been with my b/f 5 weeks,known him for alot longer, last night tells me he loves me, i do love him and cant imagine ever being with anyone else but cant help feeling its too soon to be saying i love you??
2007-01-17 00:24:50 · 16 answers · asked by Lovely Lou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there really is no time limit on feelings.....
2007-01-17 00:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there.
I love you is a powerful phrase and saying I love you is a big step in any relationship. Learn the right time to say I love you and give yourself the best chance of hearing "I love you too!"
Here's How:
Do You Mean It? Decide if you really want to say "I love you" or if you have an ulterior motive. Escalating a relationship to the love phase for sexual, financial, or other secondary reasons only causes problems down the road.
Will it be Reciprocated? Calculate whether or not you believe your partner is at the same juncture. If you partner is using phrases like, "I'm falling for you", "I've never felt this way", or "I could spend forever with you", there's a good chance your "I love you" will be reciprocated.
How Will the Message be Delivered? Decide the best way to communicate the message based on you and your partner's style. If your partner loves text messages or emails, consider a cyber-expression. If your partner is the spontaneous type, then mix the "I love you" into a fun-filled evening together.
Can you Back it Up? Saying "I love you" for the first time will be more meaningful and impactful if you back it up with a few reasons. Tell your partner what you love about them, whether it's their gentle spirit, passionate kisses, or optimistic outlook on life.
Will you Take the Pressure Off? Your partner may respond positively immediately or they may be caught off guard and need some time to let the moment sink in. If your partner doesn't respond right away, give it a chance. There's no reason to cause a fight. Just because you've been planning this moment, remember it's new and possibly out of the blue for your partner.
Are you Ready for the Next Step? Don't get fooled into believing all the pressure is lifted once "I love you" is on the table from both parties. Escalating a relationship to the "I love you" phase opens the door to discussing long term commitment and possibly marriage. Be ready for the next steps if you say "I love you".
Good luck
2007-01-17 01:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right. Men do tend to fall heavily at the begining of a relationship and then it calms down quickly if they think they have you 'in the bag' so to speak. It works better for you to keep the pace and a slow one at that. This gives the man time to actually fall in love for real. Do not say I love you back until you are sure he is hooked. It may be some time yet! If you say it too soon, he will get bored as he has you already. The challenge and the chase is what keeps them interested. If it takes a lot to get you, then they think more of you. I also used to be unavailable for dates a lot of the time. Drives them crazy.
2007-01-17 00:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I love you " often means "I am in love", which is not at all the same. Love is counted by years not days or weeks. Being in love is something like being in lust, and this will be more accurate. This can happen in a lot less than 5 weels, "love ( lust) at first sight " for instance. But you also said you've known each other alot longer, so who knows maybe he is, very unlike though. But I wouldn't doubt much that he is indeed in lust.
2007-01-17 00:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of people just say i love you to fill the silence
i was with my man for a few weeks when he said it to me and 10 years later were still going strong so it does work out for some dont feel presured into saying it though just cus he said it
2007-01-17 00:49:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I was two months before saying it to my girlfirend (now my wife).
When ever if feels right for you I think. But don't leave the boy hanging too long..! - Especially if you feel the same way...
Hmm, kinda contradicted myselft there - I know..!
2007-01-17 00:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by Simon C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying "I Love You" is a big deal so please do not let anyone pressure you into feeling it or saying it before you feel ready too.
If you personally feel it is to soon to be saying it then don't, its your choice and your boyfriend should be supportive of this.
Good luck babe
xxx
2007-01-17 02:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i felt like this after only 2 weeks of being with my man and we are still together 4 years on, try not to worry or you will spoil what could be your best relationship.
good luck
hope it works out. : )
2007-01-20 21:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by sarahl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he is in love with you and he wanted to show you by saying it.
i never think its to soon to say i love you if you been with eacthother for 5 weeks, and you have known eachother longer, you can tell you want to be with eacthother x
2007-01-17 00:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
saying i love you has gotten way out of control
it is like asking do you want to super size your drink
most ppl say it and have no idea what love really is take it at your pace til you are sure
2007-01-17 00:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok for him to tell you he loves you , that's his prerogative, but its up too you when you think it is the right time for YOU to tell him you love him. just explain to him how much he means too you and when you say " i love you " that you will mean it and that your not just saying it as a return comment to when he says it.
2007-01-17 00:46:32 · answer #11 · answered by claire01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋