I really loved this guy, we had this ups and down, though no one admitted were in a relationship, but the truth is, we already shared things only a husband and wife should, sooo many times.. Though we both know he's engaged to be married.. What can I do, I really felt it the way he touch and kisses me, he loved me too.. that I had a chance of ending up with him for a lifetime than that girl who's 2 years his senior.. Who cheated on him by telling she's pregnant when she's not? Pls.. tell me..
2007-01-16 20:15:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry to say this, but there is nothing you can do. If he loved you the way you wanted him to, he would not be marrying this girl. If you take an honest look at the situation, you will admit it's true. There is no reason that he HAS to marry her. If you were in love with a guy that was available, why would YOU marry another guy? I am guessing that he knows she isn't pregnant if you know it, so the shotgun scene is not a valid one. I know it hurts. I know that you can think of good reasons that he shouldn't marry her. The point is, HE doesn't find those reasons so important. If he loved you the way you love him, he would find any reason NOT to marry her. Wouldn't you? You need to pick up the pieces and get over him. It won't be easy, but you WILL survive this. If you try to stop him, I'm afraid you will humiliate yourself, hurt yourself, and regret it. Please, for your own sake, walk away with your dignity intact.
2007-01-16 20:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him how you feel. You need to let him know that you love him and that he is making the wrong decision by wanting to marry that other woman. Marridge is a conscious choice. No one forces anyone to marry someone. If he chooses to marry her it means that he wants to. Some people marry out of obligation. maybe he feels that it is the honorable thing to do since she's is "pregnant" by him. He might be an honorable man wanting to do the right thing. Tell him to at least wait until the child is born in order to get a paternity test before he commits to anything. I also wonder if he feels the same about you. Why would he marry that other woman and not you. Did he ever tell you that he loved you? You felt it by the way he touches you and kisses you but did he ever pronounce the word "love"? And how can he be with this other girl and you at the same time? How trustworthy is he? Don't you think he is a bit deceitful? He might be a little confused right now because of the pregnancy situation. Tell him that marrying out of obligation is the wrong thing to do and that love should be the primary reason to marry. That if he loves her and not you,he should go for it. But if in his heart there is a little doubt that he might want you instead of her, he should call it of. As he would be miserable for the rest of his life and regret his decision. You love him and want to be with him. Good luck.
2007-01-16 20:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by lovelyeyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I would have to advise you not to interfere. Why did the relationship between you two fail? You might lose the risk of being a friend if you try to wreck his marriage. As for their personal problems, don't get involved. It'll only make you feel worst and drive you crazy. The only thing you have to hold on to is if it's meant to be that he chooses you over his pending wedding, then it will happen. Don't force the issue. You may ruin destiny and turn it into fate.
2007-01-16 20:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Untill the pronouncement is made... he's fair game.
Maybe not the best morals on display, but, hey.
Remember though, having is not necessarily as good a thing after all, as wanting.
2007-01-16 20:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by bakfanlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you sure it was love, or just lust. He may have touched and kissed you with lust, and you thought it was more. Before you ruin his marriage, have a serious heart-to-heart talk with him. Find out if there are still any feelings there. If there are, then it's ultimately up to HIM to stay with her despite the feelings, or to get back together with you. Don't fight it too much...just figure it out.
2007-01-16 20:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by julka323 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him alone, it seems as if he already made his mind up. Fighting over him will make you look bad. If he didn't admit he was in a relationship he was probably using you.
2007-01-16 20:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love him tell him. Be true to yourself. Yes you may hurt this other girl but if she is as scandalas as to cheat on him adn then tell him she is preg she aint for him anyways. He might just be waiting for you to tell him how you feel. Go for it girl
2007-01-16 20:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by Krystal W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he will assure me that im the girl he wanted to stay with him for the rest of his life... he must show me some proof...fight for me first before i do somethin like that... its a mess and both should clean up...
2007-01-16 20:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by eloi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is marrying another girl, it means he does not care for you.
2007-01-16 20:20:52 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't! I suggest you leave him alone. He chose to marry the othe r girl and it's his decision. I'm sure you can find another man.
2007-01-16 20:19:28 · answer #10 · answered by Friv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋