I am engaged and have been for the past yr. My fiancé used to send me text messages atleast 3 times during the day just to find out how i am doing at work! I now send him text messages and he doesn't reply and when he does he just repeats what i have sent him, ie: hey, i love you with all my heart and soul and cannot stop thinking about you. Then he sends : hey, love u 2! when i phone him he says he is busy (and i usually phone him during his luch hour). And when i ask him what he is doing then he said he has gone to the Supermarket with his brother. Is this just an excuse to not talk to me???
2007-01-16 21:15:24 · 8 answers · asked by Roxxy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well when we are together he doesn't give me much attention he would rather sit and surft the internet on his cell phone. He does it atlest 2 hrs every night, does that mean he is bored with me??? He has cheated on me a couple of months ago over the internet on some sex site but when i tried to leave he cried and asked me to stay. I have given him another chance but i am starting to get irritated. Is he just controlling?
2007-01-16 21:28:16 · update #1
We need more information - how is he the rest of the time? Has his attitude toward you changed when you're actually together..?
Sounds like his job has just got busier - have you asked him how things are at work - maybe one of his colleagues has left so he's taken more on... or perhaps he has started taking his lunch hour with some friends so he doesn't want to be rude and take a call in their company.
How are things when you are together? Do you live together? Does he seem distant or more busy generally?
2007-01-16 21:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i asked the same question about my boyfriend, when i first met him he would be making all the phone calls and sending all the text messages, but now his kinda stopped and the tables have turned and its me who does all the work!
Most men change and dont chase anymore.
But, that does not mean they dont care/love there girlfriend anymore.
the best advice what was giving to me and what i put to the test and IT DID WORK! was to back off a little, dont ignore this guy but dont text as much and i would stop all phone calls, then it leaves him no option but to get in contact with you.
I found it does work but the only hard thing is taking control and sticking with it, and also when he does text dont be so keen to reply back straight away.
If that gets you know where, and i cant see why not, then the only option left is to sit him down and talk to him, and see if you both can compromise.
Good luck, and learn patience!
2007-01-17 05:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by ice_castles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be an excuse but it sounds like there is some sort of communication problem with you and him. This is something you're really going to want to sort out before you get married. He may feel like he needs a little time to himself every once in a while, you know? Something completely natural with men. However, he may also be going threw some commitment issues and needs your reassurance. The best advice I can give you is to ask he about it. If you're going to spend the rest of your life with this man, you should be able to talk to him about everything no matter what. I'm sure he wants to talk to you, he just may have a lot on his mind and needs to sort it all out. Just be there for him.
2007-01-17 05:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by Som31 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In simple words he is 'avoiding' you. May be there is a new pretty girl at his office. They say 'absence makes a heart grow fonder', this might have been true 20 years ago or more, but today absence may make a boy/girl lose interest.
2007-01-17 05:22:26 · answer #4 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, you are officially being blown off or ignored (are they actually one and the same?).
Your best tactic is to begin searching for another guy, and piss him off with jealousy.
2007-01-17 05:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by Lt. Dan reborn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eeek - sorry, but I'd be feeling smothered if I was him. You don't need to be living in each others pockets. Is it absolutely necessary to call him so much?
2007-01-17 05:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by ForeverAnAngel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb hes really busy u knw n is not able to find time 4 u.
2007-01-17 05:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you got the message.
2007-01-17 05:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by blue2blnde 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋