I just found out my bf (well, will be ex soon) went to Adult Friend Finder to look for a sex partner & in his room, there're a lot of DVD erotic & stuff like that. I was so scared & I feel that's disgusting. If he was single, I would did say anything but he is with me now & he's looking for someone else!!!! The fact I dont understand is he still says he loves me, he still want have a future with me !?!?!? I didnt tell him that I know about what he's doing but Im gonna talk to him soon! I think it's over! I just want to ask everybody if he is sick? or if he is normal??
2007-01-16 20:39:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1- Well, I dont want to be with a guy like that at all!!! That's why I said he was gonna be my ex bf soon!
2- I dont know when he got those DVD but he went to Adult Friend Finder right after me leaving his house (we spent the Xmas holiday together)
2007-01-16 20:55:40 · update #1
Normal for perverts and cheaters. I don't think you want to be with one. Porns, OK, some people like that... but looking for someone else for hookup? So NOT OK
2007-01-16 20:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cherry i went through the same thing about a year ago, i found out my bf of the time was using text msgs and stuff like that. The porn is a different story but if he is on the prowl and still with you kick his *** to the curb. They are not worth it and as long as you put up with it the more unhappy and depressed you will get. It's not going to matter if he is with you or anyone else this behaviour will continue. Once they start they usually don't stop. When they say they love you it is only so you can stay behind and be fall out girl. Take care Cherry
2007-01-16 20:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be a fantasy thing hun. Window shopping isn't necessarily a crime as long as it stays at just that. It's similar to watching porn, which, a lot of people, both male and female encounter.
Just because he is looking, that doesn't mean that he actually is interracting with an intention of hooking up.
As soon as this transcends into interraction though, this is where the line has been crossed and you must act accordingly.
2007-01-16 20:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you want a future with a guy like that. If he's desperate enough to look for a sex partner then it's time to tell him that you found out and think it is disgusting. His behavior will continue to get worse! Time to get rid of him. You can find someone way better. I do think that he's sick. Good luck.
2007-01-16 20:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by falala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's giving you a line. If he is staying with you, it sounds as if he enjoys the security you are giving him. He probably enjoys the fact that he has you in his hip pocket, too. Dump the guy. Tell him to take his smut and hit the road. You don't play that.
I'm not casting judgment on whether or not he is right or wrong, but I DO know you aren't right for him and vice versa.
2007-01-16 20:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him why he feels the need to look elsewhere. He may have a secret erotic fantasy that he wants to act out. Maybe it would be something you would be willing to do if he talked to you about it. See what he has to say.
2007-01-16 20:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a bit of a perv, but maybe it was from his single days. Give him a chance tell him all the gone or you are>>>>>> It all depends how much you like if there is a future or not??
2007-01-16 20:45:35 · answer #7 · answered by ryan_thorne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think YOU should get out..If thats his thing, what makes YOU think its going to change... I think he should seek help.
2007-01-16 20:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by nmbernhardt 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he loves to have good sex.does he masterbate when u're round
2007-01-16 21:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by KATEL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋