If you break-up with someone and months later get back together,do you owe it to them to tell them about...?

Question

everyone you've been with if you're "clean" if you've been with someone they know?

I want to point out that it was only 1 person on my part and that it's someone I consider a friend and someone he doesn't really get along with.

Answer 1

NO. It does them no good to know, all it does is make you feel better that you've 'been honest'.

You were apart. You're together now. Concentrate on that, don't ask questions you don't want answers to, and don't bring up things that'll hurt them.

Answer 2

Absoloutley not. When you get back together you start a fresh page and make it a habit to be open with them from then on. When you break up it is a way of saying that you have no hold or say over each other anymore. Rehashing old stuff will just make things difficult coz you'll start the relationship on a heavy note. So if it was me, unless you slept with my best friend or sisiter, i would NOT want to know. Good luck.

Answer 3

It' s not a question of "owing" anything but you must be honest to each other. A relationship is based on honesty, sincerity and trust mainly, among others. Be honest and tell her what happened during your separation and she too will do the same thing and try to sort out the differences. As such it' ll be a clean relationship without any fear. It'll be worst if you come to know something or she comes to know from a third person.

Answer 4

Why would you want to hurt someone like that? Confessions like this are usually the result of the guilty party trying to resolve the guilt within themselves. They think that by owning up to what they've done, the guilt will somehow go away. It never works. All you will do is hurt the person you love and give them a reason not to trust you. Let the past stay in the past.

Answer 5

You don't have to tell them about everyone, unless they ask. However, it would be the mature thing to do. Also, I would definitely tell them about the person they know. If you don't tell them, they may find out from someone else and not take it as well. Better safe than sorry. If they can't handle it, then maybe you shouldn't be with them.

Answer 6

I don't think you owe it to them...

You are back together because he also wanted to be together...Why should you tell him about your past?

If he asks whether you are clean and wants to know everything about who you been with, then he doesn't trust you enough. He is not a keeper.

If he likes you back, and trusts you, then he would not ask anything...

Answer 7

If you have had safe sex and have had test done to make sure that you have no STD's then I would not go there. it might just put a strain on the relationship. You weren't together so you weren't cheating.
Do you expect him to tell you if/whom he was with while you were apart.
If it is understood that you were both with other people while you were not together then you should both get tested... maybe you can go together.

Answer 8

The only advice I can give you is, it's not good to keep secrets in a relationship. She should understand that the two of you weren't together and that you wouldn't do that to her while dating steady. Secrets find their way out.

Answer 9

Wow, I would rather not speak on that if I was you, especially if you want to continue w/ the relationship. that could get ugly if this is someone they know really well.

Answer 10

You don't have to, but do you really want the relationship to start with you being kinda dishonest and hiding something from them?