I just found out that I am pregant..I havent told anyone yet mainly because my boyfirend is in Iraq..Yes, the child is his. He came home from Iraq for leave and within thoose two weeks I got pregnant. I drank while he was home and I drank when he left. Now I just found out that I am Pregant..So how much could the drinking affect the baby. I am not sure if I am keeping the baby yet, or how he will even take the news. We love each other, but I am not to sure I can do this all alone. It will be my frist child and his. He will be back from Iraq in nine months. So he would miss the entire pregancy and maybe even the birth. I am not scared to tell my parents. I just want him to be well the first one to know. I am very confussed..It doesnt help that we are young I am 19, I'll be 20 in dec and he is 21..
2007-01-16 23:09:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I stoped drinking as soon as I found out which was today..I will not drink anymore while I am pregnant. I am in the very early stages of the pg. I have a doctors apt this week..
2007-01-17 00:13:56 · update #1
I drank pretty much the entire time while my boyfriend was on leave from Iraq and then drank on the 12th at my girls night where me and many females who have men in sand box get together to keep each other strong and faithful...
2007-01-17 00:15:24 · update #2
Okay.. i know how you feel!!! My husband is military also. I dont know where you live, but we are stationed in Japan and he leaves quite a bit for TDY's. Drinking is DEFFINENTLY not good for the fetus by any means. But its not like you inttentionally drank knowing you were pregnant!!! I would say the baby is fine as long as you dont drink again. That happens to alot of people, and it happened to me before i knew i was pregnany with my son. You dont know your pregnant that early when your not planning it so you go out and have fun and do things. I wouldnt stress about it. But if i were you i would keep the baby!!! There are soooo many support groups through the military and so many other wives that can help you. I have a four year old and i pretty much do it by myself. Its very rewarding. I know your having alot of mixed emotions! But deff. think it through. But the drinking thing....dont stress over it. You DIDNT KNOW.... jsut dont drink anymore. CONGRATS and good luck to you both!!!!!!!!
2007-01-17 00:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by s k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant when my husband came home from Iraq for good...The month I found out I was pregnant we were drinking alot and when I found out I quit all together. The baby should be fine but you shouldn't drink anymore. Also, I am going to tell you what I think and you may not like it....If the baby is your boyfriend's then you need to tell him. If you are doubting if it is his or not then you should still tell him. There is nothing in this world that is better than honesty in a relationship and being a military wife I have seen guys and girls go over there and lose the one thing they love at home, and they never make it back. I am 34 weeks pregnant with our first child and I know that this baby means the world to my husband but when he is only a couple months old his daddy will be going back to Iraq for a year. We live in a small town in the middle of nowhere and I don't have any friends or family here and I dont know how I will make it on my own but it is worth a shot to find out. I would have rather had my husband miss my entire pregnancy then to miss out on our childs first words, steps, birthday and holidays, but you know what you get yourself into when you are attached to the military. I could be rude and tell you that you made your bed, now lie in it....but what good would that do? You are not too young for a baby. You just have things in your life that you want to do that you haven't done yet, and honestly, I gave everything up to be pregnant and I will devote all my love for parties and hanging out with friends and going out all the time, to my child. You were old enough to know what you were doing while you were having sex, you can take care of a baby. Trust me, everything will work out for you somehow and someway. Good Luck.
2007-01-16 23:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by MyOpinionMatters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first couple of weeks are cells splitting for the most part and the chances of a couple of drink horribly affecting the fetus are slim. But there are no definites with this. You won't know until the baby is born. My suggestion is to stop drinking now and when you can, have an amnio done to check things out. Be very honest with the doctor and nurse, you should be approved for one under the circumstances. But I honestly wouldn't stress it too much. Think about how many people that didn't know they were preggers for a month or two drank and the babies were fine.
2007-01-17 00:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The alchol is very bad for the baby but if you stop drinking now your baby should be just fine. If you do not your baby could develop fetal alchol syndrome.....but again if you stop now the baby should be fine.
Don't worry about being to young to HAVE the baby. If you are not sure about being able to care for the baby after the birth know that there are hundreds of thousands of parents that would love to adopt.
Please remember that you are carrying a person inside you. By the time you hit five weeks your little one's heart will be beating. Make sure that you do not let anyone convince you that what you are carrying is anything other then a baby. Check out http://www.babycenter.com/fetaldevelopment/
It will give you are good visual on what is going on inside you. Whatever you do PLEASE do not end the pregnancy.
If you are not sure if you can handle raising your child don't feel bad. Know that there are many many wonderful families that would give your child a great home.
There are so many great options out there. Abortion is not even a good option. Please know that things CAN work out for the best but it is up to the choices that you make. If you need more info please feel free to contact me.
2007-01-16 23:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Today is the Day 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happens to most women, women dont think that they are preparing for pregnancy, so are drinking or doing other substances without a care in the world until the discover they're pregnant. I too was drinking before finding out I was pregnant and when I went a spoke to a drugs and alcohol councillor they told me not to worry about it, now that its over and done with as long as I dont continue to do it. which I dont. The most severe thing that happens is babies get fetal alcohol syndrome, which could lead to brain damage, retardness, etc but this only happens 99% of the time when the mothers are alcoholics, so please dont stress too much.
The decision to keep the baby is upto you, but i dont think you should worry about the alcohol too much, many women take a lot of harder substances such as herion and crack, and the babies are fine, but i know its the mothers feelings to worry that they will have harmed their baby.
Just take your time and speak to your health advisor, tell them your fears and worries and see if they can help you.
Good Luck and Stay Strong
2007-01-16 23:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by carrienicholson23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i didn't know i was pregnant with my first child till 21 weeks and i was all ways out on the piss with my mate and husband at the time 'when i found out i was like you in shock as i drank smoked and clubbing.my baby was a healthy 6lb 12 oz.not side affects she is now a 21 yr old and doesn't drink (funny).and good luck with your relationship a lot of women are apart from the one they love and manage some have the best relationships so don't think your on your own as you will have family and friends x
2007-01-16 23:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by diane o 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the first thing is... Please, do not abort your baby. IF ANYTHING, give it up for adoption. there are so many couples out there who would love a baby of their own. please visit this link, honey. if you think abortion is the way...
http://www.recycle.co.za/Message/abortion.htm
and, By the way, I am young as well and pregnant with my first, (21) believe me... you can handle it! being pregnant is so great.and If he reacts badly to a baby you and his love created... shame on him! now, how long into the pregnancy did you drink? many mothers drink right before they know they are pregnant, and It usually does not afect the baby. if you drank up until your missed period, and then stopped drinking, you will probably be fine. if its been 2 months or 3... you need to ask a doctor their opinion. I understand you are discouraged about your boyfriend being away for most of the pregnancy, but keep him updated as much as possible, involve him any way you know how! :) you got pregnant for a reason... a good reason, whatever it is! but please, dont take the life of YOUR child. it is your baby. I am not trying to preach, and in no way am i a religious nut... I just feel strongly about this. remember, there is adoption. :) I hope you make a good decision... and congratulations..!!! this is a happy time!
2007-01-16 23:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mary Moon 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Little One,
I know one thing, your baby is the most important thing in you life and you should treat it with every possible well treatment you can deliver. If you have drank in the past it will not harm the baby at all. Remember to start a good life style right now. You are going to be fine.You should watch everything you eat and drink from now on. God Bless You.
TDCWH
2007-01-16 23:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by TDCWH 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, one thing's for certain, your baby will get affected. Because what you drink or eat will also be taken in by the baby. And you know alcohol is not good for you, then much it is for the baby. I think you should go see a doctor about that. Tell him your problem, because you don't know whever a baby is already there when you were drinking alcohol. He will know the solution for your problem and that's the best thing to do.
2007-01-16 23:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by Cur10u5_m1nD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to worry about the alchole you had in the beging you stopped when you found out so it wont harm the baby. you were at that time probley a month pregnant but I'm sure you didn't drink very heavy. usually when there is a family thing they sometimes allow a family member to come home early. if you want him to be there for the birth but he wont be home at that time have someone tape it. sorry about my spelling. you can let your doctor know you had a drink before you found out she/he can resure you.
2007-01-16 23:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by rosemommy2be 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋