Like a guy. Hes just come out of long term relationship. We have been friends for a while. He knows I like him but he doesnt feel the same even though he has been giving me mixed signals for many months! Anyways he said to me he was going to a speed dating thing last night but then said only joking but he had been asked. I then said i had made the right decision (meaning not wanting to get with him) Then this morning im on msn and he msn's me saying that last night he went to the gym, watched tv so nothing exciting. Why would he tell me that? Why does he even care when he says he doesnt!
2007-01-16 20:47:44 · 19 answers · asked by Kyra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he knows you like him then he's probably just finding comfort in the attention. If a guy likes you there'll be no mixed messages - he'll let you know outright one way or another. Stop wasting your time on this game player and find someone who is worth your time.
2007-01-16 20:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has just come out of something long term he is probably not the best person to jump into a relationship, even though you say you have known each other for a while. Maybe cut down the contact with him for a while, don't be rude or anything but just keep things on a need to know basis, try and distance yourself for a while, still try and keep the friendship if possible but maybe take a step back and give things time
2007-01-17 04:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should be asking him > Why he tell me that? Why does he even care when he says he doesn't? <
People say 'the don't care' in order to sidestep the outward appearances of hurt / rejection and so on - to defended themselves against hurt.
You could try telling him that 'you keep on seeming to get mixed messages from him' - and add how you feel about this too. You could also try telling him 'how you feel about him' and, if so inclined, 'that you are not going to hang around like a puppet waiting for him to pull a string.'
Then you could add, 'I won't bother you any more. If you want to get in touch, you know where I am...'
All of this in 'your own words' ~ And, Do NOT hold your breath while awaiting any movement.
Of course, if he or anyone doesn't come clean about how they feel, then there's nothing you can do about it and you just have to continue breathing and living your life.
Sorry I can't come up with any magic solutions for you.
Best of luck ...with everything.
Sash.
2007-01-17 06:43:16 · answer #3 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just likes the attention of knowing you are interested and you are easily available to him. If he has said he doesn't think of you in 'that way' give him a wide berth as it is your feelings that will get hurt at the end of the day. Sounds like he is stringing you along, sorry x
2007-01-17 04:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by Ally32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is either trying to get you to react of he is just having you on. I would ask him outright and tell him NO joking. If he says he is not interested in you as a date, move on, there are other fish in the sea. If he jokes with you tell him you consider that a no and move on. If he cant seriously tell you where his heart is at do you want to live in limbo??
2007-01-24 14:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by Lezleykay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go careful only you saying your getting mixed signals might be your mind playing tricks on you. think about it, him saying these thing could be easily taken as friendship, i mean he as also told you how he feels. i think you should leave your feeling be, i know its hard but he really needs a good Friend right now after his break up. just be cool about your friendship just chill. good luck
2007-01-17 05:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by l.a. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the moment he values you as a friend.
But if you want more from him, make a move.
Try the full seduction thing with candles, wine food etc.
That is if you REALLY want him.
But consider whether you value him more as a friend....they last longer.....
2007-01-17 04:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by dawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesnt want to hurt your feelings but if u know he isnt interested then forget him and find sum1 else. Dnt waste your time with him. xx
2007-01-17 06:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is still feeling mixed up. Move on hun he isnt ready for a relationship yet
2007-01-17 05:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by brain of britain777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don,t know perhaps he likes you,but thinks you don,t like him.Why don,t you just have an open chat about your freindship and include the possible relationship developing,this may clear up all the confusion and put both your minds at ease.
2007-01-17 04:54:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋