my bf and this girl were hanging out one night, shes underage btw, and she got drunk for the first time..HE claims that she came on to him and that SHE kissed him first and then she did other things to him...they never had sex...and the grl and him had actually stopped themselves from having sex bc she knew that he was with me and i guess the guilt in him kicked in. He told me that he had told her that he couldn't do anything with her because he loved me and had made a mistake by letting things get as far as they did...i believe him because i made him jump through hoops to prove to me that he loves me..and i still love him and i think people deserve second chances...its been nearly 3 months since then but lately our relationship has been going down hill...
I'm always wondering if hes still faithful to me...should i have taken him back? or is it true when they say once a cheater always a cheater?
2007-01-16 18:40:05 · 12 answers · asked by ivy019 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Clearly you making him jump through hoops did not let you trust him again. Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. Only you can decide wether you can trust him again or not and if you think honestly in your heart that you will never 100% trust him again you need to walk away. As Dr Phil says, a good indicator of future behaviour is past behaviour.
2007-01-16 18:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as you want to trust your bf, you never will be able to again. if he loved you so much he wouldn't have let the girl do things to him in the first place. but mabe he realized is mastake and now feels very guilty, but he is gane think that if he cheats on another girl he wil just be given a second chance. personaly i think you did the wrong thing by taking him back. i think you need to tell him how you truelly feel about the cheating thing and break up with him, coz is just gane get harder. no its not true the whole once a cheater always a cheater. but he has to lear his lesson first and right now your the only one who can teach him that lesson.
good luck babe.
2007-01-16 18:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by ladybaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe once a cheater always a cheater but I do believe the cheater has to have experienced something traumatic to see the error of his/her ways. If you don't trust him which is normal since he almost caved in to temptation the relationship isn't going to work.
2007-01-16 18:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question: where did he cheat? He stopped himself from going forward with the temptation. And you are unwilling to forgive after he already proved that he was honorable?
Dump him. He deserves better than you.
2007-01-16 18:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u right once cheater is always just cheater,but if u felt that he's worted to u why don't u ask him back.
2007-01-16 19:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by ♣ Jeany ♠ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless u have specific evidence that he is cheating than dump him but if not then stay with him unless u want to try begin advertisement (E-Harmony.com )end advertisement
2007-01-16 18:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away! Trust me, there are so many more men out there who don't cheat!
2007-01-16 18:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by pinkness775 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first time you let us get away with it the more we do it think about that..
2007-01-16 18:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by Johnny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup u did right
2007-01-16 18:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just leave him....find a guy that makes you his world.
2007-01-16 18:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by jason r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋