I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over 4 years now and for the past 2 years things haven't been good. He cheated on me with a girl who was 14 at the time and he was 18 just like me. Well after that she hasn't left him alone and he still talks to her and accepts letters from her and she is going around saying that her baby is his. Well I have tried to break up with him for the past year and he doesn't want to let go. When I say thats its over and I don't talk to him he will call constantly and when I unplug the phone he will show up at my door banging on it saying that its not over that he doesn' want to be with her and that he loves me and that the baby isn't his. I really don't want to be with him But I can't get him to see that. Lately he has been all over me and want leave me alon and when I told him I found someone else he got all mad and started to cry. What I don't get is if he is still talking to her and stuff then why does he want to still be with me? any advice?
2007-01-17 01:25:34 · 12 answers · asked by sweety_8620 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy is a perv. You ask why he wants to be with you and still have her on the side. Because you've allowed it and he wants it to continue! You're going to have to get a restraining order to make him leave you alone. He's a stalker and he's trying to force you back into a relationship with him. Change your phone number, let everyone you know that you're being stalked by him and not to give him any information, phone numbers, etc. about you. If he still shows up at your work or house, call the police and tell them you have a restraining order on him. Protect yourself now! Good Luck!
2007-01-17 01:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to get away from him you may have to take out a restraining order so he'll get a clue. Obviously if he was cheating on you with a 14 yr old he is VERY immature. I'm sure that this girl makes him feel adored and wanted and he gets off on the attention.
It doesn't sound as if you are really ready to let this guy go, even though you say you've found someone else. I would advise you to move on. This guy obviously has no respect or love for you.
2007-01-17 09:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by Blue Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first off he had sex with a child and is a creep. He is just running a game and frankly the baby is most likely his. Second of all you need to do is stop talking to him and if he comes over don't open the door. It really is that simple. If you don't want to be with someone stop giving them hope. every time you talk to him it gives him hope. Also after you stop seeing him, answering the door and taking his calls and he keeps try to get you. what you do is go to the police station and get a restraining order against him. Then when he call or comes by you call the cops. Let them deal with him and move on with your life. Cause do you really want to be with a man the sleeps with kids. Good Luck
2007-01-17 09:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by mrs. smutty aka sodachix 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell the moron it is over. When he crys hand him some tissue as you tell him goodbye. IF he calls tell him to stop or you will get a restraining order, if he shows up tell him to go home or you will call the police.
Better yet tell him that 18 have sex with 14 is against the law and that if he doesn't leave you be you will call the police and tell them about it. (You should do this anyway as it is a crime).
It is unfortunate that sometimes people cannot take the hint. When you want the relationship over and they won't stop you have to take drastic measures.
BTW - He is probably still trying to have sex or is still having sex with this girl he is enjoying having her and you.
2007-01-17 09:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by Richard Bricker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Danger Danger
GET OUT
If you live at home get your parents help. If you don't get a protection order. This guy is abusive, he at 18 should know better than to have sex with a 14 y/o girl. Do the girl's parents know she is pregnant? Or is she lieing to get you wound up. You could always tell her parents that you found out your Ex has been with her. Or you could tell him to leave you alone or your going to the cops. Be thankful your not the one that's pregnant. Their are to many good guys out there, you already know he is bad news. If he cheated on you once he's going to do it again.
2007-01-17 09:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs to be with someone that he knows wont treat him how he's treated you. I'm not saying go and cheat on him because two wrongs dont make a right but if you need to be free you have to be strong. 4 years is a long time and im sure you still love him but if you need a break to figure out what you want then take it. How does he know the baby isnt his? He ay not want to be with this girl but if she still likes him then he may be leading her on bcoz its nice to hear someone likes you but if you dont want him talking to her then explioan how you feel to him.
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2007-01-17 09:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by xx-JellyBaby-xx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want it to be over you need to be firm with him, end all communication, don't answererr you calls, if he comes over don't answere the door, if he still don't get the hint consider a restraining order
2007-01-17 09:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by cowgrl3611 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An 18-year-old father, who had a child when he was 16 and she was 14?
RUN, don't walk, away from this guy. Boyfriend? Honey, he will kill your future! Tell him to GET OUT and stay out.
2007-01-17 09:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by oaxaca_so_long 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, get away from him any way possible and never look back. He cheated once and he will do it again, plus he has some mental issues. Go find yourself someone more mature.
2007-01-17 09:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He only wants to be with you when you want to leave. Its human nature to want what we cant have. He knows he is losing you, so he wants you. You just have to STAND FIRM, Dont give in. This guy is playing you HARD, and its been working so far. DONT LET HIM DRAG YOU DOWN WITH HIM. Good luck
2007-01-17 09:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋