I'm nice, not to ugly, sweet, good job , play drums in a local band, packed, loves animals and wants commitment. Why does every girl I date or MARRY ends up cheating on me? Why was I single for 2 years..whats wrong?
2007-01-17 00:29:16 · 18 answers · asked by bigpunkdrummer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All I want is to marry and have a family.
2007-01-17 00:29:45 · update #1
You sound nice, but you must be picking the wrong girls. Take a look at who you've chosen in the past and try to change something about that. I wouldn't rush into getting married. I've been cheated on too, and it isn't a nice feeling at all. I'd try to get over that first. And then really think about the kind of girl you would want and be super open about all of what you just wrote.
2007-01-17 00:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by winslow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because fidelity isn't a strong point in today's society. Neither is having someone emotionally and mentally stimulating. It is all about sex and the thought of random sex acts. You haven't been looking in the right places. We as humans are creatures of habit, so you probably go after the same type of girl without realizing it. Sometimes it is better being single with the majority of the selection that is out there. Are you happy with yourself without a girl? You need to have that first. If you did have that, you wouldn't really have to ask what is wrong with you, but what is wrong with how you viewed the girls you have been with, and how their perception was different than the reality. Did you see what you wanted? You are too good of a person from what it sounds like for today as well, look for older women who are more mature. They are past the wanting a bad guy thing, and are more ready for commitment and willing to work through problems instead of run from them. Also they realize sex is what you make of it, not necessarily the partner, because there is more than one way to reach the goal ;)
2007-01-17 08:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by just another guy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need to change the type of woman your getting involved with. I don't know, you sound like a great guy. I do know that maybe you need to take the relationships really slow next time and make sure you both have the same value system (morals). That's what helped me and my husband. We were like you, every relationship we had; we had been cheated on. So we made a pack that we would never do that. We've been together 22 years. Good luck!
2007-01-17 08:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by Texas Pineknot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you come across as a fun guy but don't show enough commitment? Maybe you are dating the wrong type of girls? I have a friend who is in the same position and he is a pianist. Very talented but no gf. He has been single for 5 years with no sign of anything coming his way soon. I gave him the same advice I am giving you; don't go looking for love, it will find you.
2007-01-17 08:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a really nice guy, some girls just like bad boys. It seems that every girl wants a really nice guy. The truth is some girls get bored after a while. Sometimes it takes a while for a woman to grow out of that. Not all women like bad boys though. I used to. Now I don't. Don't change stay sweet. Not many guys out there are truly good guys.
2007-01-17 08:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by uuummk 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe, because monogamy is a type of wood! Honestly, I think we put so much pressure on ourselves to have these stupid "hollywood" relationships and our idea of love is movie love, that no-one reaches our standards any more. We seek perfection in our bodies, our minds, our jobs, and ultimately in our relationships. Especially women, we feel like past generations have settled and we are not gonna. Then we watch tv and think that we should feel about our partners like some fictitious couple on tv, ultimately it's a disappointment because real life is not perfect!
Maybe, you need to find a girl with no TV! x
2007-01-20 21:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by Sluttty McSluttt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women mistake gentleness for weakness, and weakness is a turn off.
As much as I hate to say it, the fact remains that if you treat a woman with a little LESS respect, she's more likely to stay interested. Women are eager to please. Im not saying to slap her around or anything. I mean if you are considerate by calling her when your late or never going out with friends because you wanna be with her, she will enjoy it for a while but then start to think you are a pushover.
You are by no means old. Eventually you will find a woman who loves and accepts you for who you really are. Dont resort to game playing.
2007-01-17 08:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look bro........ its never too late as long as u have another second to live.. so why not keep your head up and continue to date girls and do it as many times until u find the right one.. put some effort in it dont sit down and cry "why its like this why why" just go out and put in some work.. and marriage is the last thing u think about ... just relationship is one thing that needs to be strongly built up before marriage... u cant go out looking for a wife!!.. i understand your urges to want a loving family but you have to work your a s s off to achieve a goal that big.
2007-01-17 08:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by COlder THaN AlaSka 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's because you haven't tried me! on a more serious note, girls sometimes take a person who's too keen for commitment for granted. They know you hurt easy and they know just how to hurt you. Best thing is to take things slowly and don't go looking for love, let it come looking for you.
2007-01-17 08:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by stiletto 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Us girls usually let the good ones get away. Most girls are attracted to the guys who are not good for them. They always realize what they let go of later on in life. I bet there are girls out there who wish they had you back.
Just be patient, you will find the right one.
2007-01-17 08:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by finallyfree 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋