I met this guy about a year ago. We started dating but after a few months decided we were better friends. I moved 6 hrs away for a job and he decided he wanted to come with me. We have been living together for about 5 months now. When we are out or he is in a good mood he flirts with me and we have ended up hooking up quite a few times. We live like we are married (share finances and everything) but he says we are still just friends. Now I have fallen for him and he is not interested but still acts the same way and he is up set that he does not have enough privacy and I act like his wife. How do I fix this situation before it gets any worse?
2007-01-16 20:41:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can't move away until our lease is up in 6 more months.
2007-01-16 20:47:05 · update #1
Moving in with him was the first big mistake. As much as we want to once we have slept with someone more than once or been in a relationship it is very hard to cut those ties and just become friends. the fact that you have developed very strong feelings doesn't really help. You probably do act like a wife in that you want to know where he is who he is spending time with etc. Still sharing finances? are you crazy you need to cut the financial ties and not share a house with him anymore. It is only making you miserable and no doubt he is not too crazy on it wither (except maybe sharing your finances)
2007-01-16 20:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the situation you explained is seemingly odd, even for "dating games" standard. There is a point when all bullshit must cease, it does get irritating after a while.
Sometimes, or allot of the time, we all do things similar like this to keep attention of another or of others. Meaning we play games with one another, and sometimes they are all a person is about.
If its not a game then he has a issue with something. Either way, its time to let the bullshit out of the bag and tell him what you just said. Do not create an ultimatum, just express to him that you are not enjoying the wishy washy **** and if he doesn't pick up on how you are feeling towards him than you will take your feelings elsewhere. And that means that you 2 cannot live together, as it will interfere with your relationships.
You have to move along when you find yourself stuck in a situation where the future promises hardship and torment by love and hate living so close to each other.
2007-01-17 04:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by Tyson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out and do it fast!If u can afford another flat, just move out!if not,then stop sharing finances,stop makin' dinner for 2,and stop with the "wife"-stuff.The longer this drags on ,the more u will fall for him and the more u will suffer.My opinion is that he does not love u,because he is not constant in his behavior,but if u feel that he might love u,u should just talk with him,explain him how u feel and tell him that the situation is unconfortable and needs to be sorted out.I know it sounds bad,and I know that u are afraid of losing him as a friend too,but I think it's the only option.Try not to get u're heart broken!
2007-01-17 04:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by poisongirl877 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, close the account, take your name off it, and open your own. Since he seems to only want to be friends, then do that as soon as possible in case he wants to fly the coup. His motive is he knows he has you, he doesn't want any complications from a serious relationship, and he wants his cake and icing, too. "Not having enough privacy" may mean he wants enough freedom to go hunting. I'd try to find a new place to live. That way, at least, you can salvage a friendship out of the deal. Don't get yourself emotionally wrecked over this.
2007-01-17 04:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eventhough I've never experienced the same situation but I feel I know exactly how you feel. falling for someone who wants just be friends. feel there is a chance that the relationship will workout oneday, so keep hanging there and hope he will realise the special person is right next to him. have u tried to tell him that you are interested in morethan friends? if it bothers you about living with someone you have feeling for, then it's better to go separate ways. give yourself a chance to meet someone who cherish you. (am still trying to tell myself that as well :) but easy said than done.
2007-01-17 04:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him out assuming this is ur place...bc u know what life's too short to be letting people take advantage of you like this...hes...getting booty, getting a roof he's supposedely sharing, and if the #*#$ can't commit then he's not worth your time...what does he think he's doing? playing house? tell him to go find a day-care where they have competitions for this kinda bull
2007-01-17 04:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him away. Or move out, whichever. What holds him to you anyway? Let go, you are breaking your heart.
2007-01-17 04:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by pipi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move away from each other
2007-01-17 04:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree, move away from him. or else find someone else to live with. your a new guy. so that he doesnt keep playing with you like this.
2007-01-17 04:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Improve your inner quality and personality please. Keep your words and walk the talk. Love never fails. Find some one who love your soul and be a soul mate.
2007-01-17 04:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by Ginkgo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋