My ex broke up with me. Our relationship was supposed to work out well. Then she went for her holiday trip to uk while i waited for her for three weeks back in the country faithfully. But when she came back, she changed. I don't know how but she changed. But she also worked for a month before school started after she came home coz she needed cash so i waited for her again for a month. So she dumped me when school restarted, saying that she just wanted to be friends and now i still love her and haven't gotten over her. So i texted her two weeks later to ask if she's over me yet and she said ' I'm ok with it...' Somebody, please tell me what the hell that means?......Does it mean that i still have a chance to ask her to be my gf again?.....I really care and cherish the relationship i used to have with her....
2007-01-16 21:10:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on Dude! This one's a lost cause. Save your affection for that new chick that's waiting for ya just around the corner.
2007-01-16 21:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by irmaynerds 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel and ask her for her honest answer, "is there any hope of reconciling". You must then respect her answer.
Maybe travelling has opened her eyes to a whole new world out there and she doesn't want a relationship where she is tied down, maybe she has decided you are not the one for her.
If she is back at school l assume you are both still young, please try and see that you have years ahead of you and this may not be the last "true love" in your life.
Be kind to yourself, when the right person comes along they will appreciate and love you and it will be worth the wait, in the meantime love yourself, be good to yourself and enjoy life, move on if need be and surround yourself with true friends and family.
Good-Luck and remember you are Special
2007-01-17 05:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by wondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, it seems like something happened while she was on holiday or working.... perhaps someone else piqued her interest? It's hard to say without actually being there (even though most people will tell you that she cheated on you), but I think the gist of her text message is that she is okay with the breakup and in a non-devastating way, she is telling you that she's moved on (which leans towards another man while you were dating). Please know that I'm not saying any of this maliciously or with intent to hurt you. But you need to move on without her. She's moved on without you.
Also, please don't harp too much on what happened while she was on holiday or working. I know that it is a burning question and you will want to know the answer. However, you need to ask yourself if you are prepared for the truth. In most cases, people will get emotionally caught up and want to know everything..... only to have the answers hurt them even more. If you can't handle the answer, don't ask the question.
My Advice to you.... that was a BAD text message from her and you should give yourself time to get over her and move on. I wish you nothing but the best in this difficult time.
2007-01-17 05:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by Paulyterp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She found new "experiences" likely with a new guy that she really likes and has compared it with the feelings she has for you and your relationship came up short.
"I'm OK w/ it." ... Sounds like she OK with being over you, but the door MAY be open a little. However, I doubt that it will work. Best thing you can do for yourself is to find someone else. I think that would blow her socks off and possibly make her reconsider.
2007-01-17 05:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without reading the whole thing....
You really don't CARE what she means by that.
because you are more interested in someone else that is more promising to your well being.
You know what I'm say-in man?
You keep thinking like that and you will be on the wrong side of relationships or on the no side of them for long intervals.
2007-01-17 05:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Tyson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it is a horrible thing to hear, but i think she met someone else and by saying i am ok with it means that she is over you. Forget about her and find someone who is willing to give 100% to a relationship just as you are!
I am really sorry for what happened, good luck!!!
2007-01-17 05:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by Roxxy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely over my friend. She's trying to be nice, but she doesn't want to see you again.
Do yourself a favor and abort this mission, it's a fast-track to nowheresville.
She is not going to get back with you, she has lost that loving feeling.
It is tough, it hurts, but ya gotta get on with things. I can tell you life does get better, you just can't see that when you are hurting.
2007-01-17 05:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lt. Dan reborn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The key phrase her is used to. I think you need to accept it is over and while you were good together things have changed and you are now on different paths. If she is ok with it it is time you got ok with it to. Focus on yourself and work out what it is you want to do with your life not what you thought to do with her in it
2007-01-17 05:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude she is absolutely fine with being apart from you, and was probably planning the breakup before the trip to the uk.
2007-01-17 05:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by funtripman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to realize that 'the feeling is gone' for her. It happens and the best thing for you is to let that go. Otherwise you will risk the chance of becoming strongly obsessed which can lead you to 'restraining orders'.
2007-01-17 05:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋