We're married almost 1 yr. Live his family is so hard to find our privacy. Even our bedroom is frequently visited by his family members and he doesn't wants to close the door expect when I'm breastfeeding my baby. They involve our life too much and always tell us to do this, do that even with my daughter. He say nothing but wanted me to listen to them. Told me he'll never move out, want to stay with them forever to help and take care of them. His dad 53 mom 46 and they're both working and also his sis. I'm dying for my privacy. I've been thinking about moving out but my daughter will be with one parent. how am i stand on my feet seeing my daughter without her dad?
thanks
2007-01-16 22:30:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You must have known this would be the case prior to your marriage to your husband!! Time to talk to him about your feelings and let him know that you guys now have your own family and that you want (and deserve!!) your privacy. Good luck to you.
2007-01-16 22:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to seriously sit your spouse down and tell him enough is enough. You're married now and you should be in a place of your own. Your husbands parents aren't OLD and they both work so they do not need taking care of. I'm sure they want you both out too!!!!!!!
If after you've set a GOAL and a time frame to move out---your spouse doesn't comply then it's time to take the BULL by the HORNS and you move out into your own place. At least you and your child will have privacy.
Married couples should be in their own place with their own things and privacy. It sounds like the household you live in has no respect for you or your spouse! Walking in on you when you're in your own bedroom is rude!! When a persons door is closed means they want privacy---I'm surprized you have a child with the lack of privacy you claim not to have in this house!
You can stand on your own 2 feet---you've made your bed---now you make the decision to get out of that bed and move it to a new place to have your privacy!
2007-01-17 06:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say why you are living with your husbands family. You are going to have to decide what is best for you and your baby. It is hard to raise a child alone but it can be done. There is help out there for you if you should decide to move out with your daughter. It is time for your husband to grow up he has his own family to support. I understand he wants to be there for his family but it sounds like they are still in good health. I know it is a hard decision to make but im sure you will do what is best for you and your daughter. Good Luck.
2007-01-17 06:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by Sherri W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not worth breaking a marriage for the sake of privacy from family members. After marriage you must consider your husbands parents and brothers and sisters as part of your family. They add to your security and protection. You must evolve systems and procedures and timings that ensure your privacy. your dad and mom in laws are quite young and working people. If you act correctly you can impress on them to leave you and your husband alone, for some time.
2007-01-17 06:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make the decision that you know is right for you. If your child is raised by an unhappy parent, it will be an unhappy child. You already know in your heart what you want to do, now you just have to do it. You asked 'how will you stand on your feet' well the answer to that is the same way you have always stood on them!
2007-01-17 06:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by poutanaki4u 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move out. If your husband cares that his daughter might grow up without him, he will make sure to follow you out of the door and nothing or no one will stop him.
2007-01-17 08:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think his parents would like it if you all moved out of their home. They are still young themselves. You should try to get to go to school to learn a little better English and then you will have lots of confidence. then make a decision. they should support you on going to school and if they dont I would move right away, I would want my daughter to learn proper English from her own Mom, good luck
2007-01-17 06:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it from someone who is in a similar situation, move out and show your spouse you will not tolerate this.
2007-01-17 07:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋