I was talking to this guy for two years. I was there when he needed help and all the bad times. We were the best of everything. Then one day he decides to leave me and get back with his ex. He no longer calls, or anything! Now that he is doing good in his life, he is telling people, that it never was nothing between us, and that is a lie! This hurts me so bad!! he no longers wants to be frineds ot to see me anymore. I have no clue wha happen, he just left. i'm so sad. please help me. He promised me that he would see me, and call me, but he never did.
2007-01-16 20:20:05 · 16 answers · asked by LovelyMe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was a jerk. People who forget true friends in good times are really jerks. I know it is difficult dear, but you have to forget him. You see I argue like this: even if he comes back to you now, he is useless. You know he is not the one you can trust and give your all important life to this jerk. Think like this: It is good that he is gone.
I knwo you are feeling really low. Don't think too much of it. A couple of months back I was feeling as if there is no life ahead and I was so heart broken that nothing looked interesting. Then I found someone who just erased every bad memories. I don't even bother what happened with me then. So these feelings are temporary. It is a test of your character that you allow these feelings to pass. You will be okay, take my words. Go to your family friends, share this with them, laugh on it if you can, go out for shopping, force yourself to have fun.
2007-01-16 20:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by Infinite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon , just be glad that it was good as long as it lasted .
Above all , you are lucky that this guy went back to his ex , and not just stayed with you for the sake of not being lonely , or worse still , was with you and was secretly seeing his ex ?
it looks like he never ended the relationship with his ex , and you were his pillar that he leaned on convinently leaned on , the sad part being that YOU have ended up getting hurt . Dont try to find out what went wrong - just try to realise that NOTHING WAS RIGHT between you 2 . Should you doubt this , Hon ther is nothing to doubt about , this guy did not suddenly go back to his ex , he was obviously patching things up whilst he was still with you- he was obviously seeing and meeting his ex for a while - perhaps all along the time he was with you , and you must realise this .You probably did not see it . YES , YOUR HEART HURTS and I'm sure you must hurt bad , but hon , good thing you are not his ex , cause little does she know the promises he made to you which he is now denying ?
THINK ABOUT IT , WHAT GOOD WOULD IT DO FOR YOU TO EVEN LOOK AT SOMEONE LIKE THIS GUY ?
IS IT WORTH YOUR PAIN ,HURT AND TEARS /
MAKE THAT U - TURN HON , YOU DESERVE SOMEONE AS GOOD AS YOURSELF , NOT SOMEONE WITH SUCH A HORRIBLE HEART AND MIND .
SOMEONE LIKE THAT IS NOT WORTH HURTING YOURSELF OVER .
I know , its easy for me to say this , whilst you are the one who is hurting , BUT THANK GOD that a person like that did not mess your life more than He already has .
Try to keep your mind busy , dont sit and indulge in his thoughts and soon you will find consolation within your heart .
I hope you have some understanding friends that can help you go through this ,
Do take care of yourself - be strong and brave
2007-01-16 20:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, can i say im sry for what happened to ya...unfortunately things like this happen..and personally intuition just tells me that everything you just said there...you can multiply it by infiniti and take it to the depths of forever and even then still have barely a glimpse of what you're going through...there's lots here...how do u trust anyone again? i mean like u said he's making promises and you probably confided lots in him, and whether he did or not is hard to tell...this is also one of the worst forms of using someone...and u're not a reserve of help a person can just get when they have problems...u're a person and not a reserve..and he's just an ***...when someone tells lies to other people, they have problems that go worse beyond you or what you guys had...and honestly, he will regret this...but what goes around will come around and don't u worry he's got it coming to him...people like this always do
2007-01-16 20:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is for you to accept it; you cannot let HIM change you.. You seem to be a careing person and should not let him change you. Look at it this way ; What would have happened if you were pregnant or in a situation like that and this happened ? I suggest that you move on with your life and you will be a better person for it! GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-16 20:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by nmbernhardt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a jerk and what he did is really mean...I think you should move on and forget about him...he is not a nice guy if he did that...i dont think you would still wanna be friends with him anyways even if you are gonna hear something about him..Good luck...and dont let somebody put you down...just move on and enjoy your life
2007-01-16 20:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by my angel is 2 1/2 now:) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's such a chicken ****.. Sorry for the word, but girl, don't let someone like him ruin your good composure and attitude in life, maybe he just saw you as shock absorber for he still loved his gf so much, life goes on.. moved... there's waht they called, KARMA, what comes around, goes around.. You will find your match, somepne whom can give you, return your loved as much as you give to that damn coward!! Peace girl..
2007-01-16 20:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is ignore him and leave everything to time. if he gets back to you he really loves you n if he's not then leave him. dont encourage him by calling and dont show all your weakness, just be your self,Ignore him completely. you will surely deserve a nice n better guy belive me.
And at last one thing live life independently dont be depended on others. we come single in this world n we go single in this world...........................
2007-01-16 20:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you guys actually together, or were you just friends? Anyways, unfortunately it seems as though he's determined to cut you out of his life and if he chooses to treat a friend of his that way, you are obviously better of without him.
2007-01-16 21:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but PLEASE skip the drama and get on with your life. Word for word your letter is full of pain---why??? He got a new girl--that's life. He said he'd see you ---forget it...move on. He didn't break your heart--you are breaking your heart...stop with the pity routine and get going with someone new.Life is not easy--no promises, no guarantees--but it still goes on. No pity from me---just get moving and toughenup.
2007-01-16 20:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please forget the guy. This case is hopeless. Try to involve yourself with friends, go out and be active. Believe me, in time you will wonder what the big deal was about! Don't beat yourself up over this one.
2007-01-16 20:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋