Is my relationship ending? I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and we live together. I'm not sure he was ready for the move because it wasn't something we talked about, it was because of a situation I was having at home. Anyway, I constantly catch him on craigslist looking at their personals site and I've confronted him about it. He tells me that he just wants to see what's out there. I told him that if he continues looking at the site then I was leaving. Recently, I caught him looking again. Does he even care? He tells me he loves me but he does stuff like look at personal sites and stuff. Then when I talk about our future, he starts "joking around" saying we're not getting married or having kids. what should I do? I love him but i'm looking for someone I can have a future with. Someone please help!
2007-01-16 22:24:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I'm sure he cares but guys will be guys. Hey i feel he can look all he want but when it comes to me all eyes better be on me. Give him another chance if he actually is with them than that a problem i. i don't thing it's ending i just think you guys are getting older and careless give it time girl!
2007-01-17 14:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was recently in a similar situation, I chose to leave after about a year of living that way, I was very in love with him and we were together for two and a half years but even though it was extremely hard I eventually realized leaving was the best possible thing I could have done, the thought of it was terrifying but it will get better. Don't waste your time anymore with someone who hurts you and someone who tells you he doesn't want a future with you, it'll never be worth it. Good luck!
2007-01-16 22:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by Alicia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My last relationship ended because I found out that my ex (okay this could take awhile) A) Was cheating on me with everything that moved such as a 13 year old, a 15 year old, and a 17 year old (the 17 year old was the girlfriend of one of my good friends he's 20 btw or was at that time rather). B) He was physically and mentally abusive and had me convinced that I couldn't survive without him, that everyone thought I was ugly, and that I'd never find anyone that loved me as much as he did. and C) I found someone better, sweeter, and far better endowed and better in bed and I fell in love with him, married him, and had his baby.
2016-05-23 23:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This living together part of the relationship didn't start out very good so I'm guessing your boyfriend may feel boxed in.
Find a way to get your own place and then reevaluate your relationship.
I really don't think either of you are ready for marriage so I would put that on the back burner for a long while.
2007-01-16 22:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when a man wants marriage or commitment with you, they outright say it. Your guy sounds like you are a temporary partner to him. So ma dear do your self a favour, get out and build yourself up intime to meet a serious person. Even if you try talking to him, chances are that he will tell you a lot of stories like not now but sometimes in the future blhblahblah which is totally dismissal.
Give him a chance to say that though but dont be cheated. He still has his eyes glued "out there"
Good luck
2007-01-16 22:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by LadyK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sucks to invest so much time in someone and find out that they are doing/being something that you don't like.
I recently broke it off with mine of 2 1/2 years.
It sucks, but if he isn't what you want/need, then you need to break it off.
Because believe me, you can't mold them into what you want them to be.
I think everyone thinks, no I don't even try to do that, but YES everyone does.
All I wanted from mine is for him to be a little more affectionate, and to not act , to other people, like we were only friends. I couldn't get that. he was set in his ways.
As is, I am sure, yours is.
If he doesn't want to get married and have kids, and you do, you are not going to persuade him any differently.
If he would 'change his mind' and you get pregnant and married, he will probably resent you.Saying that he never wanted to get married or kids.
You need someone more suited for you, and you wants/needs.
Like I said, it sucks, but why 'waste' time on something that you think you want, but in reality, just isn't.
GOOD LUCK, I may pretend to know more than I do, but you can bet on it, I am right on this one.
You are a pretty girl, and I am sure you will have no trouble finding THE ONE.
2007-01-16 23:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are not asking a question , but looking for a reassurance to your decision to move out of current relationship. If you have already made up your mind please go ahead. He is not serious and everyone needs to settle down after a while. Think where this relationship is going. If nowhere, then break off. Find someone who needs a relationship as you do. Go out life is to live and not to crib.
2007-01-16 22:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by Coolguy_punjabi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as pretty as you are? Its time to move on......if he cannot appreciate you then he's not worth your time! Obviously he doesn't appreciate you....Listen Im not trying to sound like a "hater" but I'm going to put it to you like this...I'm on just about every dating website there is...from myspace all the way down to onlinebootycall.....but once I'm with my childs mother all of my profiles EXCEPT for myspace, only because we are both on it, will be deleted!!!! No exceptions.. You need to find a real man that is worth your time and on your level as far as commitment!
2007-01-16 22:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by Ghost 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave now, while you are still young enough to make a GOOD start with a decent person. When they start with the personal ads on the internet and newspapers, then you know its time to DUMP THE JERK!!
2007-01-16 22:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by poutanaki4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just fantasizing. You should turn the tables on him and do the same thing. Let him catch you doing what he's doing to you. Check out his reactions and go from there.
2007-01-16 22:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋