how do men so easily shake off past pain?

Question

when us woman are hurt we tend to hold on to our problem forever and as soon as an argument come up so does our issue......men put it somewhere in the back of thier heads and it stays there never to come out.......how do they and how can i do the same?

Answer 1

Get a rubber band, put it on your wrist
Everytime you get upset , mad, etc about a certain situation.
Flick it. lol
Worked for me lol.

I guess sometimes we can either deal or put it behind us. It depends on us.

Answer 2

God, I wish I knew the answer to this one. I swear they're numb or maybe it has something to do with endorphines.

You begin to learn that people generally use other people. It's sad, but true. I was always such a pushover and doing everything for everyone else - men and friends alike.

So in the past few years I have managed to build a ginormous wall around my heart - it helps. I just remind myself that no man is worthy of my second glance or time. Not to be conceited about it, but I just use them until the right man comes along and has the right chisel to take it down. There's nothing a man can give me that I can't get for myself - you have that power too!!!

Few people (specifically men) are genuine and when the right one comes along, he'll have the ability to take down that wall. I think guys are born with it whereas women actually have to build it.

Don't know all the answers, just helping out. Good question.

Answer 3

Men tend to live in the present. So when we get clobbered by life, or hurt by a woman, we just get pissed, cry, or beat the crap out of someone and then move on. It's harder to get over a lost love, though. We give away a little bit of ourselves each time we fall in love - and that little bit is always there and always a bit painful.

Women are "stamp savers". They seem to delight in saving up all of life's slings and arrows and can drag them out and take a perverse pleasure in reliving them at a moment's notice. :)

It's just psychology. Men and women are VERY different in how we approch life, love, family and work. Men just don't invest as much emotion as women do.

Answer 4

A Man is verile, hardworking and knows how to deal with situations especially from experience.
He tends not to get caught up in situations he cannot change and accept the things as they are and move on.

It takes a good Man to be understanding and responsible. If he is still learning then he gets the bite(Sting) (Stung) and if he learns from that bite, he won't let it happen again.

No matter what goes on in this life in relations especially his, he must always keep his Fort operating and that is his job, his home and his responsibility to himself much less others.

If he lets' every hang up or dead beat drag his Fort down to nothing then what has he got?

If remains strong through the storms of relations or anything that threatens his livelyhood, he must act appropriately to insure that it doesn't happen again and keep himself flowing with the punches.

If he can't take care of himself, how in the Hell can he take care of anyone else?

Answer 5

It has been proven that men do not have the emotions women have....my husband had a tendency to put in the back of his mind, but he holds on to it, just does not act on it.....I, on the other hand, have learned to work it out when it happens..don't keep it bottled up. Even if it means you have to write everything down, even the bad stuff, like in a letter. Dont send the letter, burn it, or trash it. But at least it is off your mind and in some aspect, settled in your head.

Answer 6

im sorry that ure very confused with this..
men are like that..we are less emotional than women..we're more visual n physical.. that's why many guys can simply say to their girlfriends, "I think this is the end of our relationship. We're done."...that's also why we guys get attracted to so many girls at the same time.. i know this'll be tough to accept,..but that's written in our genetic code, i guess...
but i aint sayin that men dont have emotions k..im jus sayin that we aint AS emotional as women..
so i dun think u can ever do that...
u may say, "that aint fair.." but lemme tell u this.. because we're so easily attracted physically n visually, when we have made a commitment to our partners, we go thru a lotta hell suppressing our sexual urges towards other women.. so that's kinda like the balancing weight, i guess...

Answer 7

They don't. They just ignore it and keep it to themselves. They are most likely not to bring it up because it causes them pain and they don't like pain of the heart (it makes them feel weak). What generally happens is that in their next relationship that woman pays for the other woman's wrong doings. It is a vicious cycle.

Answer 8

How many times have you heard someone say, " Big boys don't cry?" Well that sticks with them, so they bury everything so do OK with it, some don't and it will come out sooner or later an with a rage, which often not a good thing.

Answer 9

nobody shakes off past pain easily, most men cover it up with faux macho feelings, imo it's usually the death of them, becasue holding that in is hard on a person, i'm a man and i'm not afraid to cry.

Answer 10

They may not shake it off as much as they are dealing with it differently. Women call friends and family and cry. Guys watch sports and fix things to get their minds off of it.

Answer 11

think that men don't normally discuss their pain, they hide it, stuff it somewhere, women tend to talk about it till they can make sense out of it. but when u fail to deal with pain or upset, it only comes out later on in their next relationship, comes back to them at night when they are just lying there thinking. sometimes it comes out years later when they think about their past. we only think men shake it off, they don't. they just hide it better than we do. when my ex use to do mean things, and when he was cheating and i didn't know it, he use to have horrendous nightmares, couldn't sleep, he tried to hide it, but it did come out in his subconscious.