same you should try and get over her.
xxx
2007-01-17 09:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by xx-JellyBaby-xx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to be tough, but you need to cut all contact with her. She's stringing you along by keeping in touch with you. Don't call her and don't answer her calls. You can't be friends right now, maybe much later. I'm sorry, but it will get easier with time. Good Luck!
2007-01-17 09:37:11 · answer #7 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to let go. but all wounds heel in time. it takes awhile for your heart to heal. you need to tell her how you feel. tell that i stil want you to be apart of my life somehow. if that means we can only be friends or we can't see each other period. i don't think she wants to let you go. because she is still calling you. so just let her know what is up.
2007-01-17 09:40:10 · answer #8 · answered by Mz T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that you miss her, and that you respect her decision. Give her space, because if you don't, whatever little chances there are left for her to return to you or to be your friend will be lost.
2007-01-17 09:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a relationship is over you need to distance yourself bit by bit because if you dont you will get hurt some more,you have to think about moving on with your life without her
2007-01-17 09:37:11 · answer #10 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋