There is this single women who is a friend of mine,However she wants to be more than friends. I have told her (as I beleve in the truth) that I cant be exclusively hers. As I am VERY promiscuous (but at least I have told her that before you give my question a thumbs down rating HONESTY IS THE BEST) She said when I told her this and I quote....She would not mind if I went with other women as well.. unquote. Can you ladies please explain this to me....
2007-01-17 00:42:09 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Top marks for being honest with her, defo best policy. She's fooling herself, has she no self respect! Women get emotionally involved with men they sleep with. This could open a whole big can of worms if you did get involved as she would defo become jealous. Why are you so promiscuous? Just having fun and don't want to settle yet or are you insecure?
2007-01-17 00:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may just want a f**k buddy and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. But bear in mind when women sleep with a man a bizarre chemical is released in their brains which causes them to have an emotional attachment. She may be one of those women who can live with the situation. Some can. Equally - she may be very promiscuous as well! At the end of the day it's up to both of you - talk it through A LOT before you go down that road.
2007-01-17 00:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by Misha-non-penguin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is so simple...what she's telling you is you can do whatever you want as long as she doesn't find out. When she does, she will freak out on you. In the meantime keep in mind that she will be doing the same. Sad part about it is, she will not tell you. In her mind she can change you to be a 1 woman man. When that doesn't work on you she will leave you and use the excuse that you're a dog. If you have any sense you will enter into that relationship with caution. Many females have no idea as to what friends with benefits mean. If you want to entertain her then proceed if not run like hell. Coming from a female, I'd run like hell if I were you.
2007-01-17 00:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think she really likes you and she will probably say anything to get you. I also think that as soon as she has got you she will change her mind about you seeing other women. I really don't think it would be a good idea to start a relationship, she will end up really attached to you and will probably start following you while you were out with other girls. Even a one night stand would likely give her the wrong idea.
Stay good friends with her and maybe one day when you are ready for more commitment you can give things a try with her!!
Good luck with whatever you decide!
2007-01-17 00:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by shazza86_uk55 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on being honest. It sounds like she's ok with you sleeping with other women. Still, it's best to make sure before you have a scorned woman after you for being slutty!
Incidentally, hope you're doing your bit for the good of all wo/mankind by having regular check-ups at your local Genito-Urinary Medicine clinic - let's couple that sexual emancipation with a bit of social responsibility, guys and girls!
2007-01-17 00:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by hannah w 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She obviously thinks the world of you and has said that so you will change your mind and be with her exclusively....she says she wouldn't mind if you went with other women but would deep down be heartbroken and it would be tearing her apart...
If you care for her as a friend then don't make it more. it truly would hurt her more than she would ever tell you.
2007-01-17 00:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by blazing_staruk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't really want you to "go" with other women. She is trying to seduce you physically and emotionally. You must decide if your friendship is worth more than that because it will only cause heartache when she sees that she can't change you which will make her very resentful towards you and you would most probably fight over the smallest things
2007-01-17 00:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by Dilly007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its as plain as day, she loves you ,you daft dollop only she is also hoping that once you have been with her that you will stop going with others.Its the same old story,like changing the spots on a dog(long story, must tell it one day)Any way if you feel that you can not do this, tell her that you aways will need her as a friend, but if she can not handle that then she must walk away as you couldn't bear to lose her.
2007-01-17 02:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK she is only saying this to you to get you to go with her in the first place, she probably thinks once you start going out with her then you will stop seeing other women.
No woman wants to share their man so i think for both your sakes you should just stay away from her.
Well done for being so honest though, i wish all guys were like you!!
Good luck xxx
2007-01-17 02:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved unless you want to loose her friendship. Eventually, if she really is interested in you, she will find this is not enough for her and you will end up hurting her. If she is saying she already has feelings for you, they can only be multiplied once you get intimate. Rejection will be easier for her to get over, though she may avoid you for a while whilst she licks her wounds. You need to be sensitive here.
2007-01-17 00:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋