Are there ways I can tell for sure? ...We've been together for 6 or 7 years .I know he still loves me with all his heart and doesn't want to be with anyone else. I really think there is no one else who could love me better than him....but we've been going through a lot, theres just a lot of fights about almost anything...but most of the fights are about a guy that likes me..that he knows I used too like (yeah, I do kinda like him...but I tell him that I don't like him at all)....should I stil try to be with him and try to bring back the "spark" or should I just end it...even though he still loves me from the bottom of his heart. Don't think I don't love him...but I just don't really feel the same.
2007-01-17 00:10:19 · 3 answers · asked by Bunny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
..and we did take a break for maybe two months ( I think it was that long ) ...and when we got back together it was pretty good. I was so happy with him...then things started to go back the way it was...I just think after all of the stuff we've been through..I just don't feel the same.
2007-01-17 00:33:06 · update #1
Love is not a feeling, it's a choice & a commitment. If you love him you will choose to work it out. If you don't you will end up making a mistake that you will regret. This other guy, yeah you may kind of like him so your b/f or fiance (???) has every right to feel the way he do. Invest in the relationship you're in now....instead of chasing something that won't last. Love is patient, Love is kind, Love is not selfish......(did I hit a nerve?) LOVE NEVER FAILS. Don't get Love mixed up with Lust. Lust will always lead you into destruction...It may feel good, and is pleasureable...But it will not last...
Ask yourself this...If the other guy wasn't in the picture, how much better would your relationship be with your hubby? Would everything go smoothly or just as worst? Don't allow selfishness blind you and cause you to make the wrong decision. My wife always tell me..Put yourself in your b/f's shoes and ask yourself if you would react the same way, and be honest with yourself.
If it's love, it's worth fighting for...Love is not a fantasy or what the movies or the entertainment industry make it out to be. Love is hard work...But once you endure those hard times your love for each other wil become stronger. Do you want that? If you Love your hubby the way you say you do, that Love will automatically change him. If you love him don't put time limits on him. Love doesn't envy, nor keeps any record of wrong, Love is not rude, Love does not rejoice in evil but rejoices in truth, Love always protects, always trusts, always perserveres.
I understand what's going on with you. You fear.... You fear that it might not work out between you and your hubby and you're having doubts. You don't want to be hurt. None of us do. But throughout our life people will disappoint us and hurt us. Some out of a mistake, some out of spite. But love says I look beyond your mistakes and I understand you're not the perfect person I wish you could be, but I choose and make a commitment to Love you anyway, regardless of what the circumstances are. Selfishness and fear run together and it will destroy your relationships, don't let it...B/c you will take the same fear with you to another relationship. Talk with your Hubby..notice I said talk "with" him and not "at" him. Communication is another important factor.
Also, this other guy could be doing things or saying things your hubby isn't and it makes you feel special. Put all of that energy towards your hubby and explain to him that you need for him to do what the other guy is doing to make you feel loved. It's not that this other guy is special, it could be just that he's given you the attention your hubby isn't given you, but be specific it what it is when you talk with your hubby. Make sure he understands, and say it with love. At times you might have to remind him...people don't change over night. it might take 1 month 1 year or 10 yrs...The question is are you willing to be patient and let Love have it's perfect work?
2007-01-17 00:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by unknown 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
omg!!i experience the same thing..d different is just tht we've been dating for almost two years..unlike u..hmm..we fight almost about evrythin..my former boyfriends..my ex-classmate,my teacher which i used to like or should i say i still have the hots for him,n he likes me too..n even my cousins..he's controlling my every move..no matter how many times i asked him to gimme some space..that's y i started to fall for anutha guy..n started to think am i gonna leave him even tho i noe that he loves me wit ol his hart..we gave ourselves a break..n improve ourselves..i tried so hard to search for d long lost sparks..n i did..i realised tht i cnt leave him..i noe that deep down inside i need him,i love him..n i love him more than ever..so i hope you cud help urself..im sorry if im not helping you,but try to appreciate him n ol those times u guys had spend together,but if u really cant love him like u used to for the first 2 months u guys have been dating,so talk with him,it's may be hard,but if u dun tell hm sooner,he'll b hurt even more..i dun wna make u feel as if ur caught in the middle,just think about it..good luck girl...i know exactly how u feel..
2007-01-17 08:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by Strange 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh bebe... if the fights 4 a guy so0o0 this is a sign that he is still in love with u...and if u want 2 forget that guy just remmber every thing good,nice,wounderful...things u like it about him and tell ur self how much u love him u need him and like this good luck bye bye bye
the princess xoxox
2007-01-17 08:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋