I'm 16 and I've been sleeping wiht my mums ex boyfriend who is 46 but its all very hush hush as he has children older than me. Now my period is 2 weeks late, I feel sick and my boobs hurt so I can only assume I am pregnant.
I have a really good job starting soon at the end of january and if I am I might have to turn it down and its a really good opportunity.
I have started renting a house off a relative with my friend and I'm not going o be able to pay for it.
I can't tell my mum or dad as if they find out who the baby's is they will kill me.
He's not a pervert sex is legal in this country at 16. I really love him and want to be with him but I can't as he would leave round here if I am pregnant. I really don't know what to do please help.
2007-01-16 22:32:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I see nothing wrong with this situation as long as he keeps screwing you.
2007-01-17 00:06:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I keep thinking about you and this horrible situation.
First - take a pregnancy test to make sure. If your period is two weeks late - and you are pregnant - you are probably 1 month pregnant and a test will show it.
Next - get away from this guy. He has made it clear he is not going to take care of you.
Ask yourself - and ask yourself HARD - do you want to raise a child? Raising a child means always putting the child first. You are only 16. Can you do that? What can you provide for this child? My personal opinion is that you should NOT raise a child. The decisions you've made to get you into this situation PROVE that you are not mature enough or ready to be a parent. If you were to raise the child - I don't know what the paternity laws are in your country - but here in the states - you could force your Mum's ex to pay child support. But - then - of course - everyone would have to know that he is the father.
If you believe in abortion - that would be a very quick fix. Think about it though - is it right for a baby to die because you made some really bad decisions?
Another option is this. Find a family who wants to adopt who will support you until you have the baby. There is probably a family who would be willing to do this - as newborns to adopt are few and far between. They may even put up somewhere - in aplace where your parents never see you while you're pregnant.
Also - I've read in past postings that you drink - and get drunk - you'll have to stop doing that - as it can harm the baby - and nobody wants to adopt a baby that was in the womb of a drinking woman. And if you choose to keep the child - you'll be raising a child with disabilities that were inflicted by you. How hard would that be to look at and know every day of your life?
I hope you do the right thing. You are in my thoughts.
2007-01-20 03:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by liddabet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not know that if abortion is legal in the place where u r living.If u do not want to keep the baby..then u can have an abortion as quick as possible.Because u r just not matured enough to have a baby.hun...Life is beautiful..u need to see it..feel it...itz not wise being so careless.And if u do want to or have to keep the baby...u can tell your parents that u got pregnant by some other guy who went abroad.i can understand how u must feel..but if that guy leaves u because u r pregnant..he doesn't love u.U should have a talk with him.If he even cares for u a bit...he'll help u out.babe...look around...u'll find people who really care for u.He has family and children and he's never going to give the relationship you share a title or a name.the sooner u realise it,the better.take care...good luck:)
2007-01-16 22:42:45 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah sex is legal in that country whateva it is at 16 but damn gurl with a 46 year old man.... u is trippin i say u is f u c k e d in the head first.....now when ya mother finds out who the baby is from u is f u c k e d by her... u nasty...i bet it waz all wrinkled wasnt it....ummmm...just kindin but try takin a pregnancy test and depending on how long u had ure period it can be late sometimes it takes a while for it to be regular....an ya boobs can be hurtin cause its about to come on u ovulate 2 week before ya period and 2 weeks after symptoms like cramps and boobs hurtin an all that other stuff can be symptoms that its comin on ..so just chill be sure...before u tell anyone.....and plezz find somone a little younger....
2007-01-17 00:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by Video Phone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sweet 16 what are you doing with a 46 year old in the first place..
What happend happend c if you can go to the doctor and get help .. bcs at 16 life is starting and you must be with somone your age and no old like your dad ... I dont call that love it a fantacy you had.. try to get over it and let him help you ..Good luck and take care sweety
2007-01-16 22:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by amyhamad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to take a pregnany test or go to a doctor and make sure u really are preg. Then if you are, you are going to have to tell your parents the truth.
2007-01-16 22:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what love is. He is a ******* pervert!!!! He needs to go to jail and you need to tell your mom what's up. You will be so sorry if your not honest with someone!
2007-01-16 22:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by pinkness775 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god what a big mistake u have make.How come u have sex with your mother ex-boyfriend.l think u better ask him to bring u for a medical checkup.
2007-01-18 15:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
face the truth and accept the consequences.tell your parents to the best of your future life
2007-01-17 08:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by speedmaztyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you need help.a 46 year guy.what did he force you.so young as you are.
2007-01-16 22:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by KATEL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋