My freinds daughter is getting married next year to her girlfreind , she is appauled, she has excepted them being together but thinks marriage is one step too much. I am fine about it and will go to the wedding,but my freind dosnt think she will, would you? mother and daughter are very close.
2007-01-17 01:02:07 · 63 answers · asked by Lisa pizza 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I completely support gay marriage. What gives the government the right to decide who gets to be in love and show the world that love through marriage? I've known more gay couples who have been together for years, 20+ in some cases, than I do straight couples who stay married.
2007-01-17 01:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
I agree with same sex marriage but I think the real issue here is not your friends going to the wedding but her feelings towards homosexuality. She in her heart has not accepted the fact that her daughter is gay and probably feels shame or that she did something wrong. She will have to work through these issues as best she can if she wants a relationship with her daughter. I don't know how old your friend is either and I think its harder for older people because this was so unaccepted in the past.
2007-01-17 01:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by snoopy22564 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm still not sure about the whole marriage thing. My two best friends married when it became law in Holland they are extremely happy, their friends and family went and were very supportive. I have a partner of 12 years but I have a great reluctance to being married to her - I can't explain it. I am glad you are going and if mother and daughter are very close, it will hurt the daughter if her mother doesn't go. They should talk it over together and try and sort it out.
2007-01-17 01:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't go she will regret it for the rest of her days. Your child is your child, no matter what, and in this day and age of out of control disfunctional families, every effort should be made.
Whether your child is gay or straight, the choice of partner is theirs and theirs alone and they should be supported. If you do not like the partner of their choice, tough. You don't have to live with them, it is your child. you should be there to pick up the pieces if anything does go wrong.
Perhaps you and your friend's child should call it a "Civil Partnership", which, after all technically that is what it is, and maybe she will come round. She doesn't have to condone the union, just be supportive for her daughter.
2007-01-17 01:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by tradcobdriver 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question for me to answer. I am a Christian and don't believe in gay relationships, let alone MARRIAGES. But I don't condemn people that are gay, it's not my place to judge; that is up to God. And if it was one of my daughters~I honestly don't know what I would do. But I don't think that I would be able to attend the ceremony either! But since both of my daughters are straight, I can't truthfully say what I would do in her(your friend) situation. If it was one of my friend's child or one of my daughter's gay friends getting "married", I wouldn't attend.
My youngest daughter has/had(he moved to another state) a male friend who is gay. I like him but he knows that I don't approve of his lifestyle, but we were still friends(he calls me mom) whenever we saw or talked to each other! And he still does whenever we talk now, which isn't as often; since he no longer lives here.
But no, I don't think that I would attend if I was the mother or the friend of the mother!
2007-01-17 01:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by Donna J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well your friend should think about the happiness of her daughter first ,its her life she has the right to choose who she wants to be with,and being a mother she should keep her personal feelings towards her daughters union with another person to herself,it might look wrong for a lot of people but for her daughters its her right and she is doing what she feel right for her,and i will definitely attend a wedding and just be supportive to a friend
2007-01-17 01:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol biancavee.
every body should have the same rights. if you love some body it doesn't matter what sex you are. a man and a woman get to show their love and commitment by marriage so why shouldn't two same sex people. if you are deeply in love with some on then it is your right to marry that person regardless of your gender. fair play to the i say. and many congrats to your friends daughter. x x
2007-01-17 01:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by kelly 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People there is nothing wrong with same sex marraiges. I have been to a lesbian wedding. It was simply gorgeous. One of them dressed in a tux and one in a wedding gown.There are worse things in life than having a gay daughter. You could have one that walks the streets or does drugs or kills someone. Being gay is not a crime. Showing love to anyone is never a crime. People need to build a bridge and get over it. Nobody is going to change their minds about being gay because they are shunned. The mother will be missing out on the biggest event in the daughters' life if she misses the wedding. It will be she that suffers.
2007-01-17 01:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by queenmaeve172000 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
This is obviously terrible from a biological perspective. No offense, but I think that in general, America sometimes takes freedom too far, without considering its flip side that is responsibility. One can argue that its their life, let them do as they please. But they must also consider the harsh discrimination that will be leveled at them from a large segment of society. Finally, though our success in these postmodern times tend to breed arrogance (while we often forget those who make such success possible... Newton, Einstein...), in the end, I believe that God will always prove to be a bit more clever than we thought.
2007-01-17 01:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by norman steve 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definately go.
A fabulous idea, but it depends on the defintion and value that people place on marriage.
Personally I think that marriage is a commitment made by two people infront of those they love and care about.
It is also a legally recognised state which confers legal protection and rights to each member in the partnership. These rights and protections are being extended to same sex couples and it is a good thing, because at the end of the day love is love.
As a person once quoted,
All you need it love,
John Lennon wrote that, clever man, shot in the back very sad.
2007-01-17 01:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by boobboo77 2 · 4⤊ 3⤋