we have been dating for 3 weeks. the first two weeks he saw me constantly, now this week, hardly at all. he hardly texts or phones now. says he would come round ,then said he couldnt cos of work. then later he phones and he comes round. what should I do.
2007-01-16 23:30:06 · 35 answers · asked by bty463500 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is interested in you, he would talk to you everyday. And If you have any doubts, then no, you shouldn't date him. He's probably go another chick on the side and balancing between you too. Don't waste your time. There'll be other guys that will fight to be by your side.
2007-01-16 23:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by ♪ Tony's girl ♪ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its been three weeks you say?
Look I dont mean to sound bang out of order, but you do not want at such an early stage in your relationship to have to start to worry. You could turn into a bunny boiler!!!!!
Is it not possible that now it has become busier at work for him? I mean after all, the first few weeks after Christmas are very quiet, so it was quite possible for him to be able to spend a lot more time with you, however now we are getting January outta the way it would get busy, "business as usual"!!!!!
Again he may not text and call as often as it may not be convenient with whatever he does at work, huh?
However you say that he then does call and comes to see you later on in the day. Seems that he is trying to see you when he can, does he apologise for not being able to text or call?
Am sure that you could just be a little paranoid.
Or he is just a complete sh*t? Dont you think you should chuck the towel in straight away, especially if you like him that much. Why not try and talk with him and see where you stand if you are that worried?
Good Luck Darling
2007-01-16 23:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by GARY WARY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the first two weeks are the heady 'honeymoon' period but you couldn't sustain that for any length of time. I think it is just going into the calmer, more settled phase and I think it is important that you don't crowd each other at this stage. He may want to take a step back and review what has developed between you so far,
I don't think you should immedaitely jump to the conclusion that he is losing interest or has someone else. However, you should be just a tiny bit unavailable for him - don't sit at home every night waiting to see if he will come round! Even in these enlightened times, guys still enjoy the chase so keep him guessing a little bit. Take just that little bit longer to respond to a text and keep it slightly flippant.
On the other hand, if you think he is genuinely working hard, do show some consideration for this, listen to his problems and be an oasis of calm and comfort at the end of the night. Guys are simple creatures so keep it simple and don't try to mind-read or second-guess him!
2007-01-16 23:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're jumping the gun. Perhaps what he's saying is true. When he first met you maybe he went above and beyond to give you attention but now his actions are catching up to him. Maybe he really didn't have that time to give you and now has some personal catching up to do. Instead of wondering what he's doing, why not asking him. The only way your relationship is going to work is if you communicate. Be open and honest with him. Let him know how you feel and ask him if he wants to be with you and what's going on. Let him know that his not calling bothers you and you're not expecting him to call everyday several times a day but you would like to hear from him sometime. However only he can give you the answers that you seek in why he's now not giving you the attention he once gave you. Good luck. Hope for the best but always be prepared for the worse.
2007-01-16 23:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS NORMAL. If you want this man, then don't text him, and don't punish him. Don't chase him. Don't whine at him. He needs to miss you to fall in love with you. He also needs to pursue you, so DONT pursue him.
Be busy with your own life and TOUGH it out. When you do see him ..... smile.......
act like you didn't notice he was gone.
As John Gray states in his book Men are from Mars Women are from Venus, men are elastic bands... IF you let him pull away he will snap back.
Read the book Venus and Mars on a date...
ps ..... Hi, I'm adding this on from my first post, after reading the post below, which for the most part I agree with, however I don't agree with 'keep it slightly flippant'.
Don't play ANY games, that is what I meant about punishing him. Just be your normal confident nice self. Cheers and good luck.
2007-01-16 23:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by Angie K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should try and relax a little bit, its only the start of the relationship, this is the part you enjoy each other and have loads a fun and giggles. it may be that he is working and finds it hard to come round every night now, but you should just go with the flow and see what happens, you will soon find out if he really likes you. good luck .
2007-01-16 23:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by claire01 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear.
If he is making excuses at this early stage it is not promising.
If I were in the same position i would want to get as much of my new flame as poss. unless i wasn't really committed to it in the first place.
Perhaps he just wants a casual friend and feels u r a bit too serious for him.
u could try asking him gently what he wants from ur relationship.
If u both discuss this and outline ur hopes, neither side will be disappointed or surprised.
any good?
good luck
xoxoxoxox
2007-01-16 23:36:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chill out is what you should do. Give him some space, perhaps things got to full on too fast for him. Just give him another 2 weeks at least to see how things work out. In the meantime don't put any pressure on him & let him contact you, don't chase him.Good luck.
2007-01-16 23:34:56 · answer #8 · answered by Mishell 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you should call it a day,the first couple of months give you a rough idea of how a man is gonna treat you and he has already let you down so its not a very good sign,he is coming round when he feels like it,there are better people out there.
2007-01-16 23:39:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like u both rushed into it. you've only known him 3wks and you've bn seein each other constantly. he probably feels rushed and possibly feels like things are moving too quickly. dating and being in a relationship are 2 v different things. he might think that if u are only dating how full on would things b if u were actually together. i think u should leave it upto him. dont wanna sound harsh but i think he might have chickened out...good luck tho xx
2007-01-17 00:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by carly-jayne r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋