young, gifted, black woman who is very lonely. WHY?

Question

i have had relationships were im the provider. i still made them feel like they're the man of the house, even though it was my house. i've been supportive mentally, spiritually, financially and physically. i can't for the life of me figure out why they always leave for some bum chick. im 25 with no kids. i pay all my house and car bills my self. i cook and clean everyday. im not a real big bar hopper i go out maybe twice a month. and im not ugly i get fairly enough complimants. so would they rather be with chicks that got 3 kids and 3 baby daddys, or chicks that dont work and drink and club every night and just dont have anything going for themselves while good girls like me get played out

i have no problem dating out of my race. also contrary to my avtar i am a black woman. i tried to fix it but my computer wouldn't let me i already asked on here how to change it. it didn't work.

i have dated outside my race. i've dated a dominican, puerto rican, black, korean, guyanese, jamaican,haitian,and african i dont discriminate

Answer 1

maybe your about me on your profile might say something

Answer 2

I'm trying to get past the fact that your Avatar is a white boy. If in fact you are being truthful, your Mr. Right will come along someday.
added: Well in that case, maybe you're too kind. Guys tend to get bored when there is no challenge in the relationship. Not telling you to be rude, but don't be a pushover in your relationship either. Also, SOME men are intimidated by women who are independent. SOME men like girls who NEED them and you are obviously a strong young woman capable of doing things on her own. You were raised well honey. Someone will come along who will be capable of accepting you as you are without any hangups.

Answer 3

okay maybe you're boring. you can be a good girl but are you extremely boring? that drives guys away. are you a doormat? it sounds like it. why would you waste your time supporting a man? i thought relationships that were meant to last were based on a 50/50 effort in all aspects. guess not.. you sound like the typical "cook and clean" housewife who really needs to get a life. be spontaneous! do wild crazy things (not bar hop. ew) and if you're 25 why are you trying to find mr. right? you're extremely young and you need to go out and party. have fun. doesnt mean you have to sleep around but dont spend your hours the same way or one day you'll look back and chase after the minutes. you need to live life and have experiences!! its desperate women like you that scare me. (no offense) im only 17 and i hve big dreams. i dont drink but i like to have fun. im very educated and interested in the world. but i think it would be a shame to limit myself to what i already know and try to marry and settle down with mr. right or wonder why i cant keep a man at 25!! its okay to be good. just dont miss out on life darling. dont be boring. also if you hve any self esteem you wouldnt take that crap from guys...ever tried going for a different kind of guy?

Answer 4

I jus think it's the kind of guys you are finding. Are you restricting yourself to certian men? Do you strictly date within your race? I am white and I date a hispanic woman I have found she treats me better than any woman I have ever dated within my own race.
I'm not saying this goes for everyone I'm just saying maybe you should give it a try. I wish the best for you, you sound like a very nice woman, hard working and knows what she wants. But from now on don't settle for anything but the best

Answer 5

ok you are someone i would rather date than a club hopper and someone with many children to many fathers --- as long as you are not male as suggested by your avatar ----- and maybe the guys are intimidated by you and dont feel like they can control you????