I have a 10yr old boy, he acts up in school only,otherwise he is find. How do I correct this?

Question

He tends to talk alot in class and the teacher seem to not have control over him. He is not saying harsh words just babbling amongst his friends. He is never like this when he visits other places, i.e. friends homes or even the clubs he is part of. I don't have a problem with him. He respects his parents as well as other family members but I can't understand why he is constantly receiving letters from the teacher about how he is misbehaving in class. I tried everything to punish him for his misbehaving but it do not last for very long. I took everything away from him so he knows that acting that way will not get him anywhere or have anything in life. He reforms himself to get his things back but then its right back to the same things over again.

Answer 1

i wish i had the answer i am dealing with the opposite, my 12 year old is golden in school and terrible at home.

Answer 2

Has it been this way all through school, or is it new this year? Maybe his teacher just doesn't have control of the class. Ask around, see if any other parents have noticed anything. My son did GREAT in school until 4th grade, and then the teacher was so bad, and kids were running all over and distracting everyone trying to learn, we had to pull him out. Along with many others who dealt wtih the same thing. Spend a little time in the class and see if the teacher is really boring, or not challenging, or just unable to take charge. Maybe he has a little ADD -worth looking into. If classes are very "open and free" up to now, it may have gone unnoticed. 4th grade / 5th grade the whole school thing changes. It isn't free and easy any more, there are many more expectations. Also, as a long shot, take him to a hearing doc and an eye doc. If he can't see the board, or if he isn't hearing everything said, he may just start talking to someone else.

Answer 3

Punishing a child doesn't do a thing to correct him. He has to want to keep quiet. You have to support him. Find out who he is talking to and what they are talking about and try to be interested in it. Tell him that you will invite his friends over so that they have plenty of time to talk and visit, but that in class he needs to respect what the teacher is doing as a service to him.

Don't tell him this, but the teacher is probably way too boring. She should make some classes that keep him busier. When he talks she could ask him as well as any other talkers (very kindly) if he could read a certain portion or explain a certain point. After the class she could do more get to know him and his interests. He won't put her to trouble during the class if she can become his friend. Good luck!

Answer 4

Home school him. He obviously is not comfortable in the classroom setting, and depending on where you live, it's not hard to imagine why. Most American public schools are little more than propaganda factories.

There are also social dynamics at school that can be lousy for some kids, just fine for others. Is he slimmer and slighter than the other boys, or perhaps too stout? Is he taller or shorter? Have darker or lighter skin than the other kids? Have an "interesting" family history about which the other kids are curious? There can be many reasons why it is perfectly reasonable that a kid does not get on well in school.

If he is significantly more intelligent than the other kids, if he learned to read before he ever went to school, chances are he is bored, and restless because he is bored, and perhaps even somewhat contemptuous of the other kids because they seem slow to him. It sometimes takes a long time to realize those kids are not just playing stupid . . . I even thought my own sister was playing dumb, because she was older than me but didn't seem to understand ANYTHING compared to me. Not my fault, I didn't understand, but years later a shrink tried to tell me I "humiliated" my older sister when I did her homework for her. I was doing her a favor, so we could go out and play!

Rather than expecting him to conform to what may not be a healthy situation for him, why not try home schooling? If he gets bored and lonely, suggest that he could go back to school if he was willing to behave the way the teachers want him to. Sit still, face the front of the class, and pay attention to the teacher's presentation. Speak only to the teacher unless directed otherwise, and get with the program. If that starts to appeal to him, you will know that he wants to be sociable more than he wants to be independent. But HE will have made the choice.

Answer 5

My nine year old had discipline problems in school. I went and sat in on his classes. Turned out the teacher had no control over the group and there were too many kids without respect for authority and that can be contagious. Especially for fourth and fifth graders who are trying hard to belong with the crowd, even if that means getting in trouble.The environment was obviously not conductive for behaving, leave alone learning. He has since changed classes and is now doing a lot better. Besides sitting him down for the talk on what you expect from him in school, go and find out if there is a reason for his misconduct. If so act aggressively to get things changed before you put unattainable expectations on your son. Good luck.

Answer 6

I'm 13 and if my parents took away my things for acting up at school... id act WORSE just because they did so that i could get my things back and still be able to act up... honestly hes a 10 year old boy... most likely in middle school for the first year... and when i was in 6th grade i know i just hated one particular teacher... she hated me too [[I'm not sure why]] so we were just rude to each other... just ask the child if hes having problems with the teach... if maybe the teacher is mean or yells at him or something... there HAS to be a good reason though

Answer 7

How are his grades otherwise? If he is only acting up in class but not at home, have you thought that maybe the work is too easy for him and he is getting bored? You might want to have his IQ checked to see if maybe that is the problem. If his IQ is higher than other kids his age, with your permission, they may be able to put him into a higher class that will challenge him more than the one he is in now. Just a suggestion, good luck!

Answer 8

If he has never had this problem before maybe it has to do with the teacher not liking him. Believe me teachers do have their favorites and sometimes are out to get certain children-it happened to my son. I think that you should meet with her and sit down and put the ball in her court by having her develop strategies for keeping him on task in HER class. You are not there to control him so she is going to have to think of a way to solve this problem. You should however have a talk with your son and tell him that you expect him to follow school rules and if he does let him invite the kids he talks with over to play after school.

Answer 9

I am not one to give advice, I got a D in conduct when I was 10,,,it's a talking thing... I remember in the 6th grade, the teacher said he would give me a nickle if I was quiet all day (1966).. That worked. I wish I had an answer, I never outgrew it, I spent a lot of time in detention, just for flapping my lips...sorry

Answer 10

If hes is only straightening up long enough to get his things back then dont give in. If he gets a bad conduct grade take his things away for the month it takes to get his next report card (or progress report) if its not up by then keep them. Thats alot longer for him to loose his things. He will straighten up then i bet

good luck