There's a frnd of mine who says that he loves me..But i' don t love him.I like him but i dont want to be in any relationship with him..He is nice and i know that he loves me more than any one can ever do...My heart says yes but mind says no.Somehow its 25%yes n75%no. Wat shall i do???Help please.
2007-01-16 20:58:16 · 24 answers · asked by Rose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear ma'am, I would just say to you that accepting someone's love is another thing but you will have to go with him forever.This is kind of long time project.Before accepting his love you will have to think about your life. His madness may be uncertain one day it will be going off...you are in normal state so think about your secure life.
And if he can give you secure life then go with him. but if there is no such security then ask him to wait and improve himself...By that time no any such commitment......always we have to remember that....life will be happiest when there is complete balance of love and security. Don't jump blindly..if somebody has jumped give him a hand to get direction..so that fall in love can become rise in love...in this way you will be respecting his love simultaneously giving him a direction. If truly loves then he can have enough patience.
But say honestly..don't hang him up for long time..
...follow your heart but use your brain. Balance is major requirement.
Best wishes!!
2007-01-16 22:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by nbgl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Rose, as a female you should soon get used to guys falling madly in love with you. The fact is that you cannot love all of them so you will have to make choices. For this purpose God has given you a brain (mind). So you should blindly go with your mind. In this case your mind says NO. There will come a time in your life when the heart over-rules the mind this normally happens when you are in love. Best of Luck.
2007-01-16 21:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by the Tramp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest and tell him that you know how he feels but you just cant return that to him. If he really likes you as a friend he will probably get depressed for a while, maybe do some dumb stuff and eventually get over you. Then, hopefully you can hang out together without him obsessing over what he cant have.
You might also consider asking yourself what it is that you dont like about him. could that be changed? could he be worth that effort? if so he might be a very loyal loving mate...
really tough question to answer without knowing you and or him more personally. you should try asking someone you respect. a parent, best friend, or a teacher maybe.
good luck,
trev-
2007-01-16 21:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by trevathecleva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the philosophy i would like to follow is that u sit at some quiet corner of ur house and think why u like that person as u said that ur heart says yes, if u find 0 reason then it means that u luv him
but if u have a list of what do u like abt him( nt like nature, kindness etc-- the real ones) then it means that it is just a crush and not luv.
think nicely
best of luk
have a gud day
2007-01-16 22:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by krish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to decide NOW then...
75% > 25%
so you go with the 75%.
I would suggest you give it some time...
if the 25 starts to increase you can still go on with your heart...
but if it stys stagnent or decreases the my friend NO is the best answer.
So much for arthemetics....
If you really need help on deciding this one speak to your well wishers..(parents/siblings/friends)
2007-01-16 21:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Ankur Chaturvedi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get into a relationship unless and until you are 100% sure. Here its only 25%....so u know what to do. Its better give some time to your friendship to grow. Dont indulge into any complicated relationship at this point.
2007-01-16 22:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmmmmmmmmm OK but you didnt tell if you love some one else?
Nevertheless just listen to your mind and do as your 75% tells you to do coz love cant be forced and when one day you would fall in love you wouldnt ask any one.
Take care and Have fun!
2007-01-16 21:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a comfort, if you do not love him you should let him know, be upfront and honest and while it may hurt him in the long run it is better for both of you if he can then turn his attention to someone that will actually love him back, while the attention is good at the moment is it worth a friendship in the long run?
2007-01-16 21:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont force yourself into a relationship with him. take your time even if he pressurises you with an immediate answer. only if youre completely comfortable and willing should you be getting into this. else later down, you'll end up either breaking up(like i did once to get out of a frustrating relationship) and causing him a lot of pain, or living with him and regretting it for the rest of your life..
2007-01-17 00:22:46 · answer #9 · answered by may_L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it no to him? You should follow your heart not your head- I did this and lost the first love of my life. It is a sad thing but you need to let him know how you feel before he gets heartbroke!
2007-01-16 21:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by LSD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋