About 5 years ago, I went through a very rough patch in my life. People to whom I was very close & loyal did some things that were, in my eyes, betrayal. Later they realized how it looked from my side & stopped. It hurt badly nearly daily for a few years, but I mostly pushed it out of my mind. Now, out of seemingly nowhere, every rare once in a while I will have some bizzare, vivid dream that leaves me agitated for half the day. Something must be unfinished in my mind. What should I do to put this to rest?
2007-01-17 00:07:03 · 8 answers · asked by mustanglynnie 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
At least these people realized what they did to you and stopped! too many people are cruel to each other because of issues they can't resole themselves and decide to deflect onto others,which means that instead of dealing with their issues they pick on someone else to stop feeling the pain,,,anyway,the vivid dreams you are having is normal,your subconscious is telling you that "hey i've got some unfinished business here and i can't deal with it" so i would take this as a sign that seeking alternative methods such as psychologist or counselling just so they can give a some tools to help you with this.Otherwise i think you'll be fine.We all deal with problems differently,what works for others might not work for you and vice-versa.Good luck and take care.
2007-01-17 06:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by ameerah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey!
It's so very hard to let bad experiences go, especially when you feel betrayed by those who were close to you. Did they ever say sorry that it hurt you ,even if they didn't mean to do that? I think that would have helped.
Now to help you get over this.I have been
there.What I did is.
A. Write down my feelings, about what happend leaving nothing out. Read it then screw it up and burn it Say "I leave this to the universe to deal with".That will help get rid of the anxiety and hurt.
It's not your problem anymore ,because by passing it on you have given it to the Universe to sort it.
B. Forgive those people for their actions, in doing so you are no longer connected to them or the past issue. You don't have to forget ,just forgive.
This has been affecting your health ,ie agitation and anxiety over it. Maybe other ailments too,
because you didn't deal with it at the time. Now you are free to move on. It's like a weight lifting and you put it in it's right place in the past and in it's right purspective. You won't have trust issues with people who want to get close.Also get some White sage and burn it ,ask the Spirits to clean the negative energy in your home and replace it with positive energy. Everytime you got hurt and were upset by this action or other things ,negative energy remains ,so by doing this it's released to the Universe too. Millions of people all over the world do this. So don't think it's crazy.
It all works. Good luck a new year a new out look. Ciao.
2007-01-17 01:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant change the past or what happened but you can go over it in your head and look at from a different angle now how did it start who was involved are they still in your life did they break your trust do you forgive them did you look at their view of the situation at the time clearly... Now you have moved on a great deal since then so why does it still agitate you because it reminds you of the way you where feeling then and what you went through so tell your self what did I learn from the experience and tell yourself it will never happen to me again as you wont let it nothign and no-one will evr make me suffer or feel how I did then again.. Has anything happened similar to that time its only a memory and it cant reoccur have you cut ties with those who betrayed you it may just be anger that you feel that you let it happen but some times things are out of our control.. So confront it face up to it rmember its not happening in reality only in memory it cant touch you box it up once you,ve confronted it and put it to rest once and for all... Good luck stay strong focused and positive...
2007-01-17 00:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it would be best to forgive and forget but apparently that's not going to happen if these dreams upset you like this. My suggestion is to confront the root of the problem (even if it was years ago) and those who you felt betrayed you. Even if they did stop, you must not have talked it all out so they knew exactly how you felt. If you can't speak freely, I suggest that you write a letter to each of these people in deep detail how it affected you, put them each in an envelope, and have someone throw them away without you knowing when. It might seem childish but it's a sure fire way to get your feelings out. Good luck!
2007-01-17 00:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jayna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill your brain.aim joking but per heps some questions just can't find a right answer however you try, pain hurts and once there is a cut, it will never heal. leave you a scar to re maned you something in the past that still hurt.
2007-01-17 00:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by yiufdbgkhfjj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go. There are too many other people in this world. Forget about the ones that betrayed you and move on to new horizons
2007-01-17 00:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get this out of your system talk to somebody, scream your lungs out,confront people, therapy, let it go, whatever you got to do just move on with your life
2007-01-17 00:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by jon_e_carcinogen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive, there is not better medecine to your bones than forgiveness.
2007-01-17 00:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by JUST ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋