My fiancé and i have been engaged for a little bit longer than a yr.
He asked me one night at a friends 21st birthday bash and i said yes, but whenever i talk about saving for our wedding he changes the subject. We have been together almost 3 yrs and i am afraid that if we don't start saving now then we might only be able to get married in 5 yrs time and i dont want to make him feel as though i am rushing things either. I would just like to be able to call him my husband instead of finacé for the next three yrs!!! I know he loves me but what must i do????
2007-01-16 20:08:07 · 11 answers · asked by Roxxy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds to me like he wants you there but without committing to marriage. It seems like a stall and he ain't budging. Light a fire under his bunns and get him moving....you might want to find out why he is dragging his feet.
2007-01-16 20:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend is getting a case of "cold feet". Three years is way too long to wait to discuss wedding plans. I don't know what his financial situation is, or your's, but there are cheaper ways to get married. Why should you have a huge service? You could get married through a judge or Justice of the Peace, then have a reception for your family and friends. I don't think you are rushing anything, honestly. He may be only assured that he does have you and that's the most important thing to him as of now, but I think it's time to get hitched!
2007-01-16 20:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Roxxy, u really need to sit ur guy down and ask him where u people are heading towards becus this's the time u need to save for it and if he changes the topic each time u talk abt it then sis becareful b'cos men are dangerous but i pray ur guy wouldnt do that. Good luck
2007-01-16 20:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by nanevaluv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's changed his mind about marriage. Some guys, not necessarily him though, figure they "own" a girl once they pop the question.
2007-01-16 20:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it, without saying "you don't save, you do this and you do that" just lay it out for him a team work and make it clear that if you don't save you'll never have the life you want together.
i think if you take sometime to think about it logically without the influence of any emotions you'll know exactly what to tell him because you know him best.
best luck to both of you :)
2007-01-16 20:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by fate_n83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Roxxy,
Don't be scared. I'm sure he loves you and i'm assured it will happen.
Find a time or times when he is in a good mood and not under any undue stress to lovingly tell him you expectations.
If he loves you enough as i believe he does, he will LISTEN to you and ACT on it positively.
Good luck!...
2007-01-18 01:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Femi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men don't like to be pressured into doing things, and if you mention the word "wedding" too many times, he'll think that you are trying to pressure him into holding a wedding. perhaps he has some plans, do try to talk it out to him nicely and at a suitable time
2007-01-16 20:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by pee_bag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's chickening out - you may need to talk to him, ask him whether or not he wants to marry you.
2007-01-16 21:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by ForeverAnAngel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he sounds like want to have a wife service at fiancee price.
2007-01-16 20:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is:
"You both REALLY have to make it work RIGHT"
Love Amie A
2007-01-16 20:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋