ok my mom has this girlfriend that has been around for years. i hate her she is a stuck up *****. i finally got her to the point where she moved out. my mom always complaines about her and my mother also started drinking heaveliy because of it. now my mom is letting this woman stay over more often and now she is gonna move back in . i'm 18 and i have a job. but i'm afraid if i move out this woman is gonna just leave again an stick my mom with the bills. please tell me what should i do.
2007-01-16 19:15:46 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your a good son to be thinking about this. Its hard living on your own. If you feel like you can do it then go ahead. If it comes to the point that she leaves your mother you can always come back or help your mother with her bills.
2007-01-16 19:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by Ruth B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You unfortunately cannot make decisions for your mother. She is a grown woman and is responsible for the decisions she makes in her life. If I were you, I would talk to my mother and let her know that I was very concerned about this woman moving in. After you voice your opinion, she is on her own to make whatever decisions she chooses just like you will have to do someday as well. There will come a time when your mother may voice her opinion about something that you are about to do; however in the end the decision will be up to you because you are an adult now. Good luck, and make sure you are there to support her in whatever happens, that is all you can do.
2007-01-16 19:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say it but ur mom is a grown women she can handle what ever comes along i was in the same situation n my mom lost her house ,cars n every thing she had worked so hard 4 all her life 4 a guy that just wanted her money i even cought the guy with another lady n told my mom n she just went on like what ever so she lost every thing n even though it was hard to see her go down the drain i just let her know that my door would always be open if she need help n so after 3yrs n losein every thing she finally ask 4 help but i told her how the guy was n someetimes even though u love her u have to just step aside n let her make the mistake n be there 4 her after wards k good luck n take care
2007-01-16 19:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by The Boss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your mom has some sort of issue to continue with this relationship. And drinking is her problem, not yours. No one is pouring it down her throat. Why your mom can't get past all this is a mystery. Why would she remain in contact if she has complaints??? Better find a sober, quiet time to discuss this and if she won't--you tried and there isn't much more you can do. Some people just wallow in their own mud. Good luck
2007-01-16 19:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move and take your mum with you. Neither of you need someone who sounds that pushy around. Don't let people know where you're moving unless you trust them to not give out the information to the horrible lady. If your mum doesn't want to move, you may have to help her be emotionally strong in saying no to every request to get this woman out of your lives.
2007-01-16 19:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by adnilebbeautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're 18 and it sounds like you share the bills, tell you mom that you don't trust this girl living with her and if she moves in, you move out. if all else fails, when this girl moves in,you can move out, but always accept your mom into your home if anything bad does happen.
2007-01-16 19:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mamma M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom can deal with her own life. You may not like it but hopefully she will see whats right and make the correct choice. I would recommend that you move out if you are able to and try to keep in touch with your mother and make sure she is alright.
2007-01-16 19:18:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is a grown up. I know that you love her but you are not responsible for fixing your mom's life.
If it doesn't work out between your mom and her girlfriend then that is her issue to deal with and not yours.
Live your life and be there for your mom if she asks you to but don't spend so much of your time being worried about what might happen.
You are young, enjoy your life! That is what you are supposed to be doing!
2007-01-16 19:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your mother, sit her down (when she's sober) and talk to her heart to heart. Show her how much you care for her and let her know that you are very concerned. Make sure she understands the severity of what you think this other woman is going to do!
2007-01-16 19:19:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think u should talk to your mom and say to her what u feel about this person. If this doesn't work u should move out and if your mom needs money u should give them to her. then she'll realize u were right about this and she'll talk to that person...its better like this...u should always talk to your mom because she'll understand u! good luck!
2007-01-16 19:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by game_player82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋