Many things I have read say not to discuss things like divorce on a first date. Being on 1 date a couple months ago, somehow it ended up there and really did ruin the date. Questions like "So.. why did you divorce?"
In a new relationship it does come up occassionally...
What can I gently say in that I think it is not best to talk about that.
2007-01-17 01:17:35 · 7 answers · asked by DanjoHart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just politely say, "Let's talk about more positive things!" At some point later on , if the relationship works, then you can discuss why you got divorced, if they want to.
2007-01-17 01:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I discussed just that on our "first date". We had first connected on Match.com so we had talked for a week or so there and on the phone before we met in person. I think it is very very important to know why a past marriage failed. If you are interested enough for a 2nd date and then find out they divorced because of abuse.... you would feel betrayed. If the person has nothing to hide then it should be talked about. I would run from the red flag if I asked that question and my date replied... "I don't think we should discuss this now". This is just my opinion.
To answer you though if you really did not want to talk about it, you could say something like. "When I am out on a first date I don't like to get into such heavy things"... (if you really like her) "maybe on our 4th date we could talk about that"... I am not good a cheesy lines.. lol Good Luck!!
2007-01-17 09:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by RaLoh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess when someone tells you they are divorced the other person just wants to feel comfortable in the relationship and hope that you were not abusive in any way towards your ex or visa versa. Divorce is a serious thing to happen to a person and is painful so the person may want to avoid making the same mistakes the ex did.
It's also a tactic to see if you are over the break up. As with some people I have dated as soon as you say divorce they're on a roll and you can't stop them and you just want to run.
So maybe just say, we just drifted apart because we wanted different things in life.
2007-01-17 09:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by redrose 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just say, "Ultimately, we weren't meant to be together. It happens." (smile) Follow up with a question immediately. That way, you bring the focus back to the other person without seeming harsh.
2007-01-17 09:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she asked for it and told me her kids were old enough now and I was no longer needed and asked me to leave. End of a 15 yr story
2007-01-17 09:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by twopipes1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call had a valid reason.I dont know why I did.
2007-01-17 09:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by Honest Injun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wouldn't do anal.
2007-01-17 09:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋