How do I stop being angry and hating all the time?

Answer 1

I suggest going to church and submit to God all the things that are bothering you. Seriously.

Answer 2

Hateful and angry at things in life is normal if you have a bad childhood.

I hate life and angry at everything and everyone in life because I had a bad childhood. I manage to overcome all the hatred and anger slowly through time (more than 5 years). You can do so as well.

- Chanting (Buddhism)
- Meditation (Buddhism)
- Read the book "Working with anger" by Thubten Chodron

You mood is like your spectacles. When you let go of the anger and hatred, life is alot lighter and better.

Answer 3

yes i agree with jmk that the only way to stop hating is to learn to love yourself.if you are able to see the good in yourself,you will be able to think positively and can learn how to love others too.
People with too much negative thoughts or emotions such as hatred,angriness or depression have higher risks of heart diseases and more free radicals are produced which can cause cancer and other diseases.So cheer up!
Some scientists even say that you may cheer yourself up by faking it.Just look into the mirror and SQUEEZE OUT A SMILE.Your brain may be fooled and think you are actually happy.And maybe if the smile is ugly,you might laugh your head off.

Answer 4

You must find first of all WHY you are so angry. This will take some time with a problems counselor helping you. Anger and hatred can have such a negative effect on your physical and emotional health as well as on your mental state of mind. Once you find the cause of your negativism, you can learn acceptable ways to deal with the root cause(s) and thereby become less and less upset. Please get help from your local mental health facility so that you can learn positive attitudes and be able to enjoy life.

Answer 5

I wrote thid for one of my grandchildren that was having some problems. I will share it with you and I hope it will help you.

The saying goes: Take time to smell the roses. I don’t know what is said about thinking, but I feel it is just as important to take some peaceful time (just for your self) to quietly relax and take time to THINK.

We seem to find the time to think about a problem or when something is not quite right, and rightly so. That is how we work out the problem, but we need to remember to look into our souls and find the good and remember to be fair with ourselves and those we are concerned about.

THINK! From this day on . . . I will go forward! There are the GOOD, BAD and the UGLY. Kick the bad and the ugly aside and go for the good. It won’t help to dwell on the bad and ugly. Look at it as though you lived and learned, and then get on with life.

THINK! Reflect, ponder and recall good memories. Remember, even with the bad and ugly, there were good memories. I repeat, Reflect, ponder, and recall the good memories. Think of the pleasant desirable qualities that we need to improve upon each and every day. Be kind and concerned for yourself and others.

THINK! Organize your life by using constructive planning and increasing your well being. Do what you have to do and do it to your best ability. You will soon find yourself kicking aside less and less of the bad and ugly, and be amazed by all the good memories to enjoy dwelling upon as you set aside some special time to THINK.

Know who you are, be true to yourself and by all means FORGIVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS. Conduct yourself in a manner that can build good memories. You will thankfully wake up each morning and truly be able to say “I Love Life.”

Answer 6

I agree that therapy may help, but on a more day-to-day level, you will still deal with anger until your mind is no longer addicted to feeling angry. You have to hate the feeling that being angry gives you - more than you want to feel justified, more that you want revenge, more than you want to punish, more than you want to judge, and more than you want to have the rush that anger creates.

And logically, it's not so hard to get to that point. Next time you get angry, take a moment to just stew in it. Don't keep spinning it up by feeding your mind on more and more external reasons that the anger is justified, but rather stop at the full flush of anger and observe. Who's hurting? The person who made you angry? Is it their heart that is racing, their adrenaline levels that are through the roof, their minds steeped in misery? No. It's yours. You are truly the only person who feels the full force of your anger, the one whose body and mind are polluted when you sink into hate.

It took me a long time to learn this. I was one of those people who always felt justified in being righteously angry over some wrong that was committed. Until one day, someone did something so wrong, I couldn't stop thinking about it. It changed my whole life. I was consumed with anger and fear and hatred day and night. The hatred grew into mistrust, and after a while it spread through my life like a cancer, causing me to hate anything and everything around me that reminded me of my situation. Was I more than justified? You bet. Did it do me any good? Not a bit.

I got to the point where I realized that the hate and fear and anger were toxic, and my body just wouldn't stand them anymore. The brief glimmers of relief were so welcome that I couldn't go back. No matter how awfully this person had treated me, how horribly he had tried to destroy my life, I just couldn't haul that anger around any more. It wasn't worth it.

Now I still deal with the fear, but all of my anger expressions are different. I may flare up about little things, but my anger passes quickly. I'm still working on the second phase. Those patterns are hard to break, but it's worth doing, even if it takes decades.

In the end, you still have to hold fast to what you know is right, and to actually follow through in the best course of action. Delving into another's situation with empathy will keep you from harsh judgement, and kindness will go a long way towards getting people to see your side. But there's no two ways about it, anger and hate are just unnecessary baggage.

Good luck to you ~*~

Answer 7

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Answer 8

First You need to think for a second what it is about, why it affeced to you and how it is happend, especially you try to controll your feeling and tell it that calm down please, calm down please. And if possible you should leave the situation made you angry with just for a while, after that try to forget it or find good answer to what made you feel bad mood. Make sure you need to band yourselt you are not angry or hate it. What you need is reasonable and negotiation way.

Answer 9

The only way to truly stop hating is to start liking/loving yourself.

Answer 10

you should be nice to other people. Feel sympathy for other people when they do something bad to you. You may also want to control your temperant