I met this guy online,& he's very nice.but I don't know weither to trust a person u have never seen,he says he loves me.but I don't know what to believe.the real big problem is,I'm so very much in love with him,so please help.
2007-01-16 20:35:51 · 18 answers · asked by uni_tesfu2008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's your decision.
But i can tell you my story: I've met someone 5 1/2 years older than me in the Internet, we have been talking only through e-mails for almost a month and we both felt as we found our other half! We matched immediately! Then, we arranged to meet for a coffee again and again. We are a couple for a year now!! We are very in love and happy and i feel as if he is the one for me!
Of course that doesn't mean than you can trust everyone you talk with! Take care and good luck!!
2007-01-16 20:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The odds are against you but it's not to say he is not trustworthy. Know what you are getting into and don't make any stupid decisions such as lending/giving him money or anything along those lines. Honestly, I would recommend creating a fake ID to communicate with him at the site you met him at or a site he frequents. Be convincing and see what infomation you can pull from him. I know this seems immoral but when you've met someone online, I really think this sort of test is essential because most people do not pass it. If anything seems suspicious about him, please do not ignore it!!!! Make sure he is willing to share his address, work info, home phone and cell (if he says he loves you then thats no big deal right?) If you have the money to do so, I would invest in a background check or perhaps he would be willing to have one done.
I will include some links to some site you may want to look through. These sites are databases of known online dating scammers. It's always worth a check.
I hope the best for you!! Good luck sweetie.
2007-01-17 04:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by Magz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so let me guess, you're like 15 or so and he says he's 17, something like that, right? Well, maybe he is and maybe he isn't. Maybe he's some 40-year old pervert who likes young girls and has emails going with, like, 20 girls at once, asking for pics and playing like he's your bf. He might be real, but you don't know. Even if he sends pics, they could be of someone else. He seems awfully quick to fall in love, don't you think?
So, sometimes you can trust people, and sometimes not. See if you can talk to him on the phone, to see if he sounds real. Is there any way to check out what he says? Does he always want to talk about sex? Does he want nude pics? Use your brains, hon!
If you meet him, do it only in a public place, and do it when your friends know where you'll be and tell them you'll call them and check in, so they know you're safe. If you go to meet him and an old guy comes up and says he's his father, and he couldn't come, but the old guy will take you to meet him, then THAT's the guy you've been talking to, and there is no young man. That is a favorite trick of pervs.
2007-01-17 04:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say love in this situation, if you have never seen him (seeing him does not include pictures he has sent to you) then it can't truly be love. It is okay to trust this guy, as long as it doesn't get out of hand (i.e. giving very personal information and addresses n stuff).
You should organise a get together with this guy if possible and go to a very public place and dont leave with him, or bring some friends. And make sure to tell people where you are and how long you expect to be.
The internet is a sexual predators favourite tool, so trust him, but don't let yourself trust him too much. And remember this "no matter how much you think he isn't a sexual predator, don't let yourself be prooven wrong"
2007-01-17 04:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by mrimtoocoolforyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot truly know a person unless you spend time with them in person. An acception might be if you spent a lot of time on the phone. Over the internet, there is no way to tell exactly what he is thinking. He could be lying to you about anything and everything. You cannot see his body language. You cannot hear his tone. It is very easy for a person to hide things about themselves when they only use the computer. He could be married, he could be 16 or 60. Until you spend time with him in another way, there is no way you should trust him and you should really back off of thinking that you are in love with him.
2007-01-17 04:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by bashnick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I met my girlfriend online and fell in love with her. I flew half way across the country to meet her. Was I taking a chance? Yeah. Was it worth it? Absolutely.
For guys it's not as scary, but for the girl you have to be more careful. If you meet him, meet him at a public place like a restaurant(for me it was an airport) and don't go alone. If you have a brother or a few close friends (at least one male) to accompany you. Once you have met him you can set up an actual one on one date.
...Playing it safe is not playing...
2007-01-17 04:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're in love...especially if you've never met him in person.
I, myself do not agree with online dating as i think its pretty fake...but yes i have done it before. I wouldn't trust someone i've never met, because truth is, if he's meeting you on the internet and telling you that he loves you over the internet...how many other girls is he meeting on the internet and telling them that he loves them?
Also, who's to say that he's the person he says he is?
2007-01-17 04:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by Yellow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be dangerous so be careful. I've known people all my life and i still don't trust them. The person online could be lying about age, weight, features, until you meet them and find out what they're really like.
2007-01-17 04:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can anyone love someone sight unseen? those are just words you guys tossed around on the internet so be very very cautious and concerned. you really know nothing about this guy other than what he fed you over the "net" and that isn't enough. it isn't like you see someone or hear about someone form someone else...it is just his sales pitch to you. just like a car salesman...you gonna fall for it?????
2007-01-17 04:42:02 · answer #9 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO & NO
I have a friend who loves a guy online too, they are happy together for 2 yrs but last Xmas, when he invited her to his house, she found out many things about him, he is a such liar, he lies to her about almost everything, even his age!!! Can you believe that? 2yrs!!!!
SO Don't ever trust anybody ONLINE!
2007-01-17 05:04:38 · answer #10 · answered by Cherry blossom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋