I once made the remark that if my husband tried to make me get rid of my dogs, I'd really miss him.
Needless to say, I got into deep trouble with my in-laws for a very long time. But...someone who really loves you would never ask you to give up something you love so much.
What do you think?
2007-01-16 20:03:20 · 29 answers · asked by renodogmom 5 in Pets ➔ Dogs
Yeah, I'd miss him for a little while. but prolly not as much as I'd miss my dogs. ;-)
Whoa! do your in-laws regularly interfere in your married life? None of their business.
2007-01-18 15:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by rualass 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spot on- if he loves you then he loves you in your world as is and not as you might be in his world of expectations. If you world includes dogs then he has to accept they are part of your life and in fact they are often just as loved as any family member. I dont know your background but some cultures expect submissive wives and to defy the husband let alone walk out of the relationship would be seen as a sin or whatever.,. if that is not the case then the in laws need to get a life. Yes they love your husband he psychologically would come first to them no matter what and they may obviously feel offended that someone would choose a dog over him so I king understand their hurt feelings but they should also understand yours. In all sincerity, do they really think that he is a cold hearted B**** that would put you in that position, if not then whya cant they have a laugh at an off the cuff remark.
2007-01-16 20:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by magpiez 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually dated a guy who hated dogs once and wanted me to get rid of her, needless to say 2 years later the dog has passed away due to natural causes and the guy is no longer with me, instead I have a great boyfriend of 2 years with a Boxer and a family who understands the emotional attatchment to a dog.
My dog who passed away was my Baby, the guy was a jerk. She was through thick and thin and was always there to comfort me. Honestly if a guy wants to be with me he has to accept me for who I am and all of my "luggage" including my dog. If he cannot accept that then he needs to go not my dog.
My current dog is adopted from a shelter and when I signed that application I promised that I would love and take care of her until the day she passes away and no one will come between us. That's my word, and my word is important to me. My dog does not need to go back into a shelter.
I had to board her for her oral surgery and when I got her back less than 24 hours later she was freaked out. I know that I can never "throw her" away. She's here to stay.
2007-01-17 00:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I told my husband when we started dating that I would live in a car before I'd get rid of my dogs. This means not only are my dogs part of the package but that I would sacrifice what I had to take care of them. He knew from the beginning as someone already said, "Love me, love my dogs." He had a Boston terrier. I had a dachshund and a lab mix. He agreed. He'd never get rid of his either! We've been together ten years, married for seven.
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2016-05-15 02:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your inlaws need to lighten up!
My animals were always an issue with my ex. I have been divorced for 10 years now and have all the animals I want. Nope, don't miss him at all! My dogs are better company than any man, anyhow.
I did date someone briefly a few years ago, and he said "I think you care more about those animals than me". I said "yeah, and they'll be around long after you are gone". LOL!! End of THAT!
2007-01-17 03:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by whpptwmn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone enough, you love them with all their quirks and foibles. though you might not necessarily share them.
When my husband asked me to marry him, I made it clear that he was taking me, my son and my golden Lab. We came as a package deal, no ifs ands or buts! Fortunately, he is a sweetie, and it was no problem at all.
Over the years, he has patiently put up with me bringing home abused and abandoned dogs, he has cleaned up after them, repaired things they have chewed, and taken in 2 dogs with 6 puppies for me, while I was away. He mixed up puppy chow every 3 hours, cleaned up puppy poop endlessly, and washed and cleaned the whole room every day.
Then I decided to do Great Dane rescue, and he has endured 4 galloping behemoths tearing through the house for the last few months, people appearing at the door with a dog they want to "get rid of", and never a seat available for him on the couch. Not to mention the endless phone calls, lugging home dogfood, vet bills and all the rest!
That is definitely love!
2007-01-17 01:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get my vote on this one. You are soooooo right. The other person doesn't respect you if they make you choose between them and your pets. I told my husband the same thing when he threatened to throw a cat out for not making it to the litterbox in time. He has no reason to complain, his mother never taught him to clean up after himself. She did everything for him until I married him, made bed, washed clothes, his dirty dishes, cleaned his room, on and on. What was I thinking. I'm not his momma that's for sure. And he won't clean up the mess, he yells for me, so why should he complain about an uh-oh from the cat. All but 4 of my 14 cats are seniors. I simply told him BYE and walked away. All my pets are my children too and I'd be d***ed if I get rid of any of my children. Many years ago he gave away one of my kittens and I didn't speak to him for a week. He never asked if I minded or anything, just a friends car pulled he grabbed one of the kittens and the guy left, She'd only given birth to a few kittens and we had room for them all.
2007-01-16 20:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by wolfinator25840 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is a provide and take. If I felt that my canines (or cats) were getting interior the way of a robust relationship, i might want to locate them a clean living house. although that is a decision that ought to be made in each man or woman situation. My husband and that i make joint judgements on our puppy situation, and both one individuals have a voice in what number animals to have, and the thanks to seem after them. And convinced, I requested him to locate his canines a house being that he wasn't in a position/keen to seem after the animal - and neither became I. I felt it became a nasty situation with both one individuals operating all day, and the canines being stuck interior the lower back backyard for 12 hours on a on a daily basis foundation, then stuck interior for yet another 12 hours. he's a lot happier now with yet another couple and different canines to play with, it became a robust determination.
2016-10-15 08:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why sure, I'd miss my husband. Then again, as of now I'm afraid of any kind of relationship, and depending on how the next few years go I may not make it to my next boyfriend, let alone husband. But I'd deffinantly chose my babie(s) over my hubby.
2007-01-16 20:42:46 · answer #10 · answered by mandy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋