How to talk with my parents who,although I am almost 27,are quite against moving in with my boyfriend before getting married! I am very angry but I would like to try and talk not argue with them.any advices?thanks!
2007-01-16 23:16:27 · 7 answers · asked by NuclearKitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just seems like there is a difference of opinion. Consider if they are still married, and know how a successful relation is developed, they may know something you don't.
2007-01-16 23:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are a bit like mine. Dont be angry because they grew up with values of only moving out when you get married. De facto relationships are a really big trend due to the fact that some people do not want to commit and people want to test drive.
At the end of the day they cannot stop you and they will get used to the idea. Your parents will always love you doesnt matter what.
As long as you are ready for this and you really want this!
2007-01-17 07:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the good news: your parents will always be your parents
the bad news: your parents will always be your parents
that being said, you have to make your own decisions as an adult, which you are...and there will come a time your parents must let go and let you make your own decisions, but you have no control over that, you only have control over yourself...
so to talk to them about difficult subjects, you have to remember four things:
1. be calm
2. be consistent
3. be fair
4. be firm
if your parents can't do these things as well, then there may not be any use in talking to them at all, but at least try and see what good things can happen
2007-01-17 07:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by an_articulate_soul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are 27, more than old enough to do as you wish.
They will get over it eventually. If you choose to ever marry is up to you. This is the 21st century a time for modern thinking.
2007-01-17 07:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by steven m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are stonewalling you? You probably will not be able to turn the tide against you unless you abide by their wishes. It probably stems from them being embarassed because they don't think it's morally okay. They don't want their friends to hear about it don't you know! Do what you've got to do and after you're married they'll breath again.
Sorry so gloomy
2007-01-17 07:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by Loren H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are an adult, you don't need to argue, you need to make a decision.
Are your parents going to make all the decisions in your life, or is that up to you?
Do what you feel is best for you.
It is your life.
If it is a religious thing, you are still an adult and need to think for yourself.
2007-01-17 07:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to do it
sit down and tell them you are going to do it with our without thier blessing
it will hurt them for a while but they will get over it i had to do it that way and trust me they will still love you no matter what
2007-01-17 07:20:12 · answer #7 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋