I recently fall in love with Christian girl, who is compatible in hobbies, interests, age and etc. but the problem lies our religious. I'am willing to accepting her for who she is but she do not feel it's right for a Christian to start a relationship with non-Christian. She influenced by this statement which her sisters in church emphasise. But how true is it, does a pair of lovers get separated from each other just because of different religious. Isn't that no different from people of different races can't be with each other. Do I really have to become give up my root religious just because I love her very much. How can I convinced her, when she reading up on stories that is only one-sided. I believe that cases like this does occur for some.
2007-01-16 21:01:37 · 12 answers · asked by ButterMilkQueso 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
dump her, you shouldn't go out with such close minded person, go out with atheist, they will accept you
2007-01-16 21:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Are you really a buddhism guy? As far as i know, Buddhists think it's better not to cling him/herself to the worldly phenomena.
I was a Christian, and think am not anymore now since i started learning Buddhism. I know that there many open minded Christians that are able to accept differences. It is important to state or ensure from the beginning, that both of you do really understand the consequences to take this 'challenging' path. Sure, it's not just about religions, more it's about way of life if you have been a buddhism guy seriously along this time, and for her in Christianity.
I'm not acting as guru to tell you what to do. But when we can not handle this feeling of 'love', it will be harder to face the consequences. You have learned a lot what so called 'suffering', how it arises and how to cease.
Anyway, it's the path of learning this life, go if you think you must go and get the best from your way.
Good luck,
Eddy
PS: dd said very truthfully in simple manner: Rise in love rather than falling in love.
2007-01-16 22:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by eddyg30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most religions discourage relationships between between believers and non-believers. There are issues such as how children should be raised, as well as a fear that the believer will stray. From my experience, different christians pay different amount of attention to that. I have seen happy relationships between christians and non-christians.
What I would say is, decide which is more important, your beliefs or the girl. It sounds like you have to make a choice between them, and you should take time to ensure you make one that you don't regret. If her family is religious as well as her, you will be put under tremendous pressure to convert to christianity, so if you don't want to give up your beliefs, I'm sorry to say you must give up your hopes on the girl.
2007-01-16 21:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by Tom :: Athier than Thou 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that she is bended more to a religion not to the true teaching of Jesus ,becouse Jesus didnt forbid such marriages by contrary he said :
1 Corinthians 7,13-14 13And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
Show her this verse from Bible and tell her she is doing nothing wrong if she marry u. Becouse Jesus dont want us to follow a religion but a single perfect law and that is LOVE.
Now show her this verse :
1 Corinthians 13
Love
1If I speak in the tongues[a] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
2007-01-16 22:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by bia b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes women make excuses so that men they like but don't love, will not pursue them in a romantic way, is it possible that is what she is doing?
Many, many couples have different religions, the common factor is love and compatibility.
I really don't think it is like two different races getting married, because religion is a mental and not a physical thing.
2007-01-16 21:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you should give up your religion.
I have two sets of friend I will tell you about.
Joe is an athiest, his wife is a Christian, They love and respect each other. Their fourth grandchild was born about 6 months ago.
Michael is a Tibetan Lama, and his wife is a Catholic. They have children and grandchildren.
The Beatles line "Love is all you need" seems very apt.
Tell her that you love her, and are NOT trying to convert her to your perspective.
2007-01-16 23:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Rev. Two Bears 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, couples with similar values would cope better. But I have a Buddhist friend who is married to a Christian, and both of them are devout to their religions. My friend socializes with her husband's friends from his church, and her husbands do the same with my friend's friends from the temples that she goes to. The key is they never impose their religions on each other. Actually they both think that as time pass by, the other will eventually be converted. But it works for them.
2007-01-16 21:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she really loves you she will learn about Buddhism. Then only she can decide which religion to choose. Tell her about Buddhist meditation and upliftings of the mind. Once she starts practicing meditation, she will realize her self that only Buddhism can bring her enlightenment. All other religions know only to pray to an external supremo.
2007-01-16 21:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by Real_Truth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Christian perspective on the matter:
The Bible tells us not be "unequally yolked" in personal relationship and religion.
The Bible also tells us that a wife is a reflection of her husband. If you married this woman, eventually she would become less and less Christian and more and more Buddhist, not because you wanted her to be necessary, but because it is the curse of women to want to please men instead of God.
Hence, marrying you would change her religion and she would lose her eternal salvation.
Is it better to have a few decades of love and then suffer for eternity? I don't think so. If you love this woman, let her go. Or you could get saved and then everything would be great!
My guess is the only other answers you're going to get from this board "religion is bunk man," "dump her dude" and "love should be enough" and those aren't really answers that are going to help you in the long run.
2007-01-16 21:04:35 · answer #9 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 2⤊ 5⤋
please dont listen to the girl who gave you that first answer! she's a christian, all they want to do is convert other people to their religion, and that is not always a good thing! you are buddist, so are you going to take advice from someone who wants you to be 'saved'? she really means 'converted'. you love this girl, so go for it! if she loves you back then religion wont matter to her. its all in the mind. . good luck.
2007-01-16 21:26:31 · answer #10 · answered by Irish Girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rise in love rather than falling in love
2007-01-16 21:12:31 · answer #11 · answered by dd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋