My boy is in nursery this year and he has been going to school for 3 weeks already. He is toilet trained at home before we sent him to school but the thing is whenever the teacher asked him to go toilet, he will control his urine. By the end of the 4 hrs lesson, he will wet his pants. It happens everyday and its really getting me up on my nerves. No kids in his class are wetting their pants anymore and they follow the teacher when she brings them to the toilet. He doesn't wet his bed at night anymore but why is he still wetting himself in school? Can someone please help to give me some good advice? Your help is really appreciated....
2007-01-16 21:30:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Hi, I teach in a pre-school. I've worked with children who take longer than 3 weeks, and yes they do go at home. I understand how you are feeling, when my son was little he used to go for his teachers, but not at home. Try not to feel as if your son is the only one with this problem, and believe me, his teachers would have come across many others. Here are some strategies we use with the children: If a new child continuously holds their bladder then we do an assessment. He/she may not have settled in. Who are his/her friends, likes/dislikes. which teacher is he/she most comfortable with. He/she will go to the toilet even if they dont feel the need, accompanied by his/her friends and with the teacher he/she is most comfortable with. Ill also take a child and a few of his/her friends into the toilet and get them to sing songs or let them have water play in the basin. I also reward them with a stamp. If a child takes longer than usual to toilet train I involve the family by sending home a progress note or ringing them.
My advice to you would be, to ask to meet with his teacher, at the end of the day when its not so busy. Try and form a relationship so you feel comfortable talking to one another.(she should be able to initiate this). Ask how your son is settling in. Express your concerns, ask for any advice (this will let her know how concerned you are). The main aim of this meeting is so that you form a good parent/teacher relationship. And no blame has been laid by either party. Teachers are normally more attentitive towards a child when parents meet with them.
2007-01-17 01:29:35 · answer #1 · answered by Silver 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beware. The child may be having problems with personal at the school; he may be abused and be the only one who is. He may be having trouble mentally adjusting to a new environment. If you are a stay-at-home mom, he may be having feelings of abandonment. He may not be mentally capable of going there at this time. You really must seek an outside sourses such as a social worker or mental health worker to get answers. Do NOT let the school search for answers because there could be abuse of some type. Take care of you little one and do not get upset with him, he is doing his best.
2007-01-16 21:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by grannywinkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a trust issue. Unfortunately, until he learns that he can safely go to the bathroom at school (in addition to at home), he will probably continue. Check out his school toilet. What is different? What could be giving him pause? Is he unused to anyone but you taking him to the toilet? Could this be it?
This IS a situation that will eventually cure itself. Peer pressure can be a powerful thing.
2007-01-16 21:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There ought to be an administrator or supervisor of the daycare. If there is no longer any greater then call the dep. of family centers on your section. you would be able to checklist a grievance and get the license of the instructor yanked. i do no longer be taught approximately your state, yet interior the state of WI, it incredibly is an outstanding away violation of the licensing codes of a daycare provider, and that they could applicable be in some severe project. And for the record - 3 365 days olds do no longer "lie" indoors an comparable way young ones do on an identical time as they are older. they're going to state they did no longer do something on an identical time as they somewhat did, yet they are no longer of the thinking to create an finished tale to cover something they did. i think of the instructor is the liar there, and she or he could desire to have some severe project coming her way.
2016-12-13 09:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by weissinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son did the same because he didnt want the teacher or the other kids in the bathroom with him. preformance issue i guess. i dont belame him, i dont like people watching me potty either. try making him potty just before class and by all means limit liquids. maybe the teacher can let him go at a different time.. like before snack instead of after or vice versa.
2007-01-16 21:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by painfully yours 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son did this. It just takes a little time. I also got the idea to take him to the mall and we hung out there a little and got him to use the public restrooms to get used to unfamiliar potties. Turned out that the potty at his school was the open horseshoe shaped seat common to public restrooms and he was intimidated by it.
2007-01-17 00:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by mumof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to spend a day in class and go with him to the bathroom.he may be scared to go because other kids are in the classroom right out side the bathroom.
2007-01-16 22:04:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you may have to goto class with him a few times or talk to the teacher make sure he whips his junk out and goes. maybe she can yell at him with his pants down scare the hell out of him.
2007-01-16 21:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋