We're married almost 1 yr. Live his family is so hard to find our privacy. Even our bedroom is frequently visited by his family members and he doesn't wants to close the door expect when I'm breastfeeding my baby. They involve our life too much and always tell us to do this, do that even with my daughter. He say nothing but wanted me to listen to them. Told me he'll never move out, want to stay with them forever to help and take care of them. His dad 53 mom 46 and they're both working and also his sis. I'm dying for my privacy. I've been thinking about moving out but my daughter will be with one parent. how am i stand on my feet seeing my daughter without her dad?
2007-01-16 22:10:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
he rarely touch me when we're on bed, it;s been 1 month he hasn't touch me. He tells me to do what he want and that's it. Doesn't want me to stay too closed to him, no hug, no kiss.
2007-01-16 22:16:00 · update #1
I just told him how I feel and he said"what? we;re on bed to sleep, what u want?" now i'm staying up so sad, and he;s laying next to our baby, i'm happy that he loves her very but wat about me? i;m his daughter's mother. how am i going through this?
2007-01-16 22:20:02 · update #2
Nobody will take care of my daughter when i go to work. She's too little to have her at child care. I'm getting help from cash aid and foodstamp. I let him spend the foodstamp and he also ask for my cash.
2007-01-16 22:24:55 · update #3
getting help from the county he needs to pay for child support /he doesn't want to pay chid support but asked for my help when we bought our bedroom set.
2007-01-16 22:28:13 · update #4
Your husband wants to take care of his parents? What a joke .Your husband wants his parents to take care of him,he wants to live there for ever.Sounds like he really needs a wake up call about life.You should move out ,you are holding your self and your baby back.If he really loves you he will follow you .And if he doesn't follow you make him pay for the baby's sake,your baby should not suffer,with money matters he should pay.And about your baby not having a father if he will not follow you ,your baby is better off,than to have a free loader around.
2007-01-16 22:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by knightrider 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not right. You should get some counseling, get a professional involved. The fact that he won't touch you and won't leave his parents tells me he needs some counseling bad! Don't try to do this alone. Get some help. If you can't afford a counselor, talk to your church, etc. Also, tell your family what is going on. You need some support! Do NOT try to go this alone.
2007-01-17 06:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's a jerk. and who wouldn't want to move out from their parent's house? that's just insane!! it sounds like you'd be better off with out him and on your own. if your daughter is a month old she will be old enough for daycare in 2 more weeks. i understand (being a parent myself) why you wouldn't want to put her in child care at that age but sometimes you have to do what you have to do to improve your situation and your daughter's situation. it sounds like he's controlling you with emotional abuse and you don't need that especially since you just gave birth. you will get even more cash aid and food stamps when you move out to help. once you get a job they can cut back again. as far as child support take him to court and he will either have to pay child support or go to jail. if he chooses not to stay in her life just because you leave then he doesn't really love her as much as you think. if he really loves his daughter and really wants to be a part of her life he still can be whether you are together or not. best of luck.
2007-01-17 08:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit your husband down and have a serious talk with him. Tell him exactly how you feel about this situation. When he sees how strongly you feel about this he 'should' take some action and compromise for you and the baby. Another avenue is to speak with your doctor and tell him what is going on to see if he can direct you to someone that can help you. (perhaps counceling for the whole family)
2007-01-17 06:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by bettyslp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, I really dont envy you...erm okay, you definately should be cautious about this to avaoid a major row, you should gently express oyur feelings and pout up with it everyday but always let him know how you feel about your lack of privacy, but dont insult him as it seems you are his only hope of living and you cant live alone, you cant cope, hopefully you are over 20 and can sort something out soon, save money! gewt loads of jobs and wok work work, to save and move out, when you get the money just move out with your daughter asnd if he doesnt want to come then you'll see who he loves the most..but remember, be cautious and dont make things akward
Good luck!
2007-01-17 06:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by Chunkylover53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this remedy. I had one time found myself on the same trap. Just keep on closing your mouth and let actions speak more louder than openning your mouth(words)
When your partner comes in, no matter what time (but during the day will work well) just go to bed and let the dad and mom learn some thing going on....Keep on doing it for several days...and if worse comes to worst let your parner cry for the climax sex....
You will get the privacy outomatically......sorry for that. Mine worked very well infact within two days......
2007-01-17 06:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by chakaleri 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If your husband dies today what will your daughter have both parent if she can survive that why cant she now. That is an excuse and if you think you cant handle being single then don't complain and do what they want and live the rest of your life complaining and doing nothing about it
2007-01-17 06:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by auntsid 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are not happy you should leave.let the baby stay at the in laws while you are at work.If you move out maybe your husband will come with you.
2007-01-17 06:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
According to me, u should b patient. A long time has gone and it will not b too far when u will get reward of ur patience.
ur thinking anout ur baby is appreciable. b patient
2007-01-17 06:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by mrraja77 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋